elfe

hi chav,

seems like this year the tics are epidemic, a real plague!

there are some powders on the market which should rid your dogs from them, you have to put the powder in the food. I refrain from these chemicals because they are a real hammer, not good for your dogs also.

the flea&tic shampoos are good but if you use them too often the dogs will get skin reactions.

what seems to be quite effective is putting garlic in the dogfood. don't worry, you won't smell anything, but the tics will...

try to brush your dogs at least once a day on a light coloured floor and you will see the ones which haven't fund a resting place yet falling off.

good luck with fighting these ugly suckers!!

elfe

hi alien8

have no idea what you are talking about...

I don't have any connections with Pattaya Mail ( you mean the newspaper, I guess), as I am located down south.

or did you see me in there???

dear Nat,

don't let yourself get demoralised by all the ( very well-meant) advice you read on this board. not everbody is the same, but surely here is another culture and peoples values and morals differ from ours, but on the other hand you can learn a lot from this and also about your own limits and fears - might widen your horizon if your mind is ready and open for that. But surely don't put up with everything! you have to consider as your boyfriend is a barman (nothing against that, at least he is working), what about the barmen in your own country?? might be not easy to be with one of them either...

Boo made very good points about not letting yourself being fooled and cheated, you should check these points for to start out first. but, as can be seen in frenchie's story that is not always 100% sure, as his family will stand behind him, nt to destroy his chance to get a better life or some money/business through his 'wealthy' farang girlfriend. but where can you be 100% sure??

of course it depends what social layer/job/background he comes from and that is the same in every culture, surely not every thai man drives his witfe at night to a bar to make money from other men, that is only in certain circles, so stay away from these! a thai man from a very renowned family would probably never spend a second thought about being with a foreign woman...

so just listen to your guts and don't get too much involved, take it easy first and keep your eyes open. what I find is that you could rather have a firm and trustworthy relatioinship is when you constantly live here and not move back and forth. this will give your bf more confidence and you have more insight in his 'real' life.

good luck  :cool:

chokdee

elfe

hi Fart,

as you already guessed, it won't be easy for your g/f to find foreign women friends in BKK just walking around in the streets or shopping. as i understand you are both not working, so friendships made through work fall away. if she likes to go out at night there are some places to meet expat women, like Spasso's in the Grand Hyatt Erawan Hotel (great nightclub anyway!!) or even Gulliver's on Khaosan Rd. It's been a while when I used to live in BKK so I'm not very up to date about the hippest nightspots there anymore. in the Farang Magazine which is available almost everywhere you can get find some hints.

once she has met one new friend it should be easy to meet many, as the circle of western women there is not that big.

what about her meeting new friends through your already existing ones??!

have fun

elfe ???

hi Dave,

thanks for your support! don't worry about the doggie-kitty relationship, it will be fine as they will be still very young when they get together, yet you should watch them for the first days. nothing cuter than dog and cat sleeping together and playing..

Boo, am sorry for your puppies, but I guess that's life. having dystemper at that very early stage there is hardly anything which you can do. and you did the most already by showing them to the vet and following his instructions, so all you need now is good luck!!! I think you should have the mother fixed after she has recovered from the babies. having prophylactic treatment for your adult dogs would be wise.

it is true, unfortunately the vets here refuse to put a sick dog to sleep even though there is no hope at all anymore. the only times when I heard about the vet doing that is when the dog was a danger for people.

I hope that would apply to more people here and not so many dogs would get poisoned out of neighbours disputes or hate...-so much about buddhism

my kittens are still in the roof, making noise as someone would hammer on something, I have no idea what's going on there... thanks for your kind advice, b/f went already up there but he claims there is no way to reach them.

hopefully they will get out of there alive.

the ticks are such plague this year, you could spend an hour every day to get your dogs rid of them. heard about a brand new medicine, a powder mixed in the food, which would free your dogs from these ugly suckers. will get more information about that today and keep you posted.

chokdee

elfe

the hit amongst my souveniers at my last trip home were the mini radio walkmen found in Pratunam market. they cost around 80 baht and are really good!

chokdee

elfe

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why every waiter/waitress asks me 'only one?' when I sit alone in a cafe/restaurant and want to order a coke?

chokdee

elfe

btw...what's wrong with policemen's tight pants?  

