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Can anyone help me with a price for sale. All Thai agents want to know how much I want. I haven't a clue.

Details: Mitsubishi Triton 2.5 VG turbo auto. Color white. 26,000 km, 2011 'March so two years old,. Immaculate.

How much do I ask for this?. I think it cost about 820 k.

Can you suggest an idea so I'm not getting ripped off? This is not an advert. Just want some ideas please.

And here are the rules from the government website confirmed:-

Changes to marriage/civil partnership requirements

From 9 May, any migrant subject to immigration control wishing to give notice to marry or register a civil partnership in the UK will no longer need:

a certificate of approval or,

an entry clearance for the purpose of marriage or registering a civil partnership or,

settled status in the UK.

Requirements which are unchanged

Migrants who are subject to immigration control will still need to:

give notice to marry or register a civil partnership in a designated register office. Migrants who wish to give notice at a non-designated register office will need to provide evidence that they are not subject to immigration control.

meet other existing requirements for giving notice e.g. evidence of nationality, name and surname and date of birth and that they are free to marry. Contact the registration service for more details about these requirements.

RabC

I will

Also a quote from the Registrar Office that is very interesting:-

'On 9th May 2011, there was a remedial order made to the Asylum &

Immigration Act 2004 , which removed the need for foreign nationals to

present a visa for marriage or civil partnership at the time of giving

notice to the register office.'

RabC

Yes same sex civil partnerships. No I haven't had one issued yet.I'm going to get one later in the year, hopefully, so I'll let you know. The type 'O' is for permission to stay in Thailand, multiple entry so good for 12 months + 3 (having to border run every 90 days. It is exactly the same visa that would be issued to a male/female non-thai/ thai with marriage certificate.

I didn't mean this was a stupid rule......... Which it isn't.........I meant the fear of doing something non P.C is daunting for them.......Sorry

YES - They all will. If you have a Civil Partnership certificate registered by or in the UK ( so issued in any country that have this agreement)- All consulates in the UK will issue a multi- entry non imm O.

They, however, will be v.v.v. reluctant to (if at all) confirm this by e.mail (I suppose for obvious reasons). They have confirmed it by telephone because I've called them all.

Sometimes some very stupid European rules, causing fear among officials, work for US!!

I am quite proud of myself because the conversation started 'Hello, if I'm married to a Thai national with a certificate registered in the UK do I qualify for a Multi Entry Non 'O'? YES was the reply. 'So if I have a registered Civil Partnership for the U.K then I can do the visa to?.......Let me just check.........'YES, you can, No problem..' Responses from e.mail's = nil

Well.....it's been a hellish three weeks. Today was the colonoscopy. The doctor assured us that there was no cancer, tumor or pre-cancerous ployps in any part of his colon right up to the stomach. So that was a HUGE relief. Complete understatement.

He does have an ulceration (which showed up on the CT scan) and an inflamed mid-gut. So still an infection. Not Khrones because I asked. They took a biopsy and that will be cultured by the path labs. It'll take a week and then we'll know what it is and the best way to treat it. Doctor said he was a little worried it might be T.B (??) I looked it up on line and really it says the most likely way of having this is if you are HIV positive. Which I know he isn't, thankfully. Makes me wonder if these doctors here sometimes give the absolute worst case scenario.

Guess we'll be laughing at our ageing bodies in the mirror for many more years to come and I'm looking forward to it.

I can't thank you all enough for your thoughts, support and heartfelt wishes. This might be cyberspace but I could feel them, really. That's what you call a community!

I hope nobody here ever has to go through this, but if you do, please don't be scared to post here. There really is a family of support. I can't begin to tell you how many caring P/M's I've had from people.

My best wishes to you all.

PS. We did laugh hysterically in the hospital lift after it was all over. They pump your stomach full of air to do a colonoscopy. The OT was on floor 10. A huge lift. Stopped on nearly every floor. He painfully managed to control himself breaking wind while the lift was moving but when it stopped at a floor the carriage jolted and he let rip every time for about 20 secs.About 20 people got in and out before we reached the ground floor.It was like the Benny Hill Show.

Yes we really are a community. When the chips are down we can stand together.

Thank you all again so much for your thoughts.

Yes, the nurses were a lot nicer in the end

I promise to keep you all updated.

Thank you. everyone, for your thoughts and help. You are all right about being positive. We really don't know what the outcome will be and when I'm with him, I am really positive. Just me dumping my dark thoughts on you all. Even if it's bad news, as you all say, the treatments now are incredible and the medical care here in Thailand can be world class. I take all your points and thank you again.

