fredwiggy

You may not be a bad father, but teaching your daughters to be gold diggers is bad behavior on your part.

The average Joe just might be the one a normal woman needs. Everyone needs money, but it's not necessary to be rich to have a good marriage. Looks are what first attracts a normal non gold digger woman. Cash and assets are what attracts a gold digger, meaning she will sleep with anyone who has enough money to buy her "things". Things which all wear out, break and not last. Only a stupid girl goes for just money. Yes, they might have more of those "things" than her friends, and many people, but does she have a trustworthy, loving, non abusive, non cheating, non addicted partner to take care of her? No, she has someone who will buy her things to feed her user ego, and she'll never be happy with things. No one is, unless they also have a good partner that will always be there when those things wear out and can't be replaced someday. A good personality can come from any income level, but finding one with a good personality is still hard. As far as thinking you know what kind of people are on this forum, only guesses can be made. No matter what anyone says here, you still don't know them. If they are consistently replying the same way, you can assume they are that way in real life, but still only assume. Granted,most retirees are older men, but not all are bald, which means nothing, as many women like bald men. They might be fat, but most people of retiree age have extra fat when they get older. Some have been fat all their lives. Some get lazier and add weight from inactivity.Some are like me, who have maintained a lean body all their lives. As far as uneducated, that's another thing you can't tell from replies, unless they are consistently wrong, which a normal person wouldn't do intentionally. I don't care at all about gold diggers. I wouldn't go with one even if I was a millionaire. Money doesn't buy what I've been looking for. Character isn't bought, it's the way people already are. People that whine about how their life is because they don't take care of themselves have only themselves to blame. A man can be fat and still be a good, loving man. A man can be fit and be an <deleted>. Character again, is what makes a normal woman attracted, along with humor, attention to detail and being a good listener.

Sins are sins, all are meant to cause pain. One might be worse than others, but all are sins. Using contraceptions are a way of not bringing children into this world you don't want to raise. Sex happens because we are animals that think we need it. Using birth control is a necessity if you don't have the financial means or desire to be responsible for the children you make.

Do you not realize there are millions of women who are gold diggers that have old,smelly, fat men inside them every day? Teaching a woman to be independent and about the actions of men is the best thing a father can do. Then the girl can find a man that wants her for her, not her money, and she, being independent, doesn't have to settle with the before mentioned kind, but with a man that's like minded, and looks at her as a partner and not an object to be inside. School girls give it away for many reasons, mainly to be like their other clueless peers, or not having a father that at least tries to teach their daughters how boys are. Not that they'll listen because a lot of girls feel the need to fit in. Some smart ones go to higher education, not wasting their time with boys, who not only don't understand how to please a girl, but to stay when and if a child is made. Teaching your children to be gold diggers, users, is teaching them to give their bodies to only the rich, who largely think they are entitled, and are more likely to look for outside attention.

I did say repent. I know what I've done isn't what he intended. That's why I'm still trying my best to be a good partner, hoping the present one is the one. I like the idea of marriage, and do what I'm supposed to. Maybe I should have stayed with the one wife I had. She died last year from a heart attack, and I'm positive the medication she was on for many years before I met her was to blame. This one in Thailand is a narcissist, abusive, a liar and a cheat. She did things that would have landed her in jail in the US, or gotten her killed by someone less restrained. And do you know when you're going to pass? No one does, and always assume it might be tomorrow instead of today. I think about it all the time, especially seeing all these actors and musicians from my time period passing daily.

It's not having a good heart. God knows your heart, meaning what you really feel. In sickness and in health doesn't mean their cheating, abusing, kidnapping your child, addiction to painkillers and the behavior from it, but having a disease they're suffering from. Narcissism isn't really curable, even if they want it to happen. Why are you hoping for some wiggle room if you don't believe in God anyway?

