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After she finished work some days. Again the negative comments. FFS i now she might try to scam me or rip me off, but unlike some blokes i seen over there i wasn't thing with my dick

No we lost our Mums about the same time, and yes like similar music, she is 47 i am 59, Any relationship when you meet someone doesnt matter where it is it is the feeling you get. Oh she works in a restaurant . not a massage or bar. for the last few years she said, whether that is the truth i don't know, does she believe me when i say i am a CEO of a big company? or that i am a Surgeon, when all i am is a normal bloke in a boring job with a few years left till retirement.

Again, why so many negative comments? My ex wife ripped me off bad when i was younger, oh by the way she is British through and through. I am keeping an open mind, and it is all down to trust. I know some Thai girls are out to rip you off, I am just looking at long term if things seem ok, I am not a wealthy man, no way was i getting involved with bar girls , or massage girls, or freelancers or any other stuff, someone said go on thaifriendly, nah, not into that. what happens happened. She may try to con me. She may me ok? But as i said letting my head rule my heart. Been hurt in the past. It may work out, it may not. She could be the one. Or she may be playing the game. We can only wait and see. As i said before, as soon as she asks for money, in the word of Duncan Ballantyne, "I'm oot of here!"

Her husband is still in north Thailand and he agrees to a divorce. I have had relationships in the past in UK with girls who tried to deceive me, take advantage of my trust. And not succeeded i protect my well-being. I have had relationships in the past but i was not in the right frame of mind due to issues. But now yes i feel something. I am still keeping an open mind. But only 5 years till retirement i don't want to get ripped off or hurt. I am not a wealthy man, just ticking along nicely.

Again i say , i am letting my head rule my heart. I know there may be problems, or even a scam. I am being cautious. I have told her cannot help her financially, and I intend to stick to that. I am not thinking with my dick, unlike my late father . But I have a feeling this may work out, there is a spark as some people may realise in their relationships. I am not 100& committed , just hoping things may be ok. Can I just say everyone is different, you meet someone regardless of where you are and there is something there. Don't judge a book by its cover as the saying goes

As i said previously i am letting my head rule my heart, being cautious, going out again soon then later in year. And its 3 times actually . And i want to learn more about her debt, she did mention credit card once before, and her husband has the house still, but i think it's rented from what she said once. As saying goes, fools rush in, and i am not rushing in, just looking at the long term .

Thanks, and sorry for earlier, Yes it is best to get to know them, I could take early retirement to Thailand, but rather be here, and I am visiting her again in a few weeks for her birthday, we keep in touch via WhatsApp, video call every day, her english is better than when we first met but still don't think it strong enough yet for SELT A1. 6 months nearly since we met, going over again in june or july for a week, but there is just that tiny little nagging doubt, <1% i say, just waiting for something to stop me in my tracks and drop everything. Told my family letting my head rule my heart this time.

Yes I earn enough for the family visa requirements at present

Her boss said he would keep her job open for 3 months, as i said before it is long term we are looking at. I can sponsor her as i have adequate funds available if needed

That's what we wonder, but looking to long-term maybe marriage, She has no children or parents she tells me just a sister she fell out with.

Sorry, but i came for genuine help. My main concern would she get chased for debts if she came to uk, and i noticed whilst browsing forum there seems to be a bit of hostility like your first post to guys meeting thai girls, well i never came to thailand for the girls, just to get away from UK to sort problems out, met a girl 1st day, could have been anywhere UK, Spain ,Lisbon. And I knew all about the bargirls and freelancers before i went.

Hello just joined as this may a usual request, i have searched, but can't to seem to find much help, some i do understand,. Any way quick resume of what's happened last 6 months Last year i went to Patong, to get away from life in UK for 2 weeks as i was going through a bad time. Anyway 2nd day met a thai girl as you do.. dated for most of the 2 weeks and had a good time, but missed her and went back a month later and found we had a lot in common, only 12 years younger than me in her late 40s, not a bargirl, english is just about understandable but i don't think she would pass test if she moves to the UK but wants to take lessons in Phuket. She has not once in the last 6 months asked me for money, she is in debt, and won't tell me how much and still married waiting to divorce her husband who she left 2 years ago, she has no property, but her boss said he will keep her job open for 3 months if she comes to UK on visitor visa. After her divorce she has to wait 310 days to remarry i understand, but i think that is in Thailand only? I don't have much savings only a small emergency fund, and i would only pay for her uk visa and flight. The main questions i want to ask, How long do i need to know her if we wanted to marry, or for her to live with me? Also once she is here could her debts be chased to UK? Or any other country? Many thanks and hope this is ok for posting, Andy