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I doubt any farang would ever meet let alone move in hi so circles, it's not money it's your family history that matters in the uk and Thailand, maybe different in places like usa, you simply can not buy you way in. of course Thai visa posters only marrry' hi so or medium so' woman who just happened to pop into a pattay bar,

That's my point, you are of the opinion all tv members are with bg, why.

Bit of a generalisation.

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I do recall a very hi so gathering, a bday party for their dog, they had a cake and everything, the cake was a pig in a bikini and the hi so woman was in a g string and topless whilst being served by hotel staff poolside.

Hi so does not mean respectable, I will take respectable first anyday, that sweet girl who is a friend I know who cleans the shitters at big c, she would never do anything like that.

Good and bad in all classes, hi class does not mean better.

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'Hi so' Thai would not be interested in any farang, let alone date one, big loss of face, i wold imagine it would be like an immigrant dating an upper class socialiate here in the uk.

Would they date a hi so farang, or could they resist if they were truly in love, hard to walk away.

Or would a farang want to date a girl with that stuck up hi so attitude, why date a hi so at all, just date the girl you fall in love with regardless of who or what she is.

My wife's sister has a man who is on tv in Thailand, he has so many woman after him, people always asking for his autograph when we are out, it could be said my wife's sister is lower class then him, she has a good job but she is not hi so by any stretch of the imagination, they are so happy, would have been a mistake if he left her because she is an amazing partner to him, very good woman.

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I guess what im saying is class means nothing, all classes have good and bad, it's the woman, honourable, respectful, honest and loving.

That can come in any class, you can not choose love, love chooses you.

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the term hi so used on this board is simply a misnomer. the fact remains that the vast majority of foreigners in thailand don't even get close to any true thai "hi-so".

you must either be very wealthy yourself, or have a connection through business, or have attended school with them abroad or all of the above to have an in.

the true high so moves in very rarefied air.

Hi so people are not necessarily more respectable though, some are of coarse but they are just people.

The problem with hi so girls is if I got one I would feel out of place, we both would, not a moral issue, not a case of who is better one of the sweetest girls I know sweeps the floors in big c, I am just worlds apart with hi so girls.

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The engineer is building cages in prison or living in one. I expected you should have kicked in a bit more flesh in that zone.

I avoid married women like plaque, don't care whether bg or hiso.

My MIL is the worst mother you can wish on anyone. Whenever I am talking with my ex and we start getting carried and being too nice to each other, I bring her mom in to the talk, and she will hurriedly have to attend to something else.

Oh he is living in one, with good reason to he was certainly not innocent, attempted murder.

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I'm sure the incidents bother people but how do you want them to look when walking around the mall, bullet proof vests, floaties on their arms in case of tsunamis.

You do what you do, regardless of what happens you don't walk around looking terrified, what should they look like.

Sitting in the mall you realised Thailand was unique, most get that impression before they even leave the airport.lol.

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Wow, great! All except the last paragraph. Sounds to me like you have found a subservient, house servant rather than a wife. So I can only gather she is the exact opposite of your previous spouse. Thus you enjoy living here?

Maybe I am reading too much into this but you have less a marriage, but more a owner/servant relationship. But if it works for you excellent, and I fully agree it is a good reason to be living here.

Cheers.

Rubbish, why say that, you cannot tell that from one post.

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She should open a coffee stand, honest as she is.

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I'm guessing she works as a cashier or something, the only cashier in the joint.

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We met through thai friends, were friends for quite some time, she had a man, I had a woman and other then as friends the thought of being with her never really entered my mind despite her being hot.

Her man was caught cheating and she was single for a long time, mine was then caught cheating on me, slowly our friendship became something else.

Pretty cool because we never had that honey moon period so there were no surprises, still best friends but deeply in love now.

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Why what did you do,lol.

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Means nothing as I am a farang.

Beats being called a chocolate man, think about them.

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She took off and is ignoring you, take advantage of that.

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It seems that there is a culture of tv members trying to prove to themselves and others that they are the only ones that know anything about Thailand and it's people.

