tekNique

ok she sent me this email not long ago......................  "ex he want money for divorce , (her name withheld) know it hard for you decision , you no need for me if you wand go form me ?  understand you , (her name withheld) tired and dishearten​ed , wait only hope from you will help I love you and love forever, you go home I want chat skype with you na , miss you mak ka kiss"

 

 I said to myself the moment she asked for it my faith in her would waiver.     So I want to test her with a suggestion that was made here.............

I say to her " sure I'll give the 30k but we'll use it to hire the best lawyers in Bangkok and we'll do a contested divorce, that way your husband you no longer love will be out of pocket mak mar and you'll still achieve your freedom"           If she says it a bad idea well then I know its time to call her bluff.

 

 I will put this suggestion to her tonight on Skype, if anyone has a good way to word it please feel free to contribute.

It morning here in oz and I'm back to work today but if anyone has actually been with her before please pm me a photo of her, so then I would have no doubts. /cheers

  I have to listen to every post and haven't argued with anyone except the one who started throwing insults at me.   I have said I proceed with caution and I will not be paying her husband anything many times now.

 

 Having said that (im getting ready for the backlash) but I ill be honest, I just talked with her on Skype as she is back out of house now and back at work and im going to send her 20000 baht to rent a studio/apartment.   I then help her out as I see fit with much caution and online detective work.  (puts flame suit on)   

tekNique, I advised you to run.

 

I now see that your OP was your first, and that rings bells for me, and those bells are ringing out 'troll', but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, and post again.

 

You've been advised by people with a LOT more experience that I have, that you're being played, the husband may not exist, her gf's arein on the scam, divorce is cheap, that if her friends are visiting her, they could alert authorities if she's being 'held', so take the advice, and dump this woman.  How much opinion and evidence do you need from guys who've been through the mill??

 

If you go further, you won't get the benefit of any doubt from me, and I'll know you're a troll.

 

 

 

  I appreciate your post but the fact that you and many others have suggested im trolling re affirms my belief that there are way to many cynics on the internet.   Some people are true natured this was my first post as I googled thai divorce and this forum came up heaps.             

 

 Breaking news she just skyped me right now from work but it is hard as her mom is around.  So im trying to get an explanation

 

RE adultery post, yea that's grounds for him to get divorce but he dosent want.    She the one that wants not him, her adultery is not grounds for HER to divorce under thai law.

Ok,i knew that,i just wanted to see how green you are.Re vid,baht a dozen in Thailand.As i said before why the hurry to marry.Most Thai's dont legally get married so why should you worry.

 

 

 Well because we talked about having a life in Australia and its is much easier to get visa if marry, and I want to marry her with a pre nup in place of course.          She is legally married in Thailand so I can not marry her.

It's getting pretty serious:

 

 

Okay I must admit I lol'd   dam it!!!!

  I have read every reply in this thread and I thank you for all, there is some good advice and iam looking at the situation through different eyes..... yes I am more sceptical about the situation but I cant give up on her yet she seems to honest and I care for her deeply and she made me more happy than I have been in many years.    I think about here all day nearly

 

 I wait till she can communicate with me again and I will update what happened here.

/thank you

RE adultery post, yea that's grounds for him to get divorce but he dosent want.    She the one that wants not him, her adultery is not grounds for HER to divorce under thai law.

Anyone know the OP's age?

(Member since today!)

 

 

 

But hey, thanks for a great laugh!

I mean, no one could be that stupid - could they?

 

 

 

 Im 35 she is 26.     I havent given any cash sure I took her to some nice restaurants and bought some cheap clothes from the road side stalls in BKK but that nothing.       I stated this thread to see if there was anyway for her to get a divorce without me paying his bribe since he wont agree to one.    From what Ive learned the answer is no as under thai law she has no grounds.                I still care for her and only want her to be happy.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jqCVaMBQ9OA&feature=youtu.be

 

 This is video of her she is very cute and alluring

 

 RE the dating site she changed her profile to say she met me, and she has stopped using it.    I know because you can check when they last logged in and she hasn't logged in for 2 months that's why I thought she was serious as a gik wouldnt do that because they would lose to many customers :)

Now ... 

