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My best to the victim, I hope he makes a complete recovery. I also hope they find these guys and his motorbike is returned.

And may there be peace in the Middle East and an end to hunger and violence in Africa!

Sorry, they all seem unlikely.

What happened to the original poster? Lots of good advice and some questionable, but where's Jimmy? I want to learn how to retire at 37 (oops, too late for that).

Personal attacks and flaming comments have been deleted from this thread.

Well done but it is really sad to see the bigots here in full force in such threads. I wish there was a country as 'Bigotland' where such lowlife fascos could live; far away from us.

Jem

There is something here that is being missed. The guy lied and tried to pass himself off as a Spaniard. Why? Because no self respecting woman would have anything to do with him. Why? Because his countrymen have a bad reputation for mistreating women. Western women aren't the only ones who object to being beaten and burned alive. My old Pakistani co workers used to come to work and laugh themselves silly about the humiliations they subjected their wives to the night before, usually while eating the lunches these same women had prepared for them. Much of it is socioeconomic, but I have never encountered these attitudes in any level of western culture. You can squawk and squeal about racism, but until you have lived and worked amongst people of this ilk you cannot understand what you are saying. If you doubt what I say, go visit these parts of the world and see for yourself(I did).

Are you generalizing? Are you judging 160 million people based on few people you know?

If you read western media too much, you will have same perception about Pakistan. BTW which part of Pakistan have you been before?

I doubt what you say may happen in small cities but not in big cities.

Every individual is different, but set behaviors and attitudes can be attributed to all cultures and religions. The next time you visit your Asian friends, walk into their house with your shoes on and watch the response. Many people in the west wear their shoes in the house all the time. Show the bottom of your feet to a westerner and call him a buffalo. He'll look at you in a puzzled way and laugh. Do it to a Thai, then let us know how it went. Generalizations are not only useful, they are essential unless you live in a vacuum. Your belief or disbelief in wife beating and burning has no bearing on reality. Cutting a woman to pieces and throwing her in a river might not be the norm, but lesser violence is certainly common and rarely punished. There is no hate in generalizing; you must have an understanding of someone's cultural norms to comprehend the context of their behavior. Evidently the victim thought and felt the same way, hence the need for this fellow to try to pass himself off as a Spaniard.

Personal attacks and flaming comments have been deleted from this thread.

Well done but it is really sad to see the bigots here in full force in such threads. I wish there was a country as 'Bigotland' where such lowlife fascos could live; far away from us.

Jem

There is something here that is being missed. The guy lied and tried to pass himself off as a Spaniard. Why? Because no self respecting woman would have anything to do with him. Why? Because his countrymen have a bad reputation for mistreating women. Western women aren't the only ones who object to being beaten and burned alive. My old Pakistani co workers used to come to work and laugh themselves silly about the humiliations they subjected their wives to the night before, usually while eating the lunches these same women had prepared for them. Much of it is socioeconomic, but I have never encountered these attitudes in any level of western culture. You can squawk and squeal about racism, but until you have lived and worked amongst people of this ilk you cannot understand what you are saying. If you doubt what I say, go visit these parts of the world and see for yourself(I did).

The name from the bargirls always seems to be "tilac".

Thanks guys, I think I probably got it wrong. I am far away and use a mobile so sometimes it's hard to hear clearly. She's not a bargirl (been there done that got the tee shirt) and if there's another boyfriend he'd be a farangutan for sure. I'll go with the more affectionate term for now as things are going well. Thanks for your help!

My Thai girlfriend called me somchai on the phone today and I wonder what it means. I doubt that it is anything negative but I couldn't find it in a thai dictionary or online, so here I am. I hope this is the right place to ask, sorry if it isn't.

Thanks!

Hi, I'm new to the board but have been lurking for a while now. Thanks for your postings, I wish I had read them before my tgf applied for a trv to Canada. Her application was rejected despite having a steady job and money in the bank. She has been to Europe many times and always returned to her children in Thailand. She filled out the forms properly and submitted a letter from her employer, deed to house,etc. and was still rejected. I made the mistake of sending an invitation letter stating our relationship and the purpose of her visit was to" see if we could live happily together and further develop our relationship". The rejection letter was full of the statements that are impossible to defend or disprove and I fear that we are in trouble. She would have gained admission easily had she applied without my "help". I am now at a loss as to what to do. Any suggestions would be most appreciated.