mikehongpark

17 hours ago, losworld said:

Was it an ongoing thing with a potential mate or some fling?  

It was a ongoing side boyfriend while waiting for the visa approval to come to the USA.

17 hours ago, Sydebolle said:

Are you for real? 22 years age difference makes you the perpetual sugar daddy, the kids will be HER life insurance. You do not want to have kids, the first one when you're 49 years old. You'll attend the graduation ceremony as an old man and the last child might remember its graduation with dad in a wheel chair or buried on plot 8424A. 

Walk away, cancel the flights, write off the booze and get a life. You can get a Thai out of Thailand but you cannot get Thailand out of a Thai. The girl takes zero risks and if she has off springs with you you'll be paying alimony straight through your nose. 

How often does a partner have to cheat you until you realize what really goes on? Good luck! 

I told that everything is cancelled and let her mom in on some of the details. She was pretty much having a side boyfriend until her visa is approved.  

19 hours ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

That's a nice ring. Did you get it back and if you did mind selling it? 

 

I haven't given my wife anything nice in a while and she sure deserves it.

I told her she can upgrade this ring from 2/2018 wedding, about a month back, but good thing that she didn't. The new ring was 3x the price after trading this one in.

18 hours ago, catman20 said:

proud of yourself when you look yourself in the mirror. good luck time is a healer.

Thank you. Haven't called my friends who already booked. But I have talked to people who were booking soon.

18 hours ago, Hummin said:

No problem to find out who owns the pics, so please do not say you stole it from an webpage? 

Of course, try finding out any info from this pic and you will know when it was taken, etc...

14 hours ago, BestB said:

Hey OP, just thought about financial side of things you can always play smart.

 

Tell her, if she repays for all your losses , wedding costs, gold etc, you will not object to green card but if she does not, you will notify US authorities of the split up and her green card along with American dream are gone.

 

Just some food for thought

 

 

No, I wouldn't ever do anything illegal. She could never repay anyways, as she only makes 32,000 baht per month and is supporting her parents and brother. She's been using my high limit CC for the last 1+ year, but never spent recklessly. No more than $300 - $500 USD per months. In addition, she got fired from her job last month as she met up with me for a European trip 2 months ago but took sick days when she didn't have any vacations, against my advice. Her employer found out and she got canned.

19 hours ago, billybog said:

Just the fact that you are writing this alone...should tell you what to do. RUN..RUN  as fast as you can. There is no reason to cheat, she either loves you or loves the lifestyle. If she has cheated once...be assured she has cheated before.  The final say of course is in your court....but once she has a marriage license....you are toast.

We have a marriage license in Thailand on 2/23/2018. However, the visa process just got approved to proceed with DS-261 this week. She has no problem with the divorce papers as she has more to lose than me, as without divorce, she cannot claim a next victim.  

19 hours ago, Elkski said:

Mike, I read all of both threads.   The first thread got off course. I swear if I met the guy who quoted that chat text  log I would toss my beer in his face. 

 

Don't take any offense from all the haters.  They don't read all or have very poor comprehension.   But you did leave out the married part in the first thread.  I am assuming you are officially married in the eyes of USA since your using this for the green card.  I think you need to worry about your assets in USA.   I'm not sure how the green card works.  Can you stop it ? Or is it up to her to get?  Forget the booze 20 bottles at 2000 baht is nothing .  

You were  stupid to shower her with gifts and travels you now regret.  Giving parents  15,000 is crazy.  You can support a mia noi fir not much more.   You need to go to Thailand as a  single stud and claim your place.  You won't believe the choices you will have.   I think 20 years younger is ok and I've heard about 30 years working until the American man died leaving a well off widow.  Forget about rushing into kids.  You have time.  

All these guys who think once trust is lost it's over are wrong.  But you were  married.   If you had said this in first thread you would have had more haters on her.  the talk about leaving you after she gets your money is the deal breaker for me. 

You met a Thai in America that is much different than a Thai woman in Thailand.   

I'm glad you have decided to end the relationship.   Your not the only story i have read about in my 3 years doing careful research via massive reading and many visits to Thailand.    

My rule list I have learned. 

Don't spend more than you can loose. 

Trust but verify

If it good today it will be better tomorrow so don't rush into things, time is on man's side. 

Stay worth more alive than dead

Keep finances private. 

Don't flaunt money

Support is part if love for a Thai woman

Don't bring a Thai woman to the USA but I may break this rule as Thailand seems to less attractive  as each month passes. 

 

 

You are a very wise person. Thanks for the advices.

37 minutes ago, Elkski said:

Mike, I read all of both threads.   The first thread got off course. I swear if I met the guy who quoted that chat text  log I would toss my beer in his face. 

 

Don't take any offense from all the haters.  They don't read all or have very poor comprehension.   But you did leave out the married part in the first thread.  I am assuming you are officially married in the eyes of USA since your using this for the green card.  I think you need to worry about your assets in USA.   I'm not sure how the green card works.  Can you stop it ? Or is it up to her to get?  Forget the booze 20 bottles at 2000 baht is nothing .  