 

 

 

 

 Its all very confusing, these are some of the emails I got upon returning, her friend dosent speak English and is using google translate from what I see so it makes it hard to communicate with her.

   Certainly isn't a troll post this has what been happening in my life in the last 3 months, it has got to stage now on my return back to Australia that im confused.        I posted a photo of her at work (post 16) with her holding a sign that says she loves me, she never showed me anything but love as well the whole time.         She has never asked money from me, only her husband asked as he knows she has no grounds for divorce under thai law even though she dosent love him........so if he is going to grant her wish he wants to be paid off.   

 

 I haven't said no but im not going to pay him off, seems to crazy to be a scam as no would would fall for it.       Maybe I show him video of us together and he would be so enraged that he would strike her then she would have grounds for divorce.         Other than that the suggestion that I ask him for 15k to not bother him or his family anymore seems a good suggestion.

 

 

 BTW shes from the bangna region in bangkok

And she could divorce him. It is possible. 

http://www.siam-legal.com/legal_services/Thailand-Contested-Divorce-Faqs.php

 

But also think long term. You've just invested in a house in Australia. Do you really want to be getting into a relationship with a married woman, who lives in another country, and speaks a different language from you? You're setting yourself up for a long rocky road it feels... 

 thanks for link I think the problem is she has no grounds for divorce under thai law even though she dosent love him, in our culture we can divorce because no longer love.     She works in an embroidery type place that her husband or mum owns, she essentially does stuff all.   

 

 She does the design on the computer or something and has a lot of spare time on the PC when I Skype with her she was skyping from work and I even saw her ma a few times.    I not sure where iphone came from.             I do speak basic thai and I was going to go to after hours tafe college here in Oz to learn more on my return.

 

http://s5.photobucket.com/user/jasurat/media/1609992_721595474552057_1868331062_n.jpg.html  This her at work.

 

 I don't think it is a joint scam from her and thai husband to extract money from me as I know his facebook account (both her and him don't know I know this) and he wrote on facebook about her going with me, whether to try make her lose face im not sure, if was scam he wouldn't..    Is very complicated situation.     I think I just have to wait till she speaks directly with me again then ask the tough questions.

 

 

 I don't think scam she just wants her freedom because she is trapped, in work and in life.    At the worst I had a great holiday with thai guide and companion who saved me paying farang price on many things.   Truly was a happy two weeks.    I have my doubts too, but I have not lost faith in her yet I wait to speak to her directly as he cant keep her in the house forever.       I wont be paying him off to divorce her unless I win lotto

 I know, but we skyped every day for 2 months for like 2 hours a day so I didn't just fall in love over 2 weeks.  You learn a lot about each other when you video call each other this much so I already had feelings for her before I went to Thailand.            I don't believe she would Skype with me this much if she wasn't really interested me as she was always asking in email "you Skype tonight mai".                    Its to much time to just try and scam someone, a scammer or some one who just wanted a gik payment wouldn't invest that much time.

 

 I appreciate all replies, cynicism included as I need to look from different view points as I feel quite confused at the moment.   Mrjlh I appreciate your post mak.

 I know it looks stupid, I know there is 1000's of stories that state "but we really love each other"......but you know there is the one in a thousand that really do.          I have had a relationship with a thai woman before for 8 years so im not oblivious to thai culture.

 

 Yes she is not an educated girl.    She was married at 19 and is now 26 and no longer loves this man, she wants out but he wont let her even though of her infidelity with me.       She is of good heart and only wants her freedom from a loveless marriage I believe this, I never gave her money of any kind.        Her mother and Thai husband knew I was coming to Thailand to see her and were okay with it but once it actually happened jealousy kicked in and they changed there tune.           It is like a story of forbidden love.

 

 I want to know if there is anything she can do to get divorce under thai law, without me having to pay bribe to husband.