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I would not go to another country (France/Germany/China/Russia. etc) and EXPECT  that their country CATER to me.It is the height of arrogance, stupidity, and ignorance.

 

I am their guest - therefore it is incumbent on me to act as a guest should and be as prepared as i can. Maybe even asking a native speaking friend to help me to understand the nuances within THEIR culture and country.

 

In the scheme of things I am not as important to them as they are to me. I thank them (and appreciate) for their courtesy and patience in dealing with me as I am the visitor I do not have the choice to pick or demand THEIR ACQUIESCENSE as it is THEIR culture i wish to visit and accept me.....

 

Expecting more than that based on MY importance is folly.....

Immigration deals with immigrants. That is, their business is foreigners. The global lingua franca is English. Who if not immigration staff should speak another language in addition to their mother tongue?

How many British Immigration workers speak Thai ?

 

Just sayin like.

Thai is not the global lingua franca, obviously.

Apparently it's true that a lot of men are happy or satisfied with buying themselves someone for sex and company. Just don't call it a relationship, please, or run around like the biggest showoff ever. Nothing to be proud of, you pay money. That's it.

The best thing about being a young man is that you already know it all. That is, until you get older and find out you never will.

 

I don't care if young men are jealous that I have a prettier and classier young gal than they do. When they get older and have some money, they can buy one too. Yes, buy one.

 

I can spend my money on whatever I'd like. It's cheaper to buy a young girlfriend than it is to buy a bar girl every night. Besides, I'm not a drinker so I don't like bars.

 

Or, I could fly to Paris and buy a beautiful young French woman for the night.

 

Go ahead. Be jealous. I know what I'm doing and so do you. The important thing is that I know. It's the guys who don't know, and think they've found true love who get into trouble. That happens to a lot of young farangs too. If you think that being a young farang immunizes you for being taken for a ride as some Thai gal tries to improve her lot in life you really do have a lot to learn.

 

Just stand back and let me enjoy myself while I willingly improve the financial well being of some really cute young thing. When that is no longer working I'm fine with it and she can find someone else.

 

Just understand something. Even though she's a teacher with a bachelor's degree, we both know she's not really being any different from a bar girl except she's not doing it in a bar, or with dozens of guys a week.

 

When you get to be my age, I hope you are able to enjoy yourself too.

This is sad. No reason for jealousy whatsoever.

I know a 41 year old Thai woman who is the sole earner in a family of five. Father too old to work, mother cooks and cleans, looks after daughter of 41 year old, 37 year old sister works but after accident on motorbike can't work for at least another year. The 41 year old earns 6,000 Baht a month and supports the whole family. Their 'living accommodation' consists of a small house of four rooms built with, what I call 'Breeze Blocks', the roof being rough timber supports with corrugated asbestos. This roof leaks like a sieve when it rains as there are cracks and gaps all over the place.  The two Sisters and 11 year old girl share one small bedroom and the Parents have the other and they all basically sleep on the floor with the odd mattress and blankets. A 17'' TV offers what comfort there is but there are no chairs to sit on. Meals are cooked outside and they all sit on the floor to eat.

 

Now then; the 41 year old has met a 78 year old friend of mine who is reasonably able and comfortable for money, not rich but comfortable He rents a house near where I live and never wanted to buy..  He asked me to meet the family and help him decide if he wanted to marry this woman who he has not yet slept with and has given no money to as yet.  I told him as far as I was concerned it isn't really my business but in my opinion he could do with a bit of company and this family most certainly would be grateful for his help.

 

If he goes ahead with this relationship it will transform the lives of this family who have suffered poverty for many years.  It will most probably never be a relationship based on what most of us would call 'love' but does it really matter if all parties are happy?  Age gaps are irrelevant in many cases and it's all about the needs of folk and perhaps how 'caring' Human Beings can be toward each other.

He could be caring without sex and marriage. Won't happen.

If the visa holder attends school and studies Thai, I do not see that as an abuse of the system. It is more like killing two birds with one stone.

Are you kidding me?

