BigKahuna

Just now, DILLIGAD said:

Also expectations only grow, they don't (usually) get less so start as you mean to go on.


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Yes. Only going to end bad if it starts with payments and deception.

1 hour ago, meatboy said:

the 50k. mark is what he needs to finance her,and his living exs.for a start,the rest might come later.

and he needs to think about medical care and immigration status,because he is not married to her yet.

 

Why finance anyone? Build a real relationship or hire hookers. Hiring a part time hooker and pretending it is real is only going to hurt and cost a lot.

20 minutes ago, meatboy said:

i got to say you have kept a cool head dispite the negative posts.

we have all been there,and anyone who hasnt is telling porkies.

as lemonjelly posts its all true,myself and i am going back to the early 80's

when one of my gfs.got caught with her pants down,i used to pick her up at the local mom and pop store,she lived at the bottom of the soi,well this morning i was early and the store wasnt open,i new her address from me posting the odd envelope to her,well keith i found her one room appartment,and there was the deceipt,out side was her slippers and a pair of size tens.

when i confronted her she changed from that loving,polite, girl into a rearly nasty peice of work.

so after awhile you harden up to the lies,deceipt and tears.

so take it all on board keith and just DONT give her what you cant afford.you will soon find out if there any ifs and buts.

it might take time so BE AWARE.

 

All been there? Since when do all people hire a part time pretend gf?

Try building a real one. Then there's a chance of success.

9 minutes ago, Kwasaki said:

That's a rather naive comment.

If you can't work out a real person from a scammer in 2 days then you are a fool.

20 minutes ago, Mark123456 said:

Of course she doesn't need 50k a month, that's a ridiculous statement to make without knowing a lot more about her situation and lifestyle. My major worry, if I were you, would be why you feel the need to seek reassurance from strangers regarding your future partner's honesty. I don't mean that in a rude or flippant way; I would be genuinely concerned if I were you. After all, you know her and we don't.

Spend 2 days in a row with somebody and by the end of day 2 if you can't work out whether the person is genuine or a liar then go see a doctor and get some scans done. 

Just now, Mark123456 said:

I'm not indignant but you are painting with a brush that is far too broad. I've been with my gf and recently wife for 10 1/2 years and never had any negative experiences with money. I have had one or two financial dealings with her family that I wasn't too happy about - they insisted on paying off the outstanding balance of our mortgage last year, which I didn't want them to do - but overall I couldn't be happier.

He was dating trash that's all. If he couldnt work out he was 4th in importance for months you have to wonder about his awareness.

3 hours ago, meatboy said:

sorry keith but you have come a cropper at the first hurdle you have broken the golden rule,by promising her MONEY before you start,unless her ex is paying her to look after her son,15,000bht.wont go far.

you need at least 50,000 a month.

That's a lot of sick buffalos and broken down cars. 

Why pay anything? Hire a different one every week if you have to pay for it. At least you get some variety.

8 hours ago, Keith5588 said:

Wow so many replies, a lot of good advice, thank you.

I stayed in Khon Kaen for the 4 months, I also stayed in Khon Kaen for 2 months over 1 year ago.

I had some friends there and most of the time played golf 4 days a week, plus swimming for the exercise. I don’t drink much alcohol.

Concerning the ladies, I did have 2 short relationships with Khon Kaen Thai ladies, I didn’t give them any money as they did not need any and they lived close to where I was staying. Both relationships were not right for a long term relationship, I think they were both nice honest ladies but not right for me.

I was then communicating with my present lady, a long story but although her family home is in Khon Kaen provence she was working in Bangkok. The problem was she was seemed more and more like the one for me (I am looking for a long term relationship), and she writes English very well. The problem is her working in Bangkok. She works in a factory and earns a basic 10,000 baht per month but she regularly does a lot of overtime and so earns 15,000 baht per month. She has given me the name of the company she works for and I have seen it in video calls. She has an older son who is married and has a job but she has to support her youngest son who is 15 and at school in Bangkok.

She managed to take 6 weeks leave from her work and to be with me in Khon Kaen.

Basically I would not want to live in Bangkok because I think the air is unhealthy, also I would not want her to work. Her son can stay in Bangkok in the same small house because other family live close.