You were  stupid to shower her with gifts and travels you now regret.  Giving parents  15,000 is crazy.  You can support a mia noi fir not much more.   You need to go to Thailand as a  single stud and claim your place.  You won't believe the choices you will have.   I think 20 years younger is ok and I've heard about 30 years working until the American man died leaving a well off widow.  Forget about rushing into kids.  You have time.  

All these guys who think once trust is lost it's over are wrong.  But you were  married.   If you had said this in first thread you would have had more haters on her.  the talk about leaving you after she gets your money is the deal breaker for me. 

You met a Thai in America that is much different than a Thai woman in Thailand.   

I'm glad you have decided to end the relationship.   Your not the only story i have read about in my 3 years doing careful research via massive reading and many visits to Thailand.    

My rule list I have learned. 

Don't spend more than you can loose. 

Trust but verify

If it good today it will be better tomorrow so don't rush into things, time is on man's side. 

Stay worth more alive than dead

Keep finances private. 

Don't flaunt money

Support is part if love for a Thai woman

Don't bring a Thai woman to the USA but I may break this rule as Thailand seems to less attractive  as each month passes. 

 

 

Thank you, I have copied and pasted your message so I can take some of your points as a reminder. ???? Need to change myself a little on being too nice (sucker) to be taken advantage of.

For the green card process, just got approval from the National Visa processing Center to proceed but if I don't proceed then it's invalid by April 2019. She can proceed but if she does, I will get setup for an interview which I won't attend.

3 hours ago, wombat said:

We had a small ceremony/reception with just her side of the family in Feb 2018. I've vested $150,000+ dollars since we met: on vacations, gifts, airfares, Sin Sod, 24K golds, and the wedding costs last year......

i only read as far as this....you need to polish your bullshit up for it to be believable....fmd, amateur hour on TV.

What's wrong with you, thinking that somehow a person looking for help/advice is BSing.

25 minutes ago, marcusarelus said:

"I am 48 and she is 26" 

 

"That's where I stopped reading... She's young enough to be your daughter and also have a 4yr old kid !!

I know love works in mysterious ways, but come on....."

 

I agree.  26 is way too old.  Had too many men.  Try 20 next time.

 

 

 

 

4 yo kid???

2 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

You are making mistakes now, you told earlier they already booked.

There's more coming. I've let her go.

OPs gotta go now. Thanks for anyone who offered advice.

1 hour ago, RicUSA said:

Am confused - if you have been married 11 months and have not gotten her pregnant by now  ?! How is having another wedding ceremony going to expedite having a child?!?  When the kid is 16 and you are 62 - yes you will be a grandpa in some ways - just my opinion

 

 

 

 

She wanted to wait for her to be allowed into the USA before getting pregnant, which I understood. She used to have a 10 year tourist Visa then we got married in Thailand, and now it's illegal for her to come with her tourist Visa and need to wait for the spousal visa. yeah, I screwed up and didn't do the fiance visa route.

2 minutes ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

How much was the sinsod?

1 mil baht, with a verbal word to send the family $400-$500 USD per month

Gotta meet friends up for dinner. The friends that I told to hold off on purchasing their flights.

3 minutes ago, HighPriority said:

Can you live stream it on FB for us ?

No, then you will know my identify and probably defame me or something.

3 minutes ago, tifino said:

 

which is/was the 'official' wedding?   

 - the one in LOS was one at the Amphur? or was one at the temple with the monk and family?

 - if the LOS one done official (Amphur), then the US one is not a 2nd wedding, but just a keep the US family happy to be included one.

 - and so, the US one is not going to have any relevance to Green Card actions... 

 

the hazy answer to whether are you actually married yet or not, depends on the above

On 2/23/2018 was the official at the amphur. A day after that was the wedding reception with just her side of family and friends. Green card applications were sent in 4/2018. Notice of action received around 10/2018. Approval to proceed received yesterday. 2nd wedding reception to occur on 2/23/2019 (1 year after marriage registration at amphur)

10 minutes ago, kevin612 said:

you can forgive her if she stays in america only. She will cheat on you again if she stays in thailand.

The National Visa Processing Center approval email came yesterday and she should be able to come in 1-2 months if all of the interview goes smoothly. However, I am given many advice on this forum to drop her in my life. However, I will give her a chance to talk in about 3-4 hours.

7 minutes ago, puukao said:

Send screen shots of something that gives credibility.

I can give screen shot of anything you want. Wedding invitation? My flight? Credit card transactions? Wedding cert from last year? Of course, I will be blacking out personal info.

2 minutes ago, biggerpill said:

Hi my friend

I am married to thai lady for 7 years..I am 64 years old and from USA.. had at least 30 girlfriends before I met my wife..wake up  she,s young and using you for your money..get rid of her quick and stop wasting your money..now and.in the future..I have large business in USA but do not flash my wealth..your BIG mistake here

 

Good luck

M

True and I realize my mistakes. I would hide my wealth too if I was in your position. 

1 minute ago, puukao said:

but if she can't speak English well, then you are probably also doomed.

 

anyhow, it's funny stuff......  she got that money!!!  winner.

 

i hope you marry her in America and then she takes half.  

Her english is pretty good when I met her in Myrtle Beach 3.5 years ago. It's got a lot better now too.

I was already leaning towards moving on, and now I'm 99% sure.