A good question, which I also asked myself in the past. Now my life has developed in a different way. Now we are getting married in January 2025, after 4 years of being together. She has been to Switzerland several times and of course I have been to Thailand several times.
I was probably a little lucky that my partner had only been in the sex industry for 2.5 months before we met. During the first 4 weeks together, things were relaxed and moving towards a relationship. During this time, she didn't demand anything from me, no money and no obligations.
I was more demanding with her. I need a sign that she is willing to keep the relationship. In the end, we agreed that she would go back to Isan, look for work there and I would help her out if the salary wasn't enough. On average, this is around 2500-3000 baht per month, which I can live on very well.
Yes, her education in Isan wasn't that great. Nevertheless, she has taken an English course and 2 German courses in the last few years. She also wants to continue her education and go to school in Switzerland.
At the beginning of the relationship there were two character traits that she quickly brought home from the business. However, these disappeared within a short time when she noticed that I was serious about her.
The lady has learned to say "no" and knows that it is important to me when she says what she thinks. It took time but now it works great.
She is organizing the wedding, using her savings and is very reliable with it. She organized the documents for the wedding herself and translated them into German. There were never any trust issues because she communicates openly about everything.
Another topic was of course family and support and so on. I am very happy that the family is "western-oriented". No sin sod is due, nor support. Not in the last few years, and not in the future.
In my opinion:
I wouldn't want to swap. We are happy and on a very good path.
From my point of view, I would say try it out but be careful that the rose-tinted glasses are not too strong at the beginning. Watch out for the red flags and, if necessary, draw a line under the relationship.
Greetings
stigooo