Everyone sins. That's why Jesus sacrificed himself to save us, to give us a chance to repent before we die. God knows our hearts, and our actions are because we chose to do whatever we want. Some don't care about consequences, some are afraid of them, but still do bad things. I know I'm going to heaven when I die, because I have a good heart, and believe in God no matter what <deleted> happens in my life. I don't use women, and always have wanted a relationship with a woman. I've made bad choices based on attraction, and live to regret it, especially here. The older you get, the closer you are to passing. I've been a bodybuilder for 50 years, but am not near in the shape I was when I was 50. Still lean strong and fast, but my joints hurt all the time because I overworked them. I've been humbled for quite awhile now, and hate what goes on in this world, and question God all the time, but when you consider you only live to 85 years or so, that's nothing compared to forever. I know you don't believe,or at least you say you don't, so you may just blow this off, but your kids want to know you. That's a fact. If you don't care, then nothing can be done, but if you make the first move, you might be surprised what happens. Your daughter came to Chiang Mai. There's a reason she did. That was your chance, but there's always a chance unless you simply don't care. Again, why give so much care for this one here and nothing for the other ones? They aren't your ex wife. they are individuals, and damaged. Up to you to help them before you go.

How do you know what rules I break? Getting married again because I left someone who betrayed me of course was my choice, and staying with someone addicted to pain pills and acting accordingly isn't a good thing either. Maybe I should have stayed, maybe not. God doesn't want us to be miserable , even if we make bad choices out of attraction. No excuses from me, just the way I chose to go. God has rules that all make sense, but not loving your children I'm sure he frowns upon. Again, if you don't want to raise kids, nor love them, don't have any. The world is filled with millions of fatherless children who go astray and hurt others. It's hard enough trying to raise a child in this world right especially if your kids have peers who are damaged from their parents.

Who's your God? I know you don't believe in the God, so I'm guessing it might be one of the many statues or perhaps a tree? If it is God, then using birth control in your case I'm sure he wouldn't mind, as he believes in family, and that means being in contact with and loving them, no matter how far away they are, and since he knows your heart, he knows you don't want anything to do with the kids you made previously. We know, by what you've said here, that you have a Thai child that you've helped with school. Why concentrate on this one and neglect the others? Aren't they worth as much?

Kids always take sides in a divorce, and that's what hurts them. Your child didn't betray you. We don't know what you did with your wife but again, if you didn't do harm to your children, they will still want a relationship with you eventually. Some take quite awhile to get over the anger a divorce causes, and sometimes they take the side they most relate to, and that in turn hurts them also. I don't understand what you mean when you say "soft lads". I'm guessing it means we forgive too easily. If you don't forgive, you keep the hurt in you. The other party you hate has no idea nor care what you're thinking. People don't forget what others do to them. You just deal with it and move on, because they can't hurt you anymore. No matter what the other side says about you, unless that child is so close minded she can't act, she will still want to know the other side's story. If you hurt their mom, I understand why they might not want to talk with you, but anyone can apologize and admit wrong. Then you can have a relationship with them. Why bring kids into this world if you don't want a relationship with them? Better to use a condom or birth control.

How do you know what I've found? Besides that, do you not know that finding a good partner is not only the most important thing a person can do, but also the hardest? Most women will never find a good, loyal, faithful, trustworthy, kind, considerate and non abusive man. Having a relationship end is not always a failure. It can be that they had different future goals in life, so needed to split before things got too involved. It's also not a failure if the other partner cheated on you or was abusive or money hungry. That's a failure in their lives, and it's not worth staying with that kind, as it only brings you down.

Low self esteem, anger, a desire for conquests to feed ego. Sexual needs not fulfilled, sometimes because they weren't treating their partners with love and respect, sometimes because their wives only married because of his money, sometimes because they are damaged goods. Immaturity and the need for variety, thinking they somehow deserve it.

Some can't have children. That means they themselves are the family. many people have very satisfying lives without the responsibility of children. All of who have had kids know the sacrifices and work they take to raise to adulthood. Some just want the relationship between themselves. Nothing wrong with that. They can do anything they want, including traveling, without having to worry about small children.

Women cheat because they were not brought up right by parents, and didn't have a good relationship with their fathers. They also cheat because they have been with too many men, as is the case with many bar girls, and they don't look at men as anything besides cash. Statistically, about 25% of married women cheat. hardly all.

