I dated a number of girls in phuket mostly from dating websites, in phuket especially the girls were insistent on a retainer between 10,000-20,000 a month. One girl I got on well with, however when she asked for money she insisted if I didn’t pay she would find another guy that would pay as it is expected in phuket. I said you have your own shop selling clothes why do you need my money, I said I can lend you 40,000 to buy extra stock and you can return the money to me amd take the profits for yourself. She debated then discussed with my dad’s wife about it. She said sorry I’m going to find a guy that will send a retainer each month. I wished her well, sent her on her way. She found another guy and sent me pictures of her being happy with her new retainer, it lasted a few months then She was back to the drawing board. Another friend that’s a girl I knew, has a boyfriend we were only friends, known her a few years, she got in touch while I was in Blighty asking to borrow her 500B as she had run out of food and was waiting for money from her man to arrive she has a job in a bar, knowing full well she earns a decent amount each month. No need to ask some guy 5000 miles away for 500b especially knowing that she won’t return it. Girls in phuket are generally on retainer that’s been my experience so far. I left Thailand and went to Laos, found a lovely girl who never once asked for money. We are now married living in the Uk with 4 children together.