This guy is looking for a cheap way to stay in the country and is not interested in learning something at all. I came here for research and it was a freaking hassle to get my extension which involved calling Chula's International Office to make sure I was really studying there. Thanks a lot.

I wouldn't be surprised and I actually do not think that a high percentage of Farang-Thai marriages are genuine love marriages from both sides. No matter whether former bar girls or not. Face it, guys.

Like marriages between most people in this world? Have a look here, research from the US says that people have love relationships for all sorts of reasons. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200007/whats-your-love-story

Nope. Marriages between first-world elderly affluent men and often uneducated much younger ladies from less developed countries are certainly something different.

Well that's new! "Marriages between first-world elderly affluent men and often uneducated much younger ladies" wasn't really the topic you referred to; instead you made a generalisation about marriages between Thai and Westerns persons. Exactly like the person in the pub the OP talked about.

Nope. I pointed out that this is a combination you rarely find outside less developed countries simply because of the fact that such conditions barely exist in e.g. the US or Europe.

And yes, I doubt most of the young Thai ladies who marry elderly Farang here are truly on love with their wonderful personalities.

I wouldn't be surprised and I actually do not think that a high percentage of Farang-Thai marriages are genuine love marriages from both sides. No matter whether former bar girls or not. Face it, guys.

Like marriages between most people in this world? Have a look here, research from the US says that people have love relationships for all sorts of reasons. http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200007/whats-your-love-story

Nope. Marriages between first-world elderly affluent men and often uneducated much younger ladies from less developed countries are certainly something different. Fair enough but please be honest about it.

I have problems with my knee joints and squats cause me severe pain. I don't think it's very healthy to splatter pee all over the floor and legs either and I honestly don't understand how Thai females manage to not do so when using these toilets.

Maybe you should reconsider your priorities in life.

Of course none of you would want to know if such bs was going on with your girlfriends and if so only from close friends.

We had a wonderful evening

My boyfriend is 12 years older, we've been together for 10 years, are both farang and I've been in Bangkok for studies since beginning of January. He's flying here tonight. Do I need to say more?

Only what the point of your post was.

Jealousy and trust? Hello?

My boyfriend is 12 years older, we've been together for 10 years, are both farang and I've been in Bangkok for studies since beginning of January. He's flying here tonight. Do I need to say more?

Yeah what's your point?

Bla?

Why do anyone need a facebook-account?? To share your pathetic lives with the rest of the world!

What purpose does it serve?

To stay in touch with friends and family all over the world?

My boyfriend is 12 years older, we've been together for 10 years, are both farang and I've been in Bangkok for studies since beginning of January. He's flying here tonight. Do I need to say more?

Alright, where would that "somewhere else" be for good food and atmosphere around Siam?

I checked on TripAdvisor before booking, too. Just thought it looked stunning and we want a special place, outside, no aircon dining.

My boyfriend is flying in on Saturday and we want to celebrate on Sunday. We haven't seen each other for three months and will be celebrating our ten-year anniversary. Given the occasion we thought of a really nice dinner and reserved at Red Sky Centara. Good choice? I've never been there but it looks stunning from the pictures.

My uni told me my visa was about to expire and I should see immigration. They set up a letter to confirm my period of study will not end before my intended flight back home and I got an extension of stay permitted which I in my naivity thought to be an extension of my visa. That's why I was confused about the "re-entry permit required" stamp. Ah well, nice to hear that my plans will work out anyway. Sure I won't get into trouble?

I got the extension because my visa ran out that very same day and I'll be leaving for good mid of May when the term ends. I don't understand this system . Anyway, the plan is to go to Cambodia next week and return to Bangkok from Hanoi by plane around 20.4. I'll then leave Thailand on 11.5. No problem because I'll get 30 days when entering Thailand by plane anyway and they'll last me until my flight back home on 11.5., correct?

It being the law doesn't make it right.

I don't get that, sorry. My ED visa was initially worth 90 days and multiple entries. It got extended. Doesn't that mean the multiple entries got extended as well? What else than multiple re-entry permits are the multiple entries I paid for in the first place?

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