You assume a lot, meaning you aren't very bright. We all have seen what you've said about your kids and wife. Maybe you were the reason she left and didn't want you to contact them, although she can't stop that anyway unless you did them harm. Don't try and BS someone who knows. Plenty of women are satisfied if they aren't damaged by other men or their parents while young. Plenty of women aren't greedy and need big houses to show off to people who really aren't their friends. Plenty of women respond to their partner actually listening to them and stay because they are moral thinkers that believe in a commitment. All wives aren't whores. Only women who sell their bodies are. All women are not transactions. That's your thinking because you purchase yours and maybe didn't treat your Christian wife right. What you said that was true, which is a small part of your replies to myself and others, is that mentally ill women are never satisfied, as depression and narcissism wreaks havoc on the human brain, and they find it hard, or impossible, to interact with others in personal relationships. As far as invisible friends, I have no idea how someone who has never met someone else can make such a moronic statement. I have hundreds of friends in 3 countries and all over the US. I treat them right also, and they return in kind. With your background, you really have no reason to get involved with others here, as they know the real you, shown from what you've been saying for years. I gave you advice about your kids, that you should contact them, but before that you said you didn't want to have a relationship with them. That's normal thinking? And you can comment on someone else who loves all of his children and talks to them weekly? I don't fantasize my life. I just take it as it comes.

If a person can enjoy a glass of wine or beer a day, it's not an addiction, and can actually be beneficial to health. Over one drink it can start to be a problem. Weekend drinking, a few glasses, isn't an addiction in any way. People have been drinkers and lived to 100, as long as they drink moderately, eat healthy, exercise and get enough sleep.

They do all the time. Rice should not be left out more than 2 hours. Refrigerated it will last a few days, or frozen if need be. Raw chicken sold here at stores will get bacteria very quickly, especially Salmonella. It should be stored at 40 degrees, like it is in the US, and wrapped in plastic. Cooking here, using hot oil and boiling, does reduce or eliminate a lot of bacteria, but the chicken should be cut into small pieces. I've gotten the runs here way more than back home in America, and I'm sure leaving food out, as I've seen in many homes, is the culprit. Koi Pla, raw fish with spices, kills many in Thailand every year, up to 20,000 it's said. I know personally of two farangs wives who died from liver disease from eating it. People don't usually discuss their bathroom habits with anyone besides their doctor and maybe a close relative, so no one has any idea how many suffer from food borne illnesses.

When a person has an addiction, it involves everyone around them, most importantly, their family. It affects every day of their life, and brings down those who love them. Posting it here is a way of release in a positive way.. Although pride isn't usually a good thing, it's a way of saying to the world, I did it, so can you, which does reach others, just like an AA meeting. There are alcoholics on this forum , statistically speaking, and some of them might be hurting also. Why belittle their pain, their knowing others are just like them, or their want to get rid of it?

Yes it was, besides of course bullets and death from drinking too much anyway.

They feel good about themselves, which is the most important thing in love. Self love first. A person who's become addicted has a hard time getting rid of that addiction, as any cigarette smoker can attest. I think it's great that they want to better themselves. Drinking isn't a problem until it becomes an addiction, and the damage it can cause. Some have to stay away from it and it's very hard. Give them credit because you don't understand it if you're not going through it. Just like having depression. If you don't want to add constructive comments, you don't have to reply. Easy.

Because smiles sell, as per politicians, salesmen, and those wanting to get something from others. They also hide how a person is really feeling, because of the former.

Always give without any expectation of a return. If they don't do it on their own, then you know what selfish is. Then you find one not selfish. That's where the most important thing in a relationship besides mutual trust comes out. Communication. Asking for what you want, asking them what they want. Talking about everything to become closer. The most important thing a woman wants, besides being able to trust their partner, is to be heard. Men have a hard time actually listening, without being distracted or not caring enough to understand what she is saying.

It's very easy to find people these days, unless they live in a tropical rain forest. Being on the grid you leave trails. People talk. Of course he can make the first move.

If you continue to date and romance your partner, they usually want to make love, IF they are normal thinking and not just in it for the cash. Pleasing goes both ways. I always think of my partner before me. It means more to me that they are satisfied. Damaged goods are very hard to keep happy. Holding grudges from childhood hurts future relationships. Some never let things go so it's best to move on because they might never be happy, and that's mostly their job anyway.

People don't change much after around 30. What you had before was what they are. If a woman is neglected and not listened to, they get pissed, and turn off the "rumpty", or at the least do it begrudgingly. A lot will give you sex until they have you hooked because they see money. It's pretty easy to tell a person between 6 months to a year. they can't hide themselves forever. After a couple of years you saw things but might have let them slide, though red flags are always there. It's not about being stupid but desire for them.