Momenteer

That is a point where I disagree with. There could be daily standard conflicts like if I need clean clothes and asked her already twice to wash and she is still busy with things like browsing Facebook or going into the Gym, but also rather emotional conflicts like spending not enough time together and start to feel lonely. Putting that on the table 2-3 times in a nice way without getting anything changed, can then lead to a conflict discussion from my perspective to understand what is the real issue here in the background.

Thank you for your input. I guess listening and being trusted has never been an issue for me. In fact most females (European and Thai) tell me things about their live that they have told nobody else. Also being the "Boss" is less my issue. I have to be that all day in the job and being known there as strong alpha male, so I am very happy to live and let live in my private life. However conflicts can occur in every relationship and I believe only by understanding the feelings of each other could create solutions and new and closer ways to live together on an emotional base. But this is exactly the point where I was missing the ability for self-reflection and the ability to talk about their feelings with me. You mentioned that your wife is expressing her feelings for you every time. And that is what I perceive as normal and did from my side, but what I was missing many times from the women.

The age gap was 2 years and 12 years. Both relationship were not based on money (except in my marriage where she stayed at home when our son was born)

Dear Community, I have seen many postings in this forum around Thai women and relationships. There is one question I am struggling with and maybe the one or other can enlighten me a little bit. I spend two long term relationships with Thai women. Seeing married for 15 years with a Thai who grew up in France since she was a teenager and after my divorce many years later a one year relationship with an Isaan woman. In both cases their ability to talk about their feelings was very limited, compared to European women. They both could talked endless about other things in her life or how bad they were feeling with ex-boyfriends or husbands, but being able to talk about what they feel in our relationship was pretty much non existing. Especially when it came to conflict situations where such kind of discussions are important in my opinion to find a common solution, their solution approach was rather to cook something and try to avoid any discussion. I want to understand for myself if this was specific in my relationships and may have something to do with me and my selection of woman or if this is general cultural thing. How do you perceive this in your long term relationships? I talking about women in the age between 30 and 45. Thank you and best regards Momenteer