Boo, I'm very fine, and so are my doggies, now have kitten addition to the family, rather unwanted, they rumble around in my roof, cannot get them out there but am quite worried about it as I'm sure they will be dead the moment they are mature enough to step out of there - killers are waiting already(i. e. my beloved sweet doggiebabies...).Cat mama must have had a bad day to choose that place. Any help suggestions for that??

am not sure about you though... anyway, great to meet you here!

chokdee

elfe

I absolutely agree with Boo, so be careful. but on the other hand, there is chance that your guy might be genuine and also be already disappointed of all the farang girls who just come here for a few days and use him for fun and just drop him when they go back home - depends on how long he's been 'in the business' already, so it's on both of your sides to raise trust. to be with someone working in a bar can be a drag as he might be tempted easily and also nightlife might become your schedule if you are staying with him - if you like it or not...

to find out the truth about his feelings and his personality you will have to watch him very close when you come back here. be aware of any mind games you can imagine (or not) and make your point immediately as clear as possible. keep your money invisible!

be patient, but also: as soon as he does you any harm - drop him! that might safe you a lot of tears later.

and as Boo said: there's more fish in the sea...

chokdee

elfe ::

it wasn't meant ironic, I was happy to see that the first replier was a man. so don't limit yourself and I hope to read more of your points here in the future!

as I am not a native English speaker things might come out wrongly - sorry for that!

sure if you are just coming to Thailand once in a while you might like to avoid  your country fellas but if you are staying here for  very long time you would enjoy to have contact with someone from your own background

chok dee

elfe

great that the first replier is a man!!!

as for my own experience and what I've heard from friends it is not a problem to touch a boyfriends/husbands hair. especially after your relationship has become more firm. might be different in some very strict educated circles, but what I've learnt is that in between the couple and in privacy you behave the same as in other cultures as long as no one gets hurt of course. any other sights welcome!!

the expectations what a thai man has of his wife differ anyway from which social background and family/education he comes from. the main thing is to make your own points and values, wishes clear, so you can understand each other - and accept or not. that means communicate!! which is sometimes the problem, could be the language or just different kind of thinking - or stubbornness. so we have to be very patient which is not the worst, being  in a buddhist country and also anywhere in the world.

I feel very well treated by thai men here - not always the case with farang men...  - and feel safe walking alone even at night, more than in other countries, of course you have to be careful everywhere. the way you behave -  it will come back to you.

one of the 'frustrating' things would be that you have many friends but you rarely know if they are real friends, that will take a very long time to find out. sometimes you get suspicious and think : what do they want from me?? but mainly they are just curious and find it funny to get to know farangs.

in a relationship the suspicion is less funny, especially if your pal does not have a lot of money...so you always beware and - that can be frustrating!

another difference is the family thing, it takes a much more important level than in our societies where children rarely have to take care of their parents, brotheres/sisters to that extent.

a thing I find frustrating is that it is very hard to make good friends also amongst the farang population, mostly you just have the one thing in common: being a foreigner in Thailand. as well a lot of strange people out there...

that is one of the reasons I wanted a farang girl forum!

chokdee

elfe    ::

hey girls!

welcome to a new forum here - just for us!!!! (not exclusive though...)

whatever  concernes, moves, bothers you - talk about it here.

You want to know about where to buy the latest cosmetics on Samui?You are fed up with your neighbour? you'd like to know how to get rid your dog's ticks? or just discuss some of the other forum topics but - with women??

you'ld like to make new friends?

join us and let us know about you!

hope this forum will be help for many of us

chokdee

elfe ::

George, thanks a lot. I will try my best and now start to get familiar with the settings. I hope soon we'll have hot discussions going on!!!

George, thanks a lot. I will try my best and now start to get familiar with the settings. I hope soon we'll have hot discussions going on!!!

hi Boo!

am living close to where you are... and yes why not start our own forum?

it is sometimes interesting to read all this 'man-stuff' but especially if you are living here for sometime you tend to get bored after a while of listening to farang man-thailady - issues. we also have things to talk about and our specific problems...

so, let's do it!

to George:

thanks for appreciation! and congratulations for that great website/forum, very informative, interesting and entertaining!!

I guess we should invite all the farang ladies to suggest a forum name if not as simple as 'farang - lady meeting point' etc.

I could offer myself for moderating it but am not sure if I would be qualified enough and what the job involves.

thanks

am looking forward to suggestions and topics.. ::

hi Boo!

am living close to where you are... and yes why not start our own forum?

it is sometimes interesting to read all this 'man-stuff' but especially if you are living here for sometime you tend to get bored after a while of listening to farang man-thailady - issues. we also have things to talk about and our specific problems...

so, let's do it!

to George:

thanks for appreciation! and congratulations for that great website/forum, very informative, interesting and entertaining!!

I guess we should invite all the farang ladies to suggest a forum name if not as simple as 'farang - lady meeting point' etc.

I could offer myself for moderating it but am not sure if I would be qualified enough and what the job involves.

thanks

am looking forward to suggestions and topics.. ::

hi everyone!

as a foreign woman living in Thailand for the last 3 1/2 years I would like to have a forum where I could meet and exchange with others.

are you out there? as I am living on a small island I would like to have contact with more women in my situation and exchange experiences about living and working in the LOS and relationships with thai men.

please! I am waiting for replies

thx ::

hi everyone!

as a foreign woman living in Thailand for the last 3 1/2 years I would like to have a forum where I could meet and exchange with others.

are you out there? as I am living on a small island I would like to have contact with more women in my situation and exchange experiences about living and working in the LOS and relationships with thai men.

please! I am waiting for replies

thx ::