Leonard Desharnais
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22 hours ago, JoeBloe said:Thanks folks.
It is as I had expected from a legal standpoint, up to my own internal model of the world what I am willing to offer.
Some more of the story.
Her father is dead (I paid a big lump of his funeral) and she is estranged from her family. As far as I can ascertain, this is between her and her mother. Oldest daughters v. mothers is a thing in all cultures.
During my dealings with the family I have managed to secure the remaining part of the family farm for my GF plus some another small piece of land etc.. Every time the family needed money and I was expected to contribute, I traded a chanot for it, rather than straight charity. I offered to pay a large wad the other day to zero the family debt for the other part of the farm, but they apparently already agreed to sell it. Thai rural families are easy pray for loan sharks and banks. I gain no benefit for this, but I do not doubt my GF (and subsequently her son) would have ended with nothing without my intervention, so my contribution insured some of her farm stayed in family (her) hands. From my point of view, this is me giving her money.
My deal with her explicitly excluded marriage, it was that I would provide for everything incl. the boy's education and her only job was to be a full-time mother and a faithful partner. She did a pretty good job on the mother front and since she is a great cook, they both eat well. I have been faithful and kept everyone under my roof and given them a cosmopolitan lifestyle when we are outside Thailand.
One issue now appears to be she feels inferior to other Thai women because she doesn't have an expensive watch, lots of jewellery, a big bank balance and so on. She has developed an inferiority complex versus what she perceives other Thai woman receive from their farang partners. She has built up a massive "princess entitlement" position and she's angry about it. This is quite a new development.
I could throw gifts at her, but my experience is that she treats ear rings that cost 20 THB the same as those that cost 10,000 THB. A mistake I am not willing to make again so she can play princess around other women for a while.
There you go, a bit of pointless rambling about some of what is driving me out of my own home. There are far deeper issues though, and there aren't solutions for those,. ????
Question: How can one reasonably hide knives from the chef?
Your question has been answered. "No legal responsability" Saying that, now comes moral responsability. I too have been with my Mrs (not married) but I use the term as I have implied that I will take care of her as long as I live. (10 yrs). She too talks to others and now that I have retired she of course is concerned what will happen when I die so to me a break up is the same thing. It is death to a relationship. You mentioned her job was to take care of you. Same as mine as for her to work 6 days a week and 10 hrs a day would mean she is not here for me. So, there really is no fair way except to divide what the 2 of you have amassed over your 10 yr period or a cash settlement equal to the same. She did take care of you and if like my misses, she is worried about after I die or if I leave her for a younger woman. Only you know what she deserves but after 10 years, my Mrs deserves everything we have built together. House, motor bikes and bank acct or if we split, half.
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Remember that there are a lot of Thais that do not want foreigners here yet. Can not blame the average Thai as the govt has scared the hell out of them over the past year. No matter what the govt decides it will end up being wrong as they must keep certain criteria to satisfy the Thais and I really doubt there will be very many visitors without everything opened so right now they as Fox news says, ' it is a Shiff show
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Follow the science. Thailand now recognizes this covid will not disappear. "NEVER" It is all about the number of deaths and not cases that every gov't needs to react too. As the jabs go up the deaths decrease and this is true. Also, as the months go on, the efficacy decreases resulting in more milder cases which in turn gives better immunity. Example, Singapore has more than 80% of people innoculated yet they are seeing an increase in cases but not deaths and opening up. How could this be? They have had some of the strictest lock downs. Lock downs are not needed but actually the opposite is needed. The weak and old must take precautions and continue getting boosters and the average person needs to get a jab or 2 or catch covid and take your chance. I personally had 1 jab in April (Astrazenaca) worked in the oilsands in Canada for 3 months and had 85% of my crew catch covid while I did not. I had my 2nd jab (phizer) in June and now I am waiting to get back to normal here in Thailand and go out and enjoy life and hopefully just get flu like symptoms when I eventually catch covid
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Would it be more beneficial to ease the restrictions here first and then allow fully vaccinated to come without quarantine? Pattaya is under curfew (10pm-4 am) No alcohol sales in restaurants. All nite time activities obsolete. I would guess that at least 60 percent of work force is not here so I think businesses will need their labor force to come back before opening up. I am not an economic scholar but supply is low (hotels/restaurants,labor) and if demand increases 5-10 fold in a short time without the supply then inflation occurs. In other words, the prices for boutique hotels and resorts,taxi, etc will be more than double the normal price. Just my thoughts.
