Isan Wanderer

1 minute ago, OneMoreFarang said:

So maybe your first question should be if you want to stay with her together if she would not disappear anymore. And if that is the case, then ask yourself if you really want to know what happened. Or can you accept that she did something she shouldn't have done and now she does not do it anymore. Can you say or tell yourself: Forget about it. That's the past. ?

Yes I would like to stay with her if she stops lying to me. I still love her despite all this BS. Thank you for the perspective, I need to sleep it over now. It's been an exhausting day... Thank you to anyone who's helped me navigate it. Appreciate you all.

3 minutes ago, Liverpool Lou said:

How could you keep something that isn't yours to keep?

Well those few years living here taught me that money talks in Thailand. This place is corrupt af at least compared to Western standards. Nobody cares whether my name is on the chanod as long as I can afford a more expensive lawyer than her. Spending 200k on a lawyer to save 1 million worth of property seems like a rational decision. I realize this is pretty <deleted> up and I truly hope I won't have to resort to that but I'm just planning exit strategies here...

11 minutes ago, riclag said:

 

This could be a harmless I don’t want my significant other to find out that Im doing something he doesn’t like such as gambling issue.

He needs to find out or it will devour his thoughts! 

 

That's it riclag! You understand me. I need to know even if all outcomes are bad. This is driving crazy. I haven't been able to focus on work at all today.

1 minute ago, Trippy said:

Maybe this is a crazy idea, but why don't you just calmly talk to her about it, and tell her you know she's lying.

 

And if the land is in her name, and your not married, do you really have any rights to it?

Yes that would be ideal but then how would I know if she tells me the truth or just another lie...

Regarding the land, I'm aware I have pretty much no rights to it but this is Thailand and I can afford a much more expensive lawyer than she can if it really comes down to that...

4 minutes ago, sidjameson said:

But pay a women same age as you 20k a month....wtf!!!

Well she spends most of it to buy market food for me and her family so that's fine by me because I don't like to go to markets... even though the food is delicious.

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Her property not our property.

I'd just leave without telling her, while she's at her 'remote village'.

Chuck your sim and never accept contact with/from her again.

No way I'm giving up on nearly 1 million baht investment and an even bigger emotional attachment to this home just on a hunch. This is my first ever home and if I have to spend big bucks on a lawyer to keep it, I will certainly do it.

I've been living with my gf in Isan for 2.5 years and met her 5 years ago. Lately she's been having a lot of mood swings and been arguing with me over minor things. Today I got confirmation that she's been lying to me about her whereabouts. I started to have doubts as she didn't pick up the phone a few times over the last weeks and told me hard-to-believe stories like "I got a flat tire but there was no nail". Then why didn't she call me while she was waiting for it to get it topped up for 2 long hours??

So I decided to check her Google Maps timeline history and sure enough there was no flat tire, she was actually in some remote village that I have never been to. She was there for many hours several times over the last few weeks. So now I'm thinking either she's cheating on me (unlikely, at least I really hope not) or she's been gambling at card games ("casino" like they call it over here). She used to play that casino game early in our relationship and lost huge amounts of money. I managed to make her quit that addiction and now I'm worried she might have been playing again... She started gambling on her phone lately but it's been like 200-400 bahts a day which isn't too bad. I give her 20k baht a month no strings attached but I really don't want my hard earned money to go to waste like that.

Anyway, I need to stay cold headed about this because she doesn't know I know she's been lying. I wouldn't be mad if she's been gambling, I just want her to be honest with me, I just don't want her to lie to me so openly. My trust in her is pretty much shattered at this point. I'm tempted to drive up to that remote village next time her phone pings there to find out what she's been up to but this might end up badly... I'm looking for advice here, I don't want our relationship to end like that after 5 years together