A bit of a postscript. Discovered wife had taken on freelance work to pay off mother's debt. Her anger towards me hadn't subsided, nor had calls of divorce from 6000 kms away when I'm working. I'm doing my best to cope, some days easier than others. I'm especially taking your advice @BritManToo and @Kinnock to walk and not do anything when i arrive back in 8 weeks time. I've gained from everyone's advice here that remind me what I need to do thank you. I won't be spoken to like dirt anymore as had been her defence. Will try and enjoy my retirement