I think my fears spring from being young boy and my father (who I idolised) was taken into hospital with stomach pains. 'He'll be fine' my mother kept telling me. I went to see him everyday. Suddenly I was sent to stay with my grandmother.He died two days later from colon cancer complications. Now that was nearly 40 years ago. I realise that is subconsciously affecting me.

His infection is under control and he can come home today. We have to wait two weeks for his stomach to get strong enough ( really intense cocktail of anti's he's been given which can cause stomach lining weakness according to the Doc)for the colonoscopy/ biopsy.

I promise I will let you all know what happens.

Your support here has made a big difference to me.

I was so scared about posting about this on this forum. I always hoped that a forum like this could be somewhere that people who had real problems could get some heartfelt advice. I have doubted this many times over the years. You have all have proved me so wrong. Thank you so very much for your support. I have some of the best friends you could ever imagine. Sometimes you just can not say what you really want to say with the 'bestest' of friends. Kdude your reply and pm was so nice........I thought about it all the time this morning on my drive to work, and ever since. Frenchtouch..... I promise I'm staying strong and positive. Prothaiexpert...thank god it's just not me. I was wondering if there was ever another happy (sic) ending!!

He's doing OK today. 'What did the Doctor say?' I asked. He said 'Let us all prey that you don't have cancer' Here, here from me. What a strange thing to say. The nurses are so 'A: typical. I worked in the Uk health service years ago. We always said there were two types of nurses. Dedicated..totally and the IDGAF types. (I don't give a......). He's got the IDGAF. It's not a cheap hospital. He told me today the nurse came in and said 'Oh, your saline is nearly finished' . And his saline did finish after 30 minutes. Two hours later the nurse came back. 'Why didn't you press your call bell to tell me your saline had finished ?' <deleted>?

I have to say though that despite all that, the treatment at the hospital and the staff, in general, has been very good.

I helped him shower again today. He hasn't eaten for three days so his stomach is quite flat. He said 'Look at this, ...can you see a difference?' And I could. The right side of his stomach looked really flat, but the left side looked almost swollen. 'Feel it' he said. So I did. There was a lump the size of a small egg. So my silent imagination went wild.'Oh that's the diverticulitus' I said. Not with a lot of conviction.

We did laugh though. There's this poor old man opposite who insists he is Thaksin Shinawatra and demands bed baths at 4 o'clock in the morning. Then complains that he's too cold. Today, he rang his call bell. The nurse came. 'What's the matter Mr Blahblah?' 'I need to speak with his Majesty on the telephone' he said..'Why' said the nurse. 'I have yellow shirt people living under my bed and they come at night to photograph my penis' he said.

Thank you all again.

I really do not know if I'm like other people here. I've lived and worked in Thailand for more than ten years. My partner and I have been together for over eight of those years. Inseperable and for the most...very happy together. A usual / unusual relationship. We haven't done anything unless we have done it together. Friends(the good, the bad, the farang, the Thai) have come and gone but we have always remained in love. Sounds like a ridiculous cliche. But I can't think of any other words. Devoted ? ....No. it is too strong. Just committing in print to the word 'love' makes me feel guilty. Years of growing up in the North East of England during the 70's and 80's. You really had to have your wits about you then. As a practising gay guy, from a very early age, one wrong sign or word would have had you beaten to a pulp at the very least. The word 'love' was a gay word as far as those macho North East men were concerned. I do not care. After all these years if I arrange to meet him, and see him walking towards me ,my heart skips a beat. His smile still melts me.

The beginning. We met in Silom. He was 30 years old and had worked there for 10 years. ( Please read on, I can hear what you are thinking). Friends, acquaintances and every Tom, Dick and Harry warned me against him. Why him? You are only a few years older (9 actually). You could have anyone. But I did not want anyone. I wanted him. In him I could almost feel his soul. A toughened and hard exterior hid a soft and caring heart. Like myself a little - a soulmate. I had nothing to lose that mattered. I had given up already.

The years have just flown by. We live our quiet existence in the centre of Bangkok. Go shopping together. Gossip together. Laugh together. Argue about the silliest things. Drink in the local watering holes. Cry at the same corny movies. Stand in front of the mirror naked and laugh at how old our bodies are looking now. Go on holiday to the beach sitting for hours without talking - just reading books, eating Som Tam, drinking beer, watching TV and talking/ laughing about what we will be both like when we are old. Places we want to visit.