They will constantly remind everyone how long they have lived in Thailand, your just a young punk who is still wet behind the ears, further still I have more posts on tv so I'm truly the all knowing thai expat.

Little reality check only for those that act like that, some people experience more in a few years then others do in a life time so time is irrelevant, if time accounts for anything I had a friend who was making a few unwise choices but I never got involved, finally I had to say something and his response was "I been coming here since you were in nappies," he is broke and single now.

Wether it's been a year in Thailand or thirty years we all have vastly different experiences on a daily basis, we all see very different things that each other may not have, we all have things to share and contribute regardless of time.

We should all listen to each other.

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Let me tell you a story, my friend had a girl with a very sick buffalo, very unfortunate as it was a lovely animal and dearly loved by all, it was the pride of the village.

I truly believe this buffalo could have been a show buffalo if such a contest existed, children came from far and wide just to ride it, it was an exquisite animal.

When she informed my friend of the buffaloes unfortunate illness he was distraught despite having never actually seen it, such was the buffaloes affect on people.

With a lot of financial help from my friend, and a little from her bar work, limited as it was as she was just a cashier you see, they scraped up enough money to purchase a new one, disappointing as he never got around to seeing that one either as something always came up.

You see, every bar girl has a story, truly sad was my friends but it all worked out in the end.

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[…] I said rather then prostitute herself for over a decade which she did according to his story.

She could have used the money to educate herself and get out sooner, if that's a harsh comment then so be it, I don't see how.

It’s pretty hard to “educate yourself” when you have close to no base education and no-one to guide you. The OP did say she was intelligent, but he did not mention her academic skills, I wouldn’t be surprised if her reading/writing abilities were limited (given her background and premature exit of primary school).

Also remember that this is rural Thailand, it’s not like you can just attend community collage, or go to the library and borrow books about the subject you wish to study.

Furthermore, let us imagine she did somehow manage to find a way to finish her primary school, how long would you estimate that to take? And what new exciting job options would it unlock?

I dare say if it was achieved any job options would be better, unless you don't of coarse mind bar work, If education was un obtainable then that's different, however with the kind of cash that could set up a family, is it truly un obtainable.

I'm still confused, some relatives still live in the tin shed, I thought the family was now set through her work, I still don't understand where the family was when she was taken in by the new family whose boy got her pregnant, and why she helped a family who are such poor role models.

There are holes in the story, if the family was so bad, why is she, and worse still he giving a damn about them.

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Years ago I split with a thai girl, she was being nasty so before I left I thought I would tell her I believe her mother was probably selling herself to every farang in town back in the day, I told her her mother was probably pattayas busiest woman.

It was said just to annoy her before I left, My advice, don't say anything like that when they are in range of a mortar and pestle.

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Sorry if I sound critical but it's not hard to be critical of a poor choice when other options were available […]

Other options were available? She might be intelligent, but leaving school (and probably a pretty bad one) at the age of 13, being in a poor region of Thailand, and not having any positive role models, I don’t think you can imagine just how much of a struggle everything must have been for this girl.

Saying this girl (mother of two) should just go prostitute herself for a few years and then buy an education is laughable ignorant.

No I did not say that.

I said rather then prostitute herself for over a decade which she did according to his story.

She could have used the money to educate herself and get out sooner, if that's a harsh comment then so be it, I don't see how.

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OP post a picture of yourself and your qualifications and we'll tell you what chance you have.

Would be interesting to see how many people would post a pic of themselves here if it was required,lol.

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Kangabollox have you ever been with a BarGirl?

I would rather stay single for a lifetime, my personal choice.

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It was an interesting question you asked in your OP. However, if you have no experience with bar girls then maybe you shouldn't have started it ??

You don't have to date a bar girl to have some insight, do you think they tell their boyfriends the truth, the untruths could give a misguided view.

Often men will tell themselves and others stories to make themselves and others accept their partners bar career because many are not quite comfortable with it, they will portray them to be an amazing woman who is making the ultimate sacrifice out of love for the family because of her amazing heart.

Rubbish, but if it makes people feel better,why not.

I had a close friend who married a bar girl, he did that, he is single now and broke, there is absolutely nothing positive about the industry.

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