Nat

Hi allatsea2000 welcome to the forum.

I must say I'm very impressed at how tactful and polite you were with your posting  

There are farang females all over thailand - where abouts will you be spending most of your time?

Nat

From other postings I've read instances where a thai (male or female) has used a farang for their money. However, this happens everywhere - wouldn't bring it down to nationality. While I was at uni I was living with my western boyfriend who earnt a decent wage yet expected me to pay for everything as well as do all the cooking and cleaning! The relationship lasted 2 years before enough was enough.

Haven't been with my current thai boyfriend that long and not sure where the relationship is going to go, but at least he doesn't behave or expect anything like my ex did.

Also, I wouldn't knock someone just cause they don't have a university degree - some of the most interesting and intelligent people I've met have only finished the 10th grade.

As D80 said it comes down to compatibilty.

I've heard that mosquitos are attracted to sweat. Have also read somewhere that a study was done where subjects put their feet in a tank full of mosquitos and that people with strong foot odour had the most bites! Moral of the story: always have clean feet  

On a serious note I find mosquito coils helpful and a good smearing of RID.

Nat x

It appears that it's us farangs that hold resentment towards one and other, in a foreign country! The whole thing to me is quite absurd - you'd think that this situation would bring us closer, not divide the genders' further.

D80 is a thai female and does not hold resentment towards us farangs (well I don't think she does   ) - think we should all take a leaf from her book  

D80 your words are very wise.

I've read some postings on other forums and am shocked at the views that farang men have towards farang women. What have we done that's so bad to deserve these views?

The main things are that we're fat, out spoken and not feminine. There are women like this all around the world, even in thailand - don't think this stereotype is suitable for all farang women.

I'm sure that the men who hold these views have probably had unpleasant encounters with women in their own countries - but it's not fair to label the rest of us just cause of a few bad apples. Not every farang male I've met (or every other women has met) has treated me properly but I'm not about to look down on the male race because of this.

Not every person from the same country is the same - we're all individuals with good and bad qualities. Take a person for who they are on the inside, not from where they come from.

Nat x

Hi all

Elfe you do make a good point that some girls may enjoy their work and the benefits that come with it. To be honest I don't know any bargirls so wouldn't know how true this is. However I did notice from the film that the protagonist did show a different character when surounded by other bargirls - even appeared quite happy and "proud" (not sure if that's the right word to use) about all the men she'd slept with.

I guess there may be quite a few bargirls who are shrewd business women and may even feel empowered in their profession. However, like with all things in life, there is another side to the coin. There are those who aren't as fortunate as their "colleagues" and driven into the lifestyle due to necessity.

I guess if one feels empowered in their profession (regardless of what it is) they'll generally enjoy it.

Hi all

Will be there at the end of july - can I join in the drinks?  

Nat x

From what I've seen of the Thai/Farang couples while living on Samui, I'd say that those Thai men fancy farang women because Thai women want nothing to do with them. These long-haired, hippie-types are some of the biggest <deleted> you could meet.

The farang women there (usually Brits or Aussies) are some of the most gross white women I've had the misfortune to see in Thailand.

All I can say to this is, different strokes for different folks  

Hi all

Watched The Good Woman of Bangkok the other night - anyone seen it?

It looks at the life of Aoi a prostitute in Bangkok. It was actually quite sad, especially the reasons she went into the profession.

She makes the following comment: "I hate men. All men lie and cheat. They live to deceive. There are no sincere men. I have known so many men. Thai men and foreign men, I know them all. Every man: Thai or foreign. Every country. Only lie".

This scene is very sad and you can't help feeling for her. She says she was forced into the profession to provide for her family since her dad was an alcoholic and gambler and her husband left her for another woman - she has no trust in men and "hates" them. The interesting thing is the guy who made the film (an australian) bought her a rice farm so she could get out, but when he returned a few years later she was back working in the bars. When he asked her why, she said it was her fate.

I know this movie is one person's view and probably very subjective, but you can't help feeling for her and wishing she had a better life.

If you get a chance to see it I recommend it - it's worth the watch.

Nat x

Unpopular, yes I think I am but I can sleep better at night & can look people in the eye! & don't even get me started on farang guys, that could go on forever!

Boo if unpopularity is the price to pay for a good night's rest well it may be worth it   At least you're staying true to yourself.

When it comes to farang men think we all have our fair share of tales to tell - a bit like "the never ending story"  

Natx

Hi Mona

Boo's advice is the way to go - eye contact and small talk is a good (not intimidating) way of letting a guy know you're interested.

I was quite fortunate with my man, we were making eye conatct and he asked if it was ok if he spoke to me - thought that was cute. He was very polite and we spent quite a bit of time getting to know each other. However, I did make a fool of myself one night by drinking a bit too much and spending most of the evening over the toilet bowl. My man was really sweet and looked after me without "trying" anything - that's when I realised that he was a decent guy.

There are heaps of different guys out there, but if you're after a relationship getting to know each other is important - as anywhere in the world. Good luck and hope you find one of the good ones.

Nat x

Hi all

A bit on the defensive mrentoul?    I'm sure Wei didn't mean that comment in a bad way (well at least I hope not)! Think we might all be in trouble then  

I've found the gay guys in thailand fairly open with their sexuality. If you can't tell they're gay already, they'll probably end up telling you before you get a chance to ask (from my experience anyway).

Nat x

Hi all

D80 think you're right about jealousy coming down to the person not nationality. I've seen western men get jealous over the silliest little things eg commenting an actor is good looking!

My thai boyfriend can be very childish at times and think that's where his jealousy stems from. However, some of these childlike qualities can be quite sweet at times - it would be nice if he could find a happy medium.

Hi all

Seems as though it's the norm and completed acceptable (kind of a rite of passage) for a western guy to get involved with a thai girl at least once. After all there is a huge sex industry tailor made for the farang male. However this is not the case for western women in thailand (not that I'm asking for that). From the conversations I've had with guys, it's frowned upon for a farang girl to behave the way the farang males do in thailand. Don't mean to start a gender war, but it appears there's a double standard - it's not good for the goose but it's great for the gander

Nat x

Hi all

I think there is a "proudness" to having a "farang" girlfriend. I've heard thai guys say, on numerous occasions, that they prefer farang women over thai women. Curious whether it is a pride thing or something else?

Nat x

Thanx for the advice, I will keep all those points in mind.

The weird thing is, before I read your reponse, I had a dream that he had a thai wife (think it must be my paranoia). I mentioned my dream to him on the phone and he just laughed it off.

Will just have to go with my gut instincts.

Thanx again

Nat x

Hi

I'm planning on moving to thailand and curious about your views on thai men. I was recently in thailand and got together with a thai guy. We now speak nearly every day. At times he's really sweet however not sure whether he's genuine and whether I can trust him. I say this cause he's a barman and has been with many western women. Apart from that I've heard that thai men can not be faithful.

I'm really confused and would appreciate any views or stories about thai men.

Thanx Nat