Now I'm alone. He's in hospital. Suspected appendicitis. Only it isn't. The Doctor says he has a very large growth in his colon. Tests are inconclusive because of an a stomach infection. They can not conduct a conclusive test for another 2 weeks until the infection subsides and they can do a colonoscopy and biopsy to give a positive diagnosis. It's on his left side. The more I read on the internet, the more I identify with previous symptoms he has had, the more I get scared.

I just do not know what to do. My heart is literally breaking in two. I am trying to be so positive but I saw the look on the Doctors face. And the nurses and radiologists. He's only 38 years old. All the times I've shouted at him for some stupid, pathetic thing.

I've been to 3 family funerals in rural Issan. I contributed 10k to each. I understand that every member of the family contributed something. Most of the logistics of these funerals are handled through the village fund or local amphur free services. These include the wood for the pyre and the truck to transport the coffin to the local wat ( absolutely nobody will carry a dead body in their own truck due to superstition). The refrigerated coffin (for keeping the body at home or in the wat)is owned by the local wat and is free. So are the marquees, cooking pots, ice boxes, plates, spoons. forks and cups. I believe the cost for each was between 25 - 30k.

These were all typical village rice farmer funerals. The gambling gang will descend immediately. They are not there for any other reason than playing cards and are suffered without complaint. The wake lasts for 3 days and people party day and night. Lao Kaow is the preferred drink along with coke and beer. These are not expensive events. I could, I'm sure, have kept forking out money constantly but I didn't offer any more than my original contribution. I find the best way to attend these events is to keep to the fringes, find a quiet spot,hide a case of beer and sit back and observe. Just as in the rest of the world, funerals here can bring the worst out in people. Seen lots of fights between siblings etc. I just go for a lie down if trouble starts.

I feel the main problem with these relationships is a class difference. Some of us do here what we would rarely do back home. That is have committed relationships with people from different social groups / classes. This difference has very little meaning to people at the start of a relationship because it is hidden by many things. Cultural differences, exciting new experiences, language barriers and Thai hospitality. It is later that some realise that they are in at the deep end with no lifebelt. I still feel very sorry for some of them because I know how easily it can happen.

A western guy, or woman for that matter, living in the west who has been well educated, has a decent sum in the bank and a good secure job or retirement income would hardly ever decide to marry an office cleaner, barmaid or bin man. A few exceptions I'm sure. Most relationships in the west are between people form equal social groups.I admit they don't often work after a while but not usually because of finances. Partners usually don't walk away penniless, heartbroken and wanting to chuck themselves out of a sixth floor window.

I also don't understand why so many people allow their Thai partners to control their money. Dictate what they want (house, car, gold) and then get it.

Thais are often inept at budgeting or planning for the future. Example:- A girl that lives near to me last week was telling me (probably asking but got nowhere) that she needed to borrow Bht 10,000 to pay for an operation for her mother who was rushed to hospital a few days earlier. 'You bought a new Blackberry the other day' - I said - 'How much did that cost?' 'Bht 14,000' - she replied. It still hasn't clicked with her what I was getting at. How can you ever win over that sort of mentality? I know now, as many of us do, experience says you just can't.

He's a Democrat Party MP, I'm told.

He's a Democrat Party MP, I'm told.

According to a report on Thai Channel 7 news just broadcast, the Cambodian Army have arrested a Thai MP visiting the disputed temple site. If this is true ( which it must be) there could be trouble starting very soon.

LOL. No they are not normal, but in a nice way. Gary wets himself if he hears that dragon dance music on the t.v because they came down our street once and the "dragon" put his head over our fence.

She must have been a bloody strong woman, mind. Gary is 27 kilos. Wouldn't fancy dangling him at arms length over a hole to pee!

Gary the Bulldog - A very happy ending.

After much deliberation......It suddenly clicked what was wrong with him.

I have to say I was desperate when I made my original post. I really did not know what to do and was totally devastated that I might have to give him away or even euthanise him.

I have had dogs all my life. From Yorkshire Terriers to Dobermans. I have never, ever had a problem like this with a dog.

Gary is not the alpha dog in the house. He is well trained. Just stubborn and slow to respond, which is the breed. Everything happens eventually but at his speed.

Yes I get irritated with my partner teasing him, but some on this forum assumed he was being cruel to him when this never happened. I worried the teasing was the cause. This wasn't the case.

The symptoms: Perfect during the day, aggressive when it started getting dark. Why?

