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I will start planning early feb.
im not planning on building a palace, so I don't believe will take a year to build.
We will stay with the in-laws
the in-laws will live on site during the build
We will rent in the nearby town.
having the birth in a hospital in the town.
Alright, seems like you have everything worked out already (and haven't heeded anyone's advice! )
Best of luck and be sure to post back in 3 years and let me know how it all worked out for you.
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Come on david 48 im not ignoring you, I have liked many of your posts.living in pattaya ...
When do you plan to pack our bags and settle down back in the village up in nong song hong 100km south of khon kaen with the support of her parents and family ?
I just thought in your last comment you were being sarcastic.
I move in jan, but have now decided to build next November when the baby will be 8 months, don't want any stress during the birth.
will also give me more time living with the family see how we get on.
So full build or extension of your parent's place?
From when you start to plan with the builder/architect to completion will be about a year so you are look at moving in when your kid is 20 months and maybe moving away 2 years later when your child is 4.
So where will you stay until your child is 8 months old and during the build?
You also haven't said where you plan to have the birth?
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I think Matt's first post was excellent but since his posts seem to be getting more and more judgmental. While I think he has a valid point about his kids education I don't think it needs to be the only deciding factor in the decision. Having the time to be with your kids allows you to have more impact on their life. Yes they will be influenced by the other kids and the extended family but if you are directly involved in their life you can counter the negative and enhance the positive aspects of that. I sure don't claim to be an expert on anything but I agree strongly with MeMock and the other poster who home-school and/or supplement their kids education with tutoring. If I was still working in the west I would be getting home only an hour or two before his bedtime and likely wouldn't have the energy after a long days work to do much more than veg and watch TV with him.
I haven't tried to be judgemental at all. Even when someone said that the primary reason they are raising their children in the poorest part of a 3rd world country with the worst education standards in this region was to save money and play golf, I wished them well and said it was their choice, no judgement from me about that. Any curt replies from me after that are simply because some people are trying to find something about me or my family to condescend me with.
I don't think I am being negative, I do have some positive points about living here but realistically the many cons outweigh the few pros here for me for raising my kids in Thailand, and especially in Isaan. In the beginning I did want it to work here and had some deluded thoughts about how I could make it work but looking back at it I was really just trying to gloss over certain things and convince myself I could make it work rather than impartially judging what the best option would be for my children. I see other posters in this thread are doing the same thing.
The visa situation is a big factor for me personally. I would be living year to year hoping that they don't introduce a rule that would mean we would all have to up and leave Thailand anyway. I don't like being at the mercy of that system. That's not me being negative, that is me thinking practically about what is likely to happen in the future.
That's without the consideration of how my kids will turn out if they grow up here and, to be blunt, I don't like Thai youth's culture, values or morals so that is a big factor for me to raise them in my home country which I know from growing up there. And yes, people will retort that there are Muslim children in the UK, and Eastern Europeans, and chavs and the dole but I honestly don't care, that's just the negative Daily Mail side of the UK that people focus on when they are not there and want something to criticise the UK about.
And as for schooling, everyone keeps saying that you have to home school your kids to make up for the lacking Thai education system, but even when we live in the UK I plan to be very involved with them and their studies anyway so I hope they will soar in the UK instead of just getting by in Thailand.
Like I said before, I have the option to either raise them in Thailand or the UK and economics are not a factor for me about this. But answer me this; how many Thais would choose the UK option if they had the same choice? Every westernised Thai person I have spoken to has told me that no way in hell should I send my kids to a Thai school, not even the best international school. This is why every rich Thai sends their kids to a western school.
So back to the OP, you have a few years left to make up your mind. If you can afford to drop a few million in Isaan for 3 years of living there and walk away from it all the same then go for it, otherwise you should hang on to your money and invest it wherever you decide to settle long-term. That's advice from my experience of living here for 3 years, maybe you think you have the answer already but you know what they say? "Experience is something you think you have until you get a little bit more of it". Don't rush into anything and don't commit to anything, it will be very difficult to tell your Isaan family your plans now and then change them completely later without breaking someone's face.
