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You are right but she wasn't a bar girl when I met her, maybe just don't fall in love in general

Yeah that's the real solution, it's just getting there ... need to get over the fact I still want her to unblock because I'm a whimp right now

Thank you for the response much appreciated, you are probably spot on, as I said cos it's so early there is always the hope you will unblock and I can get an answer, even though I really don't need it that's what my brain is thinking right now. If she has been so cold in blocking don't think she has a reason to reappear (again as much as I hope she would right this second cos of my hurt, just being honest) but as you said is probably a good thing.

Thank you for the hard truths much appreciated it's just a bit raw and eventually I'll process it all and know what you all are trying to say

Thank you for your insights, initially I wasn't giving any more I was doing exactly that, but then she was giving the story that rent was due etc etc even sometimes if I would pay and she didn't have money for other things she would say I don't expect you to pay for anything cos you paid rent which at the time I thought was thoughtful but maybe part of the game. At some point she did appreciate the money of course, and she did understand that can't get everything, but I guess as she got more comfortable she thought we were in a good place or she had scammed me enough that she didn't have to say anything What you are all saying makes sense it's just the glimpses where things were a little normal and thought she was a little different and me not understand how desperate people are in patong for money I probably didn't appreciate that as much

Yes you are right, she wanted to come to Australia for a holiday but it's hard to get them here, in a way she is young doesn't have the maturity and I guess I just expected a bit more from her which was a mistake. I probably saw some glimpses of her true value to me but obviously it was overshadowed but things I should of been looking at

Apart from shame I really don't have much to hide about the this story, I'm trying to be open and transparent and yes people think it couldn't possibly be true, but unfortunately it is As I said it's first real relationship with thai girl from Thailand so it's been a big learning experience

Nahh to be honest I asked AI for similar experiences then I asked it to summarise my experience never knew it would spark like doubt

I must admit you are right, I haven't fully accepted when I should Yes the block is what is making me keep thinking the whole thing, I feel it's so personal and yeah I would be lying if i didn't want her to unblock I can also say it's not because I'm rushing to get her dying love back etc, it's more how did she just throw 3 years time and energy without even just saying a message... i.e I found someone else etc then block, or wait until I pay more money for the surgery then block why was it such an immediate thing?

Unfortunately can't send note with Western Union unless someone knows how hehe not that I should be sending money anyway

How do you see this playing out? How do you all see this playing out The recap: - Left phuket Jan 09 (she stayed with me, everything fine) - Last spoke weds 21/01 (video and text no issues), blocked friday 23/01 - Gone to singapore I presume 23/01 - Mate (who we both know and he travelled in Jan with us) reached out to her on 24/01 asking how she is doing etc no response no block - Looks like she met a new guy, posting pictures solo but with emoji distant love heart in one and then in another story a graphic rose on top of her solo pic That's the gist of the situation, people (including some other thai girls that I know), keep telling me she will be back she will unblock etc etc but I can't see it happening can you?

To be honest I know it screams scam and you probably thinking this guy has no idea etc At some point there was some genuine connection and she did have some trust in me (and no not just about the money) Let's assume I least had some cred for her, the fact she has vanished quickly is a kick in the guts, I've actually known her for 3 years. I would love to show a pic but I can't be that low, it's part of my nice guy problem even with this hurt I wouldn't do it to her :(

I'm telling you the truth, this isn't made up she wanted to do sexyline... there is a clinic in phuket maybe someone can confirm it it's called "The klinqiue" I probably shouldn't got AI to write my story Now she is in singapore sounds like with a new guy showing love hearts, roses well at least painting a picture like that the love heart in one post was so distant so not sure if she is just pleasing the guy. Either way I don't think she will ever unblock me now that she has found a new source of income

I'm telling you it's true, she would often wan me to stay on a video call so she fell asleep She isn't the most emotionally stable girl The whole story is true that's why I can't believe myself it had such an abrupt ending

Sounds like this is a class repeated story, the same situation happened? Anything come of it?

