tutsiwarrior

it might be difficult to find industrial strength borax but the element can be found in indian/pakistani tooth powder....cones in asmall plastic botle. A cat got into my car when I left it unattended once and sprayed it. I got the tooth powder and sprinkled it around and it did the trick...it might work on mange as well...it is a big constituent of the powder.

try a small area and see if it works...basically a pH adjusting device...it's one alkaline MF....

as falangs, we basically intrude upon the local sleeping arrangementd with our western insistance that we sleep alone unless sex is required. This is reasnable as we all know what we need for a goodnight's sleep...best to keep peace in the office and with the boss and not fall asleep at work.

I have had to put my foot down so as to not have adolescent nieces crawl into bed with me and the wife and have variously been accused of being a pedophile on this forum. It's just something that you have to deal with when living in a traditional thai arrangement. I have now insured that the adolescent nieces have their own arrangement and that they are expected to use it. However, the 15 y.o.has gotten ill and has insisted upon sleeping with her mother and is not alarmed when she wakes up next to a fat, hairy, 57 y.o falang. The wife sleeps partially naked so as to be available to her husband. The kids always sleep fuilly clothed as they normally do...pisses me off as I don't like dirty street chlothes in the bed...

With the wife we reserve sex for when we are alone, of course...

'to bed, to bed said sleepy head, let's wait awhile said sloe...take up the cup said greedy gup, le't's sup before we go...'

yeah...so, to continue...I'm now in the UK discussing the great issues with my 13 y.o. son who has just become tall and hansom and is thinking about girls. His mother does her best when the issue arises but ye got ta give the kids a good talkin' to. The ex is not above demonising masturbation so I say to Louie that there ain't nothin' wrong with beating the meat and now with hormones and etc the urge may be greater than otherwise....and, to punctuate, I said that whoever tries to tell you that you've been displaying inappropriate behavior look him in the eye and say 'I masturbate, don't you?'

now, I haveta face whatever comes my way with the stepdaughter and the nieces back in Suphan...the wife is caught up with the cultural embarrassment. Like any parent, I just want to say 'ain't nothin' wrong with whatever you do so long as YOU have control and have considered the consequenses'. This aspect of the whole sex business with teenages gets lost. ie., YOU HAVE A CHOICE and godammit don't anyone tell you different...you just need the necessary information to do so...

a few years ago when the oldest niece fcked up and got kicked outta school a school administrator came to the house to discuss the issue. She was a middle aged chinese lady that could speak english. I'm gonna go and try to find her to ask about materials, pamphets, etc that I can display conspicuously about the house and then to wave in young faces at dinner time. 'I'll give you 100 baht if you read that...' (make it 500 an' a new mobile uncle tuts then we'll talk about it... )

there's got to be others out there that have faced this falang/thai adolescent dilemma...lets hear from you...

(cough...hack...slutter....) 'reason to be here?'...I ain't got to show yew no stinkin' reason! tutsi is now in brighton exchangin' words of wisdom wid his son...drinkin' fer the first time after 4 months of quiet contemplation in the saudi desert....Suphanburi is the 'via en rumbo...' where the wife says that the tutsimobile is broken down an' she gots to get other wheels to meet me at the airport two days from now...that pisses me off...

tutsi's manner and appearance have already inflamed polite company an' brighton ain't a polite sorta place...so look out when I gets back to de ranch wid de vodka an' de laptop...insults an' verbal preversions have more integrity when uttered from home ground...

(cough...vomit...'Louie!...where can we get breakfast aroun' here?...)

when I fly into BKK this week I shall be bringing a splendid array of super-dooper body scrubbing shower mitts from the Danube hyperstore in Jeddah for my beloved nieces...there shall also be a grand selection of 'I Love Dubai' t-shirts, ball caps and other souveniers from the duty free...

if anyone at airport customs so much as lifts an eyebrow I shall become very, very cross

when the wife's family gang up and head for the beach they usually go to Cha Am. When I asked what was wrong with Hua Hin she wrinkled her nose and said 'no like...'. Maybe something to keep in mind if you're the only falang aboard...

a possible 'verification' scenario emerges: behind closed doors tutsi barks questions in english to the wife to be put to the step daughter...shades of the 'football test' in the movie Diner...

actually quite effective in our family. The eldest neice, now 15, has been a bit of a cow the pas 18months (staying out with freinds, stealing money from nans purse to buy mobile, knocking around with a boy, basically things kids get up to all over the world but cause she is thai & living with 60/70year old+ carers they have no idea how to control her & her own mum has no interest either) so when we visit she gets sat down with me & hubby & I say something (not totally related to anything mostly) but hubby gets to have quite a frank discussion with her about not going with boys, working hard at school & how her lovely aunty farang wants her to have more chance at life & not to be stuck in this life forever & how if she does work hard we will help with college & her future etc. It seems to make more impact if she thinks it comes from me & even though it is mostly the families concerns, me & fella do sit down to discuss what he should say & the best way to say it as I am the closes female to her age in her life, so she looks up to me. So far so good, she is being more helpful at home & more respectful to the gran & old aunt (prior offenses such as backchat were reported with shock & indignation ) & has plans to do a marketing course when she finishes high school, all this after our last chat in September so fingers crossed!