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The last I read was 7 days at the SHA or SHA+ resort with a sealed route. Which means stuck on the resort for 7 days, 2 PCR tests and you will be able to sign up for the daily tours to certain venues. That was for Oct 1 opening. We should know by next Wed. I did the Phuket sandbox at the end of Aug and to me that was the best and still the best option. I roamed the whole island for 2 weeks. Nothing was strictly enforced
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41 minutes ago, chilly07 said:
This clearly shows why the initial stages of visa extensions when first coming to Thailand are best handled by an agent. Impossible for a newbie to get their heads round Thai Immigration especially Jomtien. After an agent handles the stages to the first annual extension it then becomes easier to do them yourself otherwise you could get marked down as a troublemaker.
Disagree. I have lived here for at least 6 months a year for the past 11 years. It is a simple process to do and easy. Many extension trips to Jomtien for TR extensions. Using the agent I would have had to open a new bank acct at Bangkock Bank (4500bht) plus when I checked into the cost with an agent last Oct it was 30,000 baht for first time and 12,000 each year after. I have the money and I screwed up by not transferring my money 15 days earlier. I still get to do my non O on the same day I get TR 30 day extension which is totally legit. She the IO was very easy to deal with and answered any questions I had. No agent, 4000baht, with agent all in over 30000 and I still have to go to the immigration office plus hassle of opening another bank acct
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4 minutes ago, ubonjoe said:
Which office told you it needed to be in the bank for 2 months.
I would guess Jomtien since there have been reports of them doing that. Same for the special fee that was mentioned.
The is nothing in the written requirements stating it has be in the bank for any amount of time.
See: https://bangkok.immigration.go.th/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/8-1.pdf
Yes Jomtian. I could tell she was very experienced so just accepted her response. She was kind of busy with the drive by window. lol I am not complaining bcuz I accept Thailand for what it is and that is why I am retiring here
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So I posted 1 week ago asking If I could get my Non O if my 800,000 BHT had only been in bank for 45 days. Response from all was yes. Well, maybe before but not now. It will be 2 months in bank 2 days prior to my TR visa ends(60 day) Lady informed me that I would have to do my extension on Oct 27th, pay the 1900 baht and get the 30 day extension. Then I can come and see her the same day and she will give me the 90 day non O (based on retirement ) then 2 months come back and apply for the 1 yr extension. Basically I will pay an extra 2000 baht since my 800,000 had not been in bank for 2 months exactly. BUT, then she said, if you want all done today ( 15 months) she could do for a small nominal fee of 23,000 baht. ( she did not actually say small nominal fee) and I replied, no thanks, I prefer to do legally and left the office.
lennyd
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6 hours ago, DrJack54 said:
OP, the financials you outline are for non O based on retirement.
You did not want to obtain non O based on marriage?
The financials are far more easy for extensions.
Thanks for the advice. No, not married.
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Hi. I am here on a TR 60 day. I usually get a 6 month Tr but that was not available this year. It ends at the end of October with a 30 day extension available. Before I left Canada I started transfering money to my Thai acct at Kaskorn which I have had for 9 years. I turn 60 in December and have decided to retire. The Mrs and I have been together for 9 years and own our house which is in her name. I went to immigration at Jomtien and requested the required paper work and will do it myself. That should be extra back ground info for my question. The requirement states that I am required to have the 800,000 in the bank for 2 months from the application date which I am suppose to apply a minimum 2 weeks before visa expires. I have over a million baht in my acct but the 800,000 was not in my acct until Aug 27th. So the way I read it, I have to apply for the non O (3month) by the 15th of October which means I am 13 days early for the 2 months. I know I can get a 30 day extention at the end of Oct and then apply for the O on or around November 15th. Not a big problem as it is just an extra 2000 baht but extra trips to immigration which I hate doing. Common sense tells me to date the application for Sept 28 but I am sure the Thai IO will not accept this. Has anyone had this same situation?
Thanks
lennyd
Currently doing 10 days in quarantine in Pattay.
in Pattaya
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Curious. With Phuket open and cheap hotels, why would you pick quarantine in Pattaya? I stayed in Phuket in September and had a blast.