Well I guess she made me feel good and she was of course very beautiful

Nahh it is a true story, I actually did put in AI so it could write it out a bit more, but what I said actually has happened She is from patong not far from patong beach. I just wanted to get insight from you guys because believe it or not the AI referenced stories from this forum so I decided to post my story to understand what has happened.

At least you made me laugh haven't laughed in days I highly doubt she will ever unblock, in thailand don't they want to save face, she doesn't have any leg to stand on She really was going to have the surgery it was called SexyLine sucks out the fat etc thing she showed me what it involved so I kinda think that was true I think she followed a new guy which she never does on her instagram so shows she must be moving on or maybe for show... she did post a pic of herself with boy/girl emoji love heart in the far distance not so visible so not sure if she is just doing to impress the guy You are right about the sucker here, lots of people tell me she will eventually block but I just can't seem to believe it right at this point and you are right tendency is to take her back hopefully I'm strong enough not to get to that

In my 40s I should know better...

It was serious, it was my first real relationship with a girl in thailand I guess in a way I thought I was really helping her out, she introduced me to her friends, she even came on trips with my friends family in thailand. She wanted to come to Australia there was definitely at least in my mind something more than just a wind up etc Of course I'm not naive to know that while I'm not there she would of probably been seeing others etc, but she would ask when I was going to come back etc What really hurt was I was there 2 weeks ago and I even on the Weds she video called me etc and by friday you block just out of the blue which she had never done to me before, I just can't get over that part why do that knowing I could of giving you money by 31sts surely she could of stuck it out 1 more week and then destroy me it just felt so harsh

Sorry didn't know where I should be posting

Yeah I definitely made some mistakes, trying to move on, just felt the block was so harsh considering I was there in jan, and we talk every day not even give me a message hurts

When I was there in Jan, she told me a doctor will fly in to phuket to do sexyline there was a clinic "The Klinique" The earliest she could get an appointment was 31st Jan She went to singapore because her friend has a condo there that studies university. But obviously she is probably doing a "Singapore Run" to try and get the money, even though I said I would of helped her out. She just quit her job about 2 weeks ago wanted to get a "normal" job in phuket, like hotel etc So it wasn't like she wasn't getting what she wanted, but obviously my feeling is she met another guy in singapore and decided to block me to get money I doubt she will unblock me?

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some perspective on my current situation. Background: I’ve been with my Thai girlfriend (from Patong) for 2 years. I’ve supported her significantly and we’ve been very close—I was with her in Jan, and she even asked when I’m returning (planned for Sept). I’ve been her emotional rock, often staying on video calls while she sleeps. She met my friends and my friends family. I've met her friends, she used to say I love you even in front of friends, there was no real fight to cause the trigger Last weds she told me she hurt her foot video called me and we chatted I helped her out, we messaged a bit more everything was normal. On thursday I reached out and said good morning but never got a reply by friday she blocked me for no reason. There was no argument or a trigger to cause the block The Situation: She recently told me while I was in phuket 2 weeks ago she needed 60,000 THB for surgery (doctor coming from BKK to Phuket). I gave her 20,000 THB to start. Shortly after I can see she went to singapore. Last time I went she claimed she’s staying at a "friend's condo" for a holiday, I even gave her money last time and she was so appreciative almost cried etc. The Red Flags: My assumption is that she arrived in Singapore, she blocked me on everything. She is still posting on social media, her latest shows a love heart emoji in the distance. She is still wearing the jewelry I gave her in her posts. I sent her 5,000 THB last Friday while blocked; she accepted the money. A mutual friend messaged her; she didn't block him, but she didn't reply either. The surgery is supposedly scheduled for Jan 31st (this Saturday). My Conflict: I haven’t reached out since last Saturday (5 days of total silence). I’m worried she’s found someone else or has multiple sponsors, but I also wonder if she’s just in "work mode" to raise the remaining 40,000 THB for her surgery and blocked me to avoid the "guilt" or drama of me seeing her in that environment. I’m struggling with the urge to reach out. Does this sound like a standard "Singapore working holiday" where she’ll unblock me once she’s back in Patong, or am I being ghosted for good? Appreciate your advice, I'm a hopeless "nice" guy