Obviously you aren't a 32year old women so may not have the same kind of connecton but it may help for your wife to get some of these concerns across to her daughter by using you as the patsy

like I said, the step daughter is still pretty much a child emotionally so that presently her mom doesn't worry too much about the problems you've described. To be on the safe side I reckon that with girls once their first period comes the subject should be mentioned. However at this age things can change quickly and I haven't been home since my last leave 4 mos ago...presently just wantin' to prepare to address the situation as I found it last time.

The wife spoils her daughter rotten whereas she is quite harsh with the nieces of which we have two staying next door with MiL so that they can attend the larger prathom school in town. Last time when I saw that the daughter had gotten a new fancy mobile and her same aged cousins in rags who could only dream of one uncle tutsi marched those affected down to the mobile shop to redress the situation by buying a half dozen cheap nokias. The wife breathed 'now ye got Poh(the daughter) pissed off...'. I intend to proselytise the sex education thing across the board to all the adolescent nieces...somehow I think that they will be more receptive...

amazingly, the oldest niece 17 y.o. who fcuked up, stole money from her gran, ran away, was booted out of school appears to have gotten along OK despite the wife's oppobrium...she has managed to stay healthy and without pregnancy despite having already been married, divorced and presently living with her boyfriend in BKK. I mentioned this to the wife and she said not to worry as the niece handles herself very well in this regard which I take to mean practices effective birth control. I'm quite sure she was never talked to by any of the family adults about the subject. We have an unspoken alliance as I could see where things were going when the problems first started...made sure that she understood that she wasn't unloved which was the problem to begin with...her bein' reasonably intelligent picked up on my concerns it appears...

Perhaps some books in Thai? Its great that you want to help her understand, I remember reading that a large number of Thai teens are having unprotected sex, so the education is obviously lacking.

Perhaps if lacking books, a respected female teacher that you could talk to about this, one who might be willing to help out?

PS Great to see you back tutsi, Happy New Year!

lamentably I haven't had any contact with the step daughter's teachers; however, the wife has and to combine your two suggestions she could query one of the teachers regarding appropriate titles that are recommended for the intended purpose.

Tutsi, Hi, My son's Thai father talks to our son about sex but he's quite Westernised - my son says other Thai children and the parents don't discuss sex. It's more of a sniggering matter

yeah...I sort of figured as much. That and 'if you get pregnant don't bother coming home; go live with grandma...' Looks like a more oblique approach is required in the case of the concerned falang member of household. Maybe a book/pamphlet and a bribe (the step daughter don't read much) is the way to go.

a possible 'verification' scenario emerges: behind closed doors tutsi barks questions in english to the wife to be put to the step daughter...shades of the 'football test' in the movie Diner...

(I don't mean to make fun of what is a serious issue...couldn't help it...)

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thanks for the suggestions and advice...all the best to all in the new year.

Happy new year Tutsi, I know you hate my guts but so what have a look here,utorrent guide for ......

the µtorrent client is free and easy to download.

whaaa???...how can I hate anyone's guts?...tutsiwarrior is a kind man...a forgiving man...maybe you pissed me off once when I was drunk and I forgot...

thanks, I'll try your advice when I get home...all the best in the new year...

Currently the best client is uTorrent and it even works for me - no real setup required; the programs pretty much take care of that now.

hi, lop...you mean that one simply downloads utorrent then selects a file from a torrent search site, say, isoHunt, double click et voila? Haven't tried it successfully yet as my net access is via a company server and being in Saudi there may be other local issues to consider. I'll try it when back at the ranch on leave next month (that is, when not drunk and attempting to post gibberish on TV... )

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I wanna get set up to do torrent downloads and found this thread from a couple of years ago. Can anyone update this information?...is it still current?

I'm mostly interested in the laptop configuration (XP) required for torrent downloading. I'm using the cheapest ToT ADSL service (500b/month).

If the above is now inadequate for torrent download setup can anyone provide a link for this purpose that uses a step-by-step approach for 'non-tekkies'?

thanx...