I may sound negative because it doesn't go along with everyone's "can do" attitude of trying to raise kids here because they want to stay here for themselves, but I am just trying to be realistic and the reality is my kids would be much better off growing up in the UK or so I believe. That's my prerogative and I don't care what anyone else does with their own kids.
So, there's the ammo, take your shots everyone.
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living in pattaya ...
When do you plan to pack our bags and settle down back in the village up in nong song hong 100km south of khon kaen with the support of her parents and family ?
What have you got to do to get an answer in this thread David?? Hang on, let me ask him for you:
Hey OP, when are you planning to move to the village and settle down there?
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Jeez no wonder you have no friends here:coffee1:I'm not mad at you,i think your pro's and cons for the op to move to issarn and raise a family for a sustainable period have been enlightning and entertaining.
I guess i wont be winning parent of the year this year:(After my son has finished his education he may venture down many roads.but one thing is for sure,thats his future,because he will have a profit making enterprise to fall back on.
Great!
C'mon, that was the best setup for a Tommy Boy reference ever. I'm not to blame for that, you gave it to me on a plate!!!
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I'm not mad at you,i think your pro's and cons for the op to move to issarn and raise a family for a sustainable period have been enlightning and entertaining.
I guess i wont be winning parent of the year this year:(After my son has finished his education he may venture down many roads.but one thing is for sure,thats his future,because he will have a profit making enterprise to fall back on.
Great!
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I missed it,when did you say you were leaving?
In about 20 months. Are you mad at me cuz you made yourself look like such a pathetic parent in this thread that you have to keep taking shots at me?? lol
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Cough ...
To everyone, but I'll be honest, KunMatt is in front of mind ... what consideration is given to access by the grandparents / other close relatives?
Just know how strong Family connections are in Thailand.
Sorry gents ... just clearing my throat ..
Sorry mate. Are you a little fellow cuz everyone keeps overlooking you in here!!
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Life in Issan is the same as life anywhere else. Just chill out see whats happening and adapt. If you want mince and tatties your knackered. I
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Thanks but no thanks. That is probably the worst, most ill thought out advice for mine and my children's future anyone has ever given me. I think I will do what I know is best and move back to the UK when I see fit. Thanks for trying though.
Kunmatt,
Have your girlfriend or children been to the uk before.
3 times, for 2 or 3 months each time. She is best friends with my 2 sisters and Skypes my parents more than I do. She doesn't particularly want to live in the UK but, like me, she knows it is the best thing for our children. There are a few Thai restuarants where I live and a Thai market that imports goods from Thailand nd cost similar to the price of goods here.
If any Thai could take their kid to get a UK upbringing for free do you really think they wouldn't do it?
Nice try. Have another shot...
Each to there own Kunmatt,
I know my wife wouldn't like to be far from her family.
But just having a 3rd world bottom of asia education,she probably wouldn't pass the immigration requirements anyway.
Yes each to their own, whatever that means in this context. You're welcome to have another shot at me of you think you have anything else to try and talk down to me with or you can just slope off after everything you admitted to in this thread.
Hope all that money you saved yourself by living in the poorest part of a 3rd world country and all the golf games you played were worth however your kids turn out in the future. Its all on you, you know? Good luck. -
Life in Issan is the same as life anywhere else. Just chill out see whats happening and adapt. If you want mince and tatties your knackered. I
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Thanks but no thanks. That is probably the worst, most ill thought out advice for mine and my children's future anyone has ever given me. I think I will do what I know is best and move back to the UK when I see fit. Thanks for trying though.
Kunmatt,
Have your girlfriend or children been to the uk before.
3 times, for 2 or 3 months each time. She is best friends with my 2 sisters and Skypes my parents more than I do. She doesn't particularly want to live in the UK but, like me, she knows it is the best thing for our children. There are a few Thai restuarants where I live and a Thai market that imports goods from Thailand nd cost similar to the price of goods here.