What do I do?  We got along well. When we discussed money I straight away said I would give her the 15,000 baht per month, I think that is only fair.  It is within my monthly budget and renting out my house will help.

Is she honest with me?  I’m not sure, so far I think she is.

Thanks everyone for all the good advice, I now understand more than I did.

I had already decided never to spend money in Thailand that I would want back.

Been busy today so haven’t  telephoned HMRC yet

Thanks again

Keith

In basic negotiations you never concede money up front. You have just signalled to the other party that you are a soft target which means it could go from 15000 to 30000 just as easy.

If there is an age gap she would see an atm machine on legs.

Any relationship based on money rather than love is likely to fail sooner or later.

Just now, lelapin said:

I rented my apartment using a managing agent in London when I first came out to live in Thailand 10 years ago.

 

Every month I had the tenants complaining they needed something to be repaired or replaced. After one year I had made about 1% nett income based on the value of the place.

 

Decided to sell and used some of the money to buy a place here to live and another to rent  out, on which I get more than 5% and live nearby so can monitor any requests for repairs etc. to be done there.

You can get 6% dividend yield on shares. No tenants. No repairs.

Yes and drunks can turn around and share the fun. Terrible idea.

Why the fuss over 200 baht?

Just now, whiteman said:

money hasn't run out same lady for over 13 years living well and with in my means got 30 years least on the house and land but I will be long gone b4 then.

 

Pick the right lady and life is bliss it also  helps if she speaks good English and has no debts and only a step father and step brother, she earns her own money and she has never asked me for any $$$$ in 13 years.

 

She bought my old mazda 3 off me for cash 600,000 and it is still in my name today.

 

So they are out there if you are a good person you will get a good person back so my partner tells me

Correct. Good attracts good. Trash attracts trash.

44 minutes ago, clive dunstan said:

I read last month,can't remember where,it's estimated 2/3 of the british people living in spain have not informed either the uk or Spanish govts that they're living there full-time

Some of these people would be rich and travelling around.

36 minutes ago, yogi100 said:

 

I'd say stay in a tourist area. Life in the boondocks will bore you blind. I've known several expats who moved out of Pattaya with their ladyloves only to regret ever having done so. There are lots of expats in Pattaya and it's easy to make friends there. 

 

Who wants to retire to some out of the way, boring dump where you'll have no one to talk to, no English language TV or newspapers, quite often no internet and everyone goes to bed at 10pm. 

 

I agree 100% about the GF's village, she'll be the governor. In Pattaya, Phuket etc you'll be your own boss.

Thai is the local language. Stay in the UK if you want to watch English TV and talk to poms.

22 minutes ago, Dipterocarp said:

Japan and Korea the same. I no longer understand why defecation and urination has been sexualized anyway.

The recent trans people in a bathroom rubbish debate proves toilets should all be unisex.

So you want 14yo girls in toilets with 50yo men?

Crazy

Why take serious life advice from strangers?

Just now, smotherb said:

Now, big boy, I thought we agreed not to talk about it

Is that what your mum said?

1 minute ago, smotherb said:

You need to travel more; Thailand is not the only place where attendants clean while you dirty. In some places an attendant will come up and massage your back while you're at the urinal.

 

Many years ago in Bangkok, I had both hands bandaged from a motorcycle accident; the nice lady attendant helped me use the toilet.

 

I think you need to open your horizons.

Lucky she had a pair of tweezers handy

I wonder if these cleaners have done any extra services

Thais like to order a whole bottle of whisky to share then mix themselves.

3 hours ago, kannot said:

didnt get him any taste though

Dont like the colour?

On 23/04/2017 at 10:34 PM, Dagnabbit said:

 

What's humble is he'll be dead broke in 5 years.

Just like all those idiots from the NFL that woke up one day to realize it wasnt an endless stream.

He'll be teaching Muay Thai at 100 Baht an hour soon enough...


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Big name ex fighters can tour western nations and charge good money for seminars.

He could also own 3 or 4 houses that his family lives in. Who knows.

Eat

Drink

Go toilet

Sleep

Shower

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On 17/04/2017 at 0:02 AM, Kwasaki said:

lf anyone believes that web site report they need help.

Never seen a list like this that many agree with. It seems the lists get changed each year and its a way of promoting certain places.