Are the subject items cheaper bought locally(in the provinces) or in BKK? Normally in the US the best prices are found at large high volume sales places also with quick in-an-out service. The wife and BiL that usually drives usually patronise the small local shops in rural Suphanburi where we live for these items. I'm wondering if significantly better prices are to be had at a big tire and battery place in BKK. The minivan currently needs both and we'll be in BKK on business when I'm next home on leave.

thanx...

my step daughter is 14 y.o and developing rapidly in the T&A department but still appears to be a kid upstairs. I say OK as kids should be encouraged to be kids for as long as they want. However as she's got what boys like I have attempted to discuss the matter with the wife so that the step daughter has the information necessary to make choices when the inevitable happens. However, every time I raise the issue with the wife I get evasive non-replies that do not encourage 'meaningful discussion'.

This looks to me to be a cultural matter where my wife is embarrassed to discuss the issue with her daughter. I'd be interested to hear from other falangs with adolescent thai kids and their experiences in this regard. Being falangs, and in my case male and unable to speak thai to a female adolescent, we are in an awkward position when it comes to these sensitive matters.

any comments...?

well if nothing else I've learned from this thread:

There seems to be a general prejudice toward Indians(Asian) by Thai people. They smell bad, their food is disgusting, they're dirty!

my wife enjoyed the indian street food in Penang; preferred it to the western falang food at the hotel...but I didn't haveta show her that...she also likes my lasagne...

most of the food that she likes to eat makes me wanna ...

if one wanted to obtain a certificate of residence from one's local immigration office what documentation is required by them to verify one's domicile? All I got is a chanote with me listed as the usufructary...it don't prove nuthin' regarding one's claim as to address of domicile...

Well Ive decided to buy my first exercise treadmill so can any one please tell me what to look for , I don't really need any thing too technical just some thing to use a couple time a week any buying tips out there Please..

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I made the decision to buy one recently too but decided to go with the Cross/elliptical trainer instead on advice in the shop and am very happy with it - delivered last Saturday 998 SGD fro Aibi

It does your upper body and well and is less stressful on joins such as knee's

Used it a lot and can even do 10 minutes now

If I keep it up I might go for a rowing machine too

There is a gym in my condo but I fnd it easier to do it in front of the telly for now - I might swim some more though and use the gym when I am fitter

whaaa??? you gots to have at least 30 mins of elevated heart rate to get the aerobic benefits of exercise or are you havin' a 'funny' at the expense of us poor ole fat folks?...mods: persecute this poster...( )

I'm thinkin' of gettin' one of those tread mills meself as I'm gettin' ready to demobilise from my present assignment (no booze in Saudi and daily exercise routine) and shall end up back at the ranch in Thailand in an unhealthy environment to face packs of howling soi dogs and teenagers on motorbikes with the usual 'falang!, <deleted> you!' greeting when attempting to exercise on the streets.

Since I've been away the principal living area has moved to a 1st floor terrace recently built across the rear of three houses so the ground floor of our shophouse is now unused and available for these purposes.

Can't wait to see the reaction of the family and neighbors who are all hard working laboring types to an exercise contraption...'mah oh mah; dem falangs sho' is clazy...'

any treadmill recommendations?

My personal take is that to command an expat salary you need to be able to manage others and communicate effectively, or have significant specific industry experience.

my experience is that in order to command an (western) expat salary one must be assigned by an (western) expatriate organization to a position overseas for which the appointee would receive the normal western salary + uplift(a percentage of western salary based upon hardship and other considerations) + expatriate package(accommodation, airfares, insurance, local transport, school fees for dependants, etc).

From observation I have noted that western expatriates that apply on speculation when already residing overseas when hired receive the 'going rate' for a local person and whatever associated benefits...usually a small fraction of that of the western expat 'on assignment' as described above.

I suspect it will not be so easy for non-residents in the UAE

I have been obtaining a Non O 1 year visa in the UAE for the last 5 years, i have never had a residents visa, and received the visa with no problems.

Good to know for everyone.

I have given the following papers to obtain my 1 year Non O. Dubai is a very busy office, best to go to Abu-Dhabi. Please note hotels in the UAE can be very busy. Gulf Air have good deals flying from BKK- Abu-Dhabi. Always an option to look at.

1.Application plus two photo

2.Original and copy of passport

3.Original and copy of marriage certificate

4.Copy of wifes ID card signed and dated

5.Copy of wifes passport signed and dated

6.Copy of house registration signed and dated

7.Original and copy of air ticket

8.Letter from my wife signed and dated, that we are living together, also giving her contact number .

one should point out that not everyone can obtain a visa on arrival to the UAE. No probs for UK passport holders but US passports useta need an invitation or previously obtained visa. Anyone wanting to use this route should check their visa on arrival eligibility first.

tutsi, I slide into Dubai and get stamped in no prob with a US passport. Good thing too because I never checked visa requirements

when I first arrived in Abu Dhabi in 1998 I carried a photocopy of a 3 mo. visa that had to be collected upstream of the immigration counter at the airport which then had to be presented before stamping in. I had a residence stamp for all later travel to the UAE and when I applied for my non - imm. visas.