If any Thai could take their kid to get a UK upbringing for free do you really think they wouldn't do it?
Nice try. Have another shot...
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Life in Issan is the same as life anywhere else. Just chill out see whats happening and adapt. If you want mince and tatties your knackered. I
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Thanks but no thanks. That is probably the worst, most ill thought out advice for mine and my children's future anyone has ever given me. I think I will do what I know is best and move back to the UK when I see fit. Thanks for trying though.
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I have 4 children here who all speak fluent English/Thai/Issan.Sep lai. Het eang u. English is easy if you only talk English at home.
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Yes, I don't disagree, in fact I just said the same thing in my last post. Are you sure you are replying to the correct thread cuz you are not adding anything to the ongoing conversation and it feels like you are arguing a point with someone who is not here?
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Hey Matt. I was only speaking from my own experiene. I live in Chonburi but ban nok Chonburi. Every day after work I teach the local kids english for 1hr. It not only helps them to speak english but allows them to teach me thai.
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I still think you are missing the point. Having my child fluent in English is the easiest thing to solve. My 2 year old speaks English as his first language here in Isaan and still talks Thai and Laos with his Thai family. Him learning English is the least of my worries as he is basically an English baby growing up in Isaan.
Read the rest of this thread for the other more serious problems of raising a child here.
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If you speak and write good English which obviously you do. Why not teach your child yourself? Easy.
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Wow, that is so easy! You've just solved all of the problems for raising a child in Thailand and Isaan so that they are now safe, healthy and well educated and have the values and morals that I want from them. Congratulations on your amazing insight that nobody has ever considered before. You have just changed my life with that incredible comment.
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Matt, your post overpage #58 is one of the best I read this year, I acknowledged it then and still do now ...
But, let's not fall into the trap that what works for you works for others equally.
Just so you know, when the time our kids arrive, most likely they will be schooled in my Home Country, so I'm not disagreeing with your opinions.
But what works for us, maybe doesn't work for others.
If parents wish to school their children here (Thailand), for what ever reason ... great ... their decision for what ever reason or judgements.
Let's not take this discussion down the road of 'where is the best place to school your kids' as this is the OP's thread asking about 'first-experince-of-gf-isaan-village', and not a schooling thread.
I agree and I wasn't being judgemental, just pointing out some heavy truths that poster may want to think about.
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In about 20 months my son will be 4 and we'll go to the UK a few months before the school year to settle into the UK. It also gives me time to purchase another house in the UK for us to live in, sort out my kid's passports, get married and get my missus her UK visa, etc.
I know your point is "why I don't move back to the UK asap considering my above statement?" but we are extremely close to my gf's family and I think it's best for everyone if I give them as much time with the grandchildren they adore before we move away. The best time for that I believe is when my son is ready to go to school.
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A few replies regarding people's perspectives on what's best for their kids.
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Education wise, the options are therefore roughly equal results wise. Although lifestyle wise my kids would probably prefer to spend afternoons on the couch watching TV rather than studying with a tutor.
Safety:
Thailand isn't as safe, but just because other people talk on their phones while driving a bike with 3 ppl and no helmets doesn't mean my kids will. With the proper precautions taken, and they will be taken, safety isn't too much of a worry.
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I think it's very obvious that you want to stay in Thailand regardless of the facts so you have glossed over some very important issues so it suits your biased need.
"safety isn't too much of a worry" - I know 5 people from our village who have been killed in the last 2 years, 3 of them were kids who were doing nothing wrong, 2 of them were killed by their drunk teacher on a Sunday who ran them over and then fled leaving them dying in the road. I witnessed a teenager killed by a hit and run in Phuket who was doing nothing wrong. It honestly isn't too much of a worry for you? Dengue, Malaria, Enterovirus71, etc, not a concern?
You are a teacher and you think that Thailand's education options are equal to NZ?? Would NZ be bottom ranked of all of the ASEAN 3rd world countries too?? Even if you did get a great home tutor and your kids were very receptive I don't think it will make up for the shortfall in 15 years of Thai schools and indoctrination. Why do all the rich Thais send their kids to Australia and UK for schooling if it could be done so well in Thailand with a home tutor?
