I have the parts on order to build the rectifiers myself so I'll let you know how it goes. The other options are to get an electrician to pull a neutral all the way back to the switch for each light (as mentioned earlier, not recommended to grab one from the nearest wall socket), or use the zigbee version of the relays because they use way less power and can let enough through for communication but not for the lights. I don't want to set up zigbee and ive already got 10 of these rather expensive relays. I really dont want to tear my ceiling apart just for some light switch automation.
Will let you know how it goes and maybe can ship a few up there if you still need.