I also had residence status at Manama when I applied for Thai visas. Only had a 3 mo. business visa at the Jeddah thai consulate when I applied this year.

I suspect it will not be so easy for non-residents in the UAE

I have been obtaining a Non O 1 year visa in the UAE for the last 5 years, i have never had a residents visa, and received the visa with no problems.

Good to know for everyone.

I have given the following papers to obtain my 1 year Non O. Dubai is a very busy office, best to go to Abu-Dhabi. Please note hotels in the UAE can be very busy. Gulf Air have good deals flying from BKK- Abu-Dhabi. Always an option to look at.

1.Application plus two photo

2.Original and copy of passport

3.Original and copy of marriage certificate

4.Copy of wifes ID card signed and dated

5.Copy of wifes passport signed and dated

6.Copy of house registration signed and dated

7.Original and copy of air ticket

8.Letter from my wife signed and dated, that we are living together, also giving her contact number .

one should point out that not everyone can obtain a visa on arrival to the UAE. No probs for UK passport holders but US passports useta need an invitation or previously obtained visa. Anyone wanting to use this route should check their visa on arrival eligibility first.

but, but, but...'turkey twaddle' is no nicely alliterative...don't you think?

"OK sweetheart, let's talk turkey...' 'I'll have none of your turkey twaddle, thank you very much...'

A small cut in the neck and no real discomfort later. The results seem to be pretty permanent. Dr. Poomey at Bumrundgrad is a true artist at cosmetic surgery. Heals up very quick. Go for It.

I just lost 10 kilos and observe that I gots me one now too...to be expected I s'pose in middle, middle age...

not altogether unpleasing...just right fer sum young gurl to tug on while cooing affectionately...

May i ask, what passport you hold? Is it an EU passport, or UAE one?

I am a UK passport holder, working and residing in KSA. Whenever I apply for my Non-Imm O visa, all I need to show is my Thai Marriage Certificate. Apart from the application form and 2 pictures of myself, I dont need to produce anyhting else !

yeah...me too in June at the consulate in Jeddah holding a US passport...azza matter of fack, I wasn't even resident (iqama holder) in Saudi at the time...had a temporary visa...

previously in Abu Dhabi and Manama I didn't even have to show up at the Thai embassy...the wife toodled in and out with my passport, a completed application form, photos, docs and fee...

don't know whatssa matter with Thai consulates/embassies in SE Asia wanting ridiculous amounts in thai bank accounts for the same visa...a poster on another thread just got back from Penang where they now want to see 800k in the bank for a multi-entry non - imm. 'O' based on marriage ...

I married my wife at the Thai Embassy in the UAE in 2000. The marriage certificate is in English and in Thai and has been sufficient to obtain (along with other required documents) successive one year, multi - entry, non - imm. 'O' visas based on marriage to a Thai from consulates/embassies in Penang, Abu Dhabi, Bahrain and Saudi Arabia. Our marriage was never registered at the local amphur near our home in Thailand. We were recently able to register a usufruct agreement at the local land office without our marriage being locally registered.

What are the benefits of registering our marriage at the local amphur? I will soon apply for a Thai driving license, a yellow tabien baan book and will eventually apply to extend my current non - imm. 'O' with immigration in Thailand. Is my marriage certificate that was issued by the Thai government outside of Thailand sufficient proof of marriage to those wanting to know inside of Thailand?

Please comment.

I've always included a lot of fresh fruit and vegetables in my diet with the purpose of enabling a daily bowel movement in mind...mostly with mixed results.

recently I've been following a recommendation from another TV poster in the health section and having a shake in the morning to include lo-fat yogurt, banana, skim milk and about 3 tbbl spoons of cooked oatmeal all put thru a blender. Was pleased to find that the concoction gets the job done; the oats are 100% soluble fiber and power right thru with a pleasing daily result.

(mods might wanna move this thread to the health section ...people come lookin' fer recipies and get daily dump recommendations)

Somehow it reminds me of Guatemala, where each province or 'departamento' ends in the place name "-tenango" and the place way, way up in the mountains is called "Huehuetenango." I thought they also had a place called "Tenangotenango," which might translate as "Place-place."

Is there a place in Thailand called Buriburi?

yeah...there's a place in the Central Highlands called Chichicastenango where they remember Marlon Brando from "Last Tango in..."

Chichi useta be a very spiritual place...was good to be very chaa - chaa in Chii Chii...