Either admit you want to stay in Thailand for yourself or reconsider your points because you only get one chance to raise your kids.
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Good for you matt,while your in the uk raising your kids,i'll be here with mine.
When I came here as a single guy I had different priorities to now. I wanted to live a care free easy life on an Island, go diving every day, hang out with cool people, party hard and sleep in bars, do water sports, learn Muay Thai, be fluent in Thai and so on. You can see how that worked out!So Matt, you came for a wife?
Now I have children obviously my priorities have changed and even though I would not do it without them, I cannot wait to move back to the UK with my missus and kids and give my children a UK upbringing similar to how I had and loved myself.
You telling me that you live in Thailand because it is cheap and you get to play golf 3 times a week makes me think that you and I have totally different priorities when it comes to our kids, but it's your kids and it's it's totally your choice to bear.
Raising them in the bottom ranked in education of the 8 ASEAN countries.
Good call Jo, hope all that golf is worth it in the end.
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So Matt, you came for a wife?
When I came here as a single guy I had different priorities to now. I wanted to live a care free easy life on an Island, go diving every day, hang out with cool people, party hard and sleep in bars, do water sports, learn Muay Thai, be fluent in Thai and so on. You can see how that worked out!
Now I have children obviously my priorities have changed and even though I would not do it without them, I cannot wait to move back to the UK with my missus and kids and give my children a UK upbringing similar to how I had and loved myself.
You telling me that you live in Thailand because it is cheap and you get to play golf 3 times a week makes me think that you and I have totally different priorities when it comes to our kids, but it's your kids and it's it's totally your choice to bear.
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Matt's absolutely right in everything he's said.
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However if you come here and want to stay for the rest of your life,its possible.
But you and your kids will be thai,not both.
Thats the path i have chosen.
Good for some,not all.
You've seen what I've said already in this thread so I mean this as no troll, but why, what reasons are there that would make you want to do it.
Just curious as maybe I can add some pros to my UK vs Thailand list.
When i first came here i had the same intent to take my wife to aus,after apply it was not possible so i bit the bullet sold my company and moved here with the intent to stay and raise a family.
Economics told me with what i had i couldn't be back and forth so a decision was made.
I am one of the lucky ones as the business i work in has prospered over the years.
However the people i stay around have not.They will always be the first to complain about farang not share money as they sit in their hammocks and cry why are we poor.
To go back to australia if i sold up everthing would buy me a modest house,no car and back working for the bank,something i dont choose to do like the op.
My children have a great oppurtunity here if they concentrate on english at school as well.
I have here at 42 a 100 rai,nice house and car etc dept free and money in bank.Also play golf 3 times a week.
If done right theres bucket loads of success to be had here,but i always have in the back of my mind,no one will look after me here so i do my best to create a future as i can.
The key to it all is never compare western world to asia,it is what it is and what you make it.
Well I said I wouldn't troll you and I'm going to try my hardest not to based on what you said, but essentially you chose to stay in Thailand (Isaan?) because it saved you money and made you more comfortable. Your kid's best interests aren't even mentioned.
I know that for a lot of people this is the reason they choose to raise their kids in Thailand. Luckily money is not a factor for me and I will do whatever it takes and costs me to give my kids the best possible upbringing I can give them and raising them in a 3rd world country, which is one of the lowest ranked for education of the surrounding 3rd world countries, is certainly not what I would ever do to my kids.
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Matt's absolutely right in everything he's said.
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However if you come here and want to stay for the rest of your life,its possible.
But you and your kids will be thai,not both.
Thats the path i have chosen.
Good for some,not all.
You've seen what I've said already in this thread so I mean this as no troll, but why, what reasons are there that would make you want to do it.
Just curious as maybe I can add some pros to my UK vs Thailand list.
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Thanks to all for the advice, we just spent 4 great days at the Sunee Grand and saw a completely different side to Ubon city. And I mean that literally, I had no idea that huge road of bar and restaurants along the Moon River was there, it blew me away as I didn't think Ubon had anything like this.
