Hi,
I was married to my Thai wife who came to USA about 11 years ago. After 8 years she wanted to go back to thaland for good because we were not getting along and she was not happy here. She had a 10-year green card but has abandoned it by leaving the US for so long (3 yrs ago). The marriage was not registered in Thailand. Fast forward to present date, she wants a divorce that is uncontested and does not want anything just the divorce. So I thought this was going to be very simple. But it turns out it's going to be very complicated for reasons I will explain. I was about to file the papers in the California court but when it came to serving papers to her in Thailand I found this was going to be very difficult. You have to follow the Hague Convention - a treaty between Thailand and the US. This is very complex and very difficult and would probably take a year if not longer. This is the only way to legal papers according to attorneys I talk to. She cannot come back to the US because she abandoned her green card. Another complicated issue is we had a child who is about 12 years old now. At age two I found out I am not the biological father and I have proof of that. So talking with a friend he said the best way to go about this is to use an address out here in the US and say she lives there. As for the child do not even mention him at all because he is not mine. So I submit court papers just like that. But these are all lies. Even though proof of service would have to be lies too I would have to make up someone who served the papers. And after 90 days I would win. But there are so many lies on these forms. So I was advised by somebody else that I should withdraw the petition and start over. Only this time she will be the petitioner and I will be the recipient so I will not have to serve papers internationally. All that is required is one of us lives in the US which is me. And according to California law the child must be reported because he was born after the marriage which makes me the legal father. One thing I did not agree with when I originally filed the petition was that automatically there was a calculated amount of alimony and child support to pay regardless of my situation. But she wants an uncontested divorce. So would a document called divorce settlement agreement which states no property no assets no alimony no child support be enough to get me out of owing money. I am willing to give her a lump sum after we settle in the divorce. We both have to still disclose all of our assets and property and anything we had during the marriage to the court. But I don't understand why we have to disclose all this when it's going to be uncontested.
Has anybody gone through the situation which is supposed to be simple but it's turning out to be very complicated. My original petition has been dismissed and I am looking at starting over very soon.