Gary has always been caged. He has a great big cage and always ran to get inside when you said "bed". A few months ago there was a terrible accident at my neighbours house which is enclosed within the boundaries of my property with a shared drive and gate. My neighbour went into cardiac arrest and Gary had to be abruptly pushed into his cage as my partner had to give CPR. The neighbour, sadly, died. A string of events followed for days and at all hours of the day and night - police arriving, monks, relatives, ceremonies etc etc. Everytime he had to be quickly caged.

Gary started being aggressive about a month and a half ago, always after dark. I employed an animal behaviourist (on-line) who suggested he was testing his alpha prescence and suggested loads of NILF training. Which we did and worked perfectly. Didn't stop him biting me though or being aggresive after about 7pm.

4 nights ago I sat outside with Gary thinking. When did this aggression happen? Then I realised. It was always near, inside or next to his cage and always after dark. Maybe he was bracing himself to be suddenly pushed into his cage like we had had to do previously??

That was it - cage removed - Gary to choose where he sleeps.

In 3 days ( even the first night) he has changed into a different dog. He is loving to the extreme. Relaxed, happy and everything he should be. He has also stopped losing hair. He is just perfect. Sleeps exactly where his cage was but on a nice big cushion and no bars.

Thank you so much for your empathy.

I'm just a really happy guy now, with my lovely dog back to normal.

Sometimes it's difficult bringing up a pet. I nearly gave up. I am so glad I didn't! PIC attached of the "BIG BOY"

Robbie Williams "Feel"

English Bulldog with magnificent pedigree is free to a loving home ONLY. This dog has been very expensive and is really the love of my life.Is he difficult? Yes Bulldogs are. Can you handle him? Only if you have had a dog before. Bulldogs are not for experiments.

He is fantastic in the mornings but grumpy at night. He can understand every command you give him as long as it is firm BUT gentle.

Why am I getting rid of him?

It breaks my heart. He bit me tonight because I tried to control him. My Thai partner teases him during the day. I've told him not to but what is the point. I can't be around all the time. I wish I could.

CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TAKE HIM AND GIVE MY BABY SOME REAL LOVE????

His name is "Gary"

Thanks Please PM me

Yes they will but you have to call your branch to arrange this.

They will only send it to the address on the statement. No problem having an address in Thailand.

They send you your new pin first. Then the card. You need to call them to let them know you have recieved it; then they will activate it.

They will also send a card reader for internet banking to Thailand if you don't have one already.

Oh I see. Thanks for that. Strange way of doing it mind.

You also have to pay 7% VAT on top of your repayments. So it is never as cheap as it looks.

I certainly didn't realise this untill I looked the other day closely at my payemnt slip. B 11995.33 interest plus 7% VAT - B 839.67 = B 12835. That means over 48 months I have to pay just over B 40k in VAT on top of interest.

Make sure your True Box is connected to your TV via the AV connection and not the ariel connection.

Had the box changed last week due to a fault and the picture was terrible. Called them back and they connected via AV. The picture is near perfect now.

And the final part................

So I'm afraid a lost interest for a few days. Lots of drinking and laughter. Mimi sheeted over her sausage cart and parked it up to join in the fun. No sign of Chan. No sign of any funeral mourners. No sign of any Ladyboys I'm sorry to say.

Troy went back to Australia after tearful farewells. Then the fun really started.........

It was one non stop, Mor Lam music blaring party free for all – 24 hours. Ping had let it be known that she had 60,000 baht to spend – and did she start spending it.Card games, Black label, a constant stream of motorbike taxi blokes mulling around, spitting and fighting. No one in the street got any sleep for a week. Chan was in his element. Ping was the centre of everyones attention.

After a week the noise died down. It was now half bottles of Sang Som being shared by Ping, Chan and Mimi.The money had run out.

So what would you expect next?

Well Ping pulled out her trump card. Even Mimi was ashamed of this one. She has told Troy she's pregnant. If he doesn't send her 50,000 for urgent medical care she will kill herself. Last egg in her box I should think . Another big party beckons. …................................That's all so far.

It might read like a story because that is how I have retold it. I can assure you all it's the truth.

These people a SO clever. SO brazen about it that the most vulnerable people are caught completely off guard. They openly dissed and laughed at him in Thai in front of his face. Just because he couldn't understand the language. We wouldn't allow a dog to be treated like that.

I knew it was pointless, even dangerous, for me to intervene. I still feel guilty though. What would you have done?

I could say next time you are asked for money, try saying no and see what happens. I don't think anyone reading this will think it applies to them. It does. Not everyone. But most conducting a long distance relationship with an ordinary Thai woman/ man / ladyboy that they met in a bar. But what do I know?