The hotel was excellent. Again, much nicer than I expected from Ubon and if it wssn't for everyone's advice I wouldn't even have considered it and would probably have stayed at LaiThong again. Sunee is a hundred times better!
Something strange happened on checkin and I was thinking about what you guys said about them changing the rates; basically I found a Junior Suite on Agoda for 3k a night, the Sunee website had the same suite for 2800 baht a night all inclusive, so we called them to check and they confirmed, they have this room for 2800 baht all inclusive. So we I didn't pre-book, I thought I'd chance it worst case if they up the price to 3500 baht I'll book it on Agoda on my phone. We get to the hotel an hour later and they say they don't have any of those suites available, nor any deluxe rooms even though Agoda was showing many of each available, they said they only the more expensive suite which is 3k (has panoramic city view) and a special room. So I ask to see the suite and this "special" deluxe room they have. So the special room was just a deluxe with an extra bed for 2700 baht, which is right cuz a deluxe is 2k and an extra bed is 700 baht, the bell boy shows us the junior suite which I didn't like because the room is partitioned into several smaller rooms, so we ask the bellboy to see what else they have and he shows us a couple of empty deluxes and an empty normal junior suite, and he says that they have many of each available. So basically the front desk were lying when they said they only had the expensive junior suites left and we ended up staying in the deluxe room which was big enough for all 4 of us (2 babies!!).
Anyways, that's really my only grumble. The food was great, in fact we spent the first 2 days eating lunch and dinner in the hotel like terrible tourists!
I thought that Water Park was rubbish but the hotel's own pool was OK. Staff were incredible and made us and my son feel very welcome. The band rocked in their own way too!!
All in all, I cannot recommend the Sunee Grand enough to anyone. We'll definitely be going back there whenever we want a change from the countryside.
Cheers all for the advice.
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the village is just over a hour drive south of khon kaen.
kunmat great post very informative.
with regards to schools I believe khon kaen has some good international schools, but will have to look into that more.
I also have fiends there so will get my farang interaction when I visit. .
Feel free to ask any questions, My post wasn't supposed to be purely negative, I guess it just sums up my feelings of living here. I have lots of positive things to say about living here too!
You may also want to consider the visa issue and how you are at the mercy of the yearly immigration changes. 4 years ago I could get a 12 month non-imm "O" visa for "visiting a Thai friend", as of next year you need to be married to a Thai and have 800k sitting in a Thai bank. Over the next 18 years I expect this to get harder and stricter for expats under 50 who want to stay long term in Thailand. At some point I wouldn't be surprised if they introduce a rule that expats under 50 cannot spend more than a few months of any year in Thailand. They basically only like it when you come here for a fortnight and spend all of your holiday money and go home again, living here long term is not want they want unless you are getting your salary or pension paid directly into Thailand.
I wouldn't even send my kids to the best International School after looking into it. They are purely just a money spinner and your kid's education comes way down the list of priorities. In the end I summed it up like this to myself; there are millions of people from 3rd world countries who have moved to the UK to get the best upbringing and education for their kids, why am I doing the opposite and trying to raise them in a dangerous 3rd world country that hates foreigners?
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Your story almost mirrors mine from 3 years ago, I can give you a heads up for the next 3 years if you like.
You need to think long and hard about building or moving in Isaan because the novelty you experienced on your first time here will wear off but the financial commitment will be much more than you anticipate. Any money you spend here is spent and you will never get it back, Thais don't buy second hand houses so this house is either yours forever unless you give it away to a family member.
I was 32, my gf a couple of years younger than me, and just like you I visited my gf's parents in a large village in the rural part of Ubon. Everyone here are farmers and at the time I felt like I was in an episode of the Flintstones it was so basic. I loved that everything was so simple and communal here and within a couple of weeks I was talking about building a small house in this village so we could have a home and a base here after a year of just bouncing all over Thailand living out of suitcases. My gf's parents were (still are) fