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Thank you mate, I'm very grateful for your words

Thank you mate, you are right. I will need to do just that

Thank you for the support mate

25 Dolf, and it was never enough

Thank you SF

I know this wisdom must come from your own experience SF, thank you sharing this. I've taken your advice on board. Rgds

Got it GP thank you

SF thank you, I know you speak the truth mate

She sold the land I bought to help service the debt repayments. I doubt with her situation she has tangible assets Artisi. Only the obvious ones like the biggest red truck in the village and the latest iPhone again i imagine. The debt I feel has been instrumental in this whole saga, the pivot upon which my wife left several months ago to work. Leaving her husband working in China for 9 months to honor an employment contract. The debts now, whilst pivotal are a bit of a moot point in the bigger picture. But certainly a catalyst.

Got it, will do T&G thank you

Your words are reassuring and supportive BMT, really, thank you

I know what you mean Felton, the debt however was just the beginning of the turmoil

Thank you Sir

Hummin I'm grateful for that, I've taken your words on board with thanks.

I have many here to thank here on the thread for helping me. I'm really grateful. I hope I can return such goodwill and advice in the future

Thank you BMT, your thoughts help me

No eyeman, just the generous monthly support but that had stopped

Yes @TroubleandGrumpy she said she has a huge load on her shoulders and her mother I think has tasked her with paying off the 1M. I have held firm on a no. She said she is the pillar of the family and has intense loyalty to her mother. I doubt she wants to leave the country, she certainly doesn't want to return to China to be with her husband until the contract ends in 4 months, and I feel this would be the only way to stop her going out and sleeping with other men. I like @BritManToo 's idea of not agreeing to any divorce. Yet. I mean, both the debt and infidelity stuff have arisen suddenly 4 months away from retirement. Sigh. @Kinnockhas been a solid support for me, thank you to the words and advice from everything. I'm just trying to navigate this as best I can. Money is offshore. Mother has sold land I bought to pay off debts. After arriving here yesterday, I told her the only way to stop her going out with the intention of meeting other men is for her to get on a flight with me back to China for 4 months as my wife. Or for me to immediately resign from this job. Her response tonight 'you can't stop me'. What I have stopped immediately is all financial support. Thank you, I gain from your words, really, rgds

TandG that really resonates. Yes her mother has a huge influence. As mentioned now (and I write from Samui as it's Chinese holidays and I wanted to face her with this, is that she now admits, and her friends i know concur, that she's been going out for months to meet other farangs and go back to their hotel with them. About the same time as the debt demands came, so did you suspicions grow. She wants a divorce, first I wanted to confront her have to face as her husband of 5 years with this, and I've just read @BritManToo 'advice of not agreeing to a sobriety divorce too soon and making her sweat. I've only 4 days on the island, but I've told her all monthly financial support has stopped. This work contract ends in 4 months time and my plans were an early retirement in the kingdom with my wife. Then everything quickly turned pear shape. I had my suspicions and came down a few days ago

Thank you Dolf

TandG thank you. I appreciate you took the time to write

Garry thank you, I'm grateful to learn from your post

Thank you mate, I just feel I must

Thank you OMF, I will take your wisdom onboard. This is what I have noticed too. “I’m under so much pressure with this heavy debt” she said more than once to me.

Xylophone your thoughtful words are a gift thank you, I'll keep them with me,