Lesley99

This is a horrible situation to be in, firstly like what has been said above while you are waiting to make your move try to record his abuse towards you incase you need evidence later, I'm not saying hang around just to get it but while you are still there if it happens try to record it if you can.

I know what it's like to live with this kind of behaviour, my husband gets very argumentative when he's drunk, when the kids were young he would say if I left him he would take the kids to Thailand and I would never be able to find them! ! I won't go into details as my situation was different, we mostly live in the uk for a start, my kids are older now and the arguments are less now but it hasnt been great for them to grow up with that.

Have you got access to the document that your husband signed for the baby to travel internationally? I wouldnt think that if you had that along with the birth certificate and passport that you would have a problem.

Yes it is technically kidnapping but it's not out of spite but out of safety which is a big difference.

I hope it all works out for you xx

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My husband doesn't like to talk things through, I've noticed over the years he will wait and wait and then explode, whereas I would rather talk things through before he can make a mountain out of a molehill!!

You know what it's like when your on the Internet, time can slip away and you don't realise, it does for me anyway.

Obviously i cant say if he is or isnt but if he isnt and you keep pushing the issue, though you might push him away.

Hope you can both work it out

What Boo says makes alot of sense, they have shown they are lacking in morals to act in the manner that they have already there's no telling how far they will go.

Hi Carry, sorry to hear of your sad news and the trouble your going through.

It's sounds like you've handled your in laws with incredible dignity.

Im surprised they would disrespect the memory of their son like this, my husband often talks of having to give offering's to keep spirits happy (in fact we are doing that tomorrow), would it be worth talking to the local monks?

I hope you can get this all sorted out x

I only live in the village 2 months a year, I really hated it in the village when I first visited but over the years have grown to love it, we have our own house now, as lovely as my in laws are its more comfortable in your own place.

Referring to language, this is something I wish I had made more of an effort with, even though I haven't ever lived here full time and am crappy at languages, shouldn't have kept with the notion that it's impossible to learn.

So this year I plan to learn along with our daughters, trying to decide whether or not to learn Thai or issan (I am more inclined to think issan might be better as that's what everyone speaks in our village)

34 or 37" hips seem slim to me, I'm a 42" hips, I always feel large over here, in the uk I feel like a normal size! I only come over for a couple of months a year so I normally don't bother buying clothes either being told 'no have large' or having to buy a 2xl seems alot worse than a 14-16 back home!!!

Cheryl in the Loreal hairspray advert has the style like in Konini's photo, not too keen on it myself, it's like a mini beehive!

I haven't read all 22 pages of this thread, but one thing keeps occuring to me: Why would anyone want to live like a Thai peasant?

Don't get me wrong, heyseeds can be nice people, but living without meaningful culture -- no access to the arts, concerts, performances, exhibitions, theater, cinema, bookstores, fine dining, clubs of like-minded people, et al -- seems to be a dire regression in the quality of life.

I am not sure how many people in the West would say, "Yes, when I retire I want to live in basic conditions with no intellectual stimulation and feed pigs/watch rice grow/house countless relatives on my nickel, and so on. Oh, and since I can't really speak Thai, I have no idea what anyone is talking about unless my wife chooses to tell me, but even that's iffy since her English language skills are at about the level of a three-year-old English speaker."

Almost everywhere I look, I find educated gentlemen from the West dumbing themselves down to the point where they are a pathetic parody of themselves. What could possibly be the key motivation for this?

Of course I respect the right of the individual to conduct his last years, or his mature years, in any fashion he desires. But the motivation escapes me here. It would be like someone wanting to live in quasi-poverty among the uneducated (or under-educated) and the intellectually incurious....where a "big event" is going to "the city" to shop at Tesco? I mean that's just sad.

And by the way, how many Western women come to Thailand to retire in a backwoods village? What does this tell you about the situation?

I'm hoping to retire to my husband's village eventually, there are good and bad points to living in a village just as there is living in a city so it just depends what points are more important to you.

Any vegeterian ones?

No complaints here - love true blood

g00dgirl, I guess the grass is always greener on the side where you arn't working and I should listen to my own words when I tell my kids when they say they don't want to leave thailand that maybe they would feel different if they were going to school there and not in the uk!!!! but like you Pedzie I feel more at ease in Thailand, winter is coming and if it's like the last 2 years we'll have lots of snow.

Raesum, I don't mind the hot and sweaty weather, I'm quite a long way from bangkok near ubon so I think the weather is a bit cooler there,

It is true sunspun, the tv satelite we have is really crap (not in thailand long enough to subscripe) so I do miss sky tv when we're in thailand and especially proper bread and cheese that isnt processed!! When we're able to we plan to do the same having winter in thailand and summer in the uk.

skinnymilinky, i feel laid back too in Thailand, I have alot of stress here running a restaurant, what part of Thailand are you going to live in?

It is true farang000999 there is lots of wonderful things here, I think it's the stress of running a restaurant that's marring my view of the uk, all the rules and regulations? that's regarding the restaurant, we're in the middle of a recession but we have to spend thousands on new licenses / courses / refits to keep up with new rules, regulations, we just seem to get one done and then there's another one to sort out. It's exchausting.

Well only 6 months til we can have a short break back to Thailand

That's very good advice sbk, I should enjoy the present, always get the blues when I first get back, came back to a load of stress with our restaurant which didn't help.

Manarak, been looking for flights so I can start the countdown, on the flight home my girls were asking me 'when are you booking the flights to come back'

Every year I feel more depressed coming back to the UK, every year there are more rules and regulations to follow, think i'd prefer less money but a less stressful life.

Waiting for the kids to finish school and college first........ one day

One of her video's came on the tv this morning, my daughter commented 'I used to like lady gaga but she's just wierd now, bad wierd, she was alright when she was good wierd'

I like some of her songs but I agree I think she's trying way too hard.

My husband always insists on turning all the electrics off, maybe your gf speaks quietly because she should have turned her phone off but didn't, hope it all works out for the best, like Nomad97 said try ringing in the morning

We first took our twins when they were 11 months old, we had no problem apart from someone gave them tap water (even when we had told them not to) which made them threw up /have the shits for several hours

Haha - yes sorry u turns !!!! Also not too keen on motorcyclists who insist on not looking before pulling out infront of me!!!!

Forgot to say apart from their driving habits it's how the people are here that I love

My husband is what brought me to issan but I love it here, got to get a little more independent and get over my fear of driving over here - it's those bloody u bends terrify me!!!

Last week we had loads what looked like small flying ants, not very nice as for some reason they only bit me!!! Next year I'm bringing a fly killer over.

Sorry I don't have the answer, would like to know myself, all I've managed is a sim at the international airport for iPhone.

I think your right they definatley are hardier and might be better and kinder.

Thanks meatboy, maybe in a couple of years we'll try again and will definatley look for breeders rather than a market, would very much appreciate the info though.

I kinda relied on my husband to sort it all out as I did in the uk as he's Thai !!!!! I can see next time will have to take matters into my own hands.

Thanks meatboy and bina.

Meatboy - I should know that as I have a dog in the uk but

I guess I took it for granted how much safer it is in the uk, in the uk we have boosters every year. As for the pups I don't think they were going home to their mother for extra milk but we should have looked into it more I know.

As you bina we don't live in Thailand but come a couple of months a year and pups were going to stay with amkha's mum and dad who loved them as soon as they saw them.

We have a Thai dog who was the only survived of 3 (one someone poisoned and one got ran over by a drunk motorcyclist) - maybe in a few years we'll change our minds but at the moment we're too heartbroken to get another.

And thanks bina, we did try everything and gave them alot of love.

Sunny has passed away this morning, she was having difficulty in breathing and then just let out one long sigh.

I was really thinking she was turning a corner she seemed happy and better this morning then we gave her her medicine and then she was sick, and then even more trouble breathing.

Thoongfoned - thanks, we got them from chacuchak (sorry about the spelling), they were young 5 weeks and 9 weeks, the vet said they proberbly didn't have enough milk from their mother, my husband asked his cousin to take them from Bangkok to our village only they stopped one night on the way in his wife's village and gave them a shower without drying them, they shook for ages so I think all these things added to their immune system being low. In hindsight we should have got puppies from a reputable breeder, but hindsights a wonderful thing, and we've tried to give them the most love and comfort we can.

Mario299 many thanks, I hope your little fella's ok, I wish this hadn't take hold before we had a chance to get them immunized. We live near kantararom.

Kimamey, thanks, we also have a black lab in the uk and never had a problem with him but I think ur right u realize how different it is out here and how quick these things spread when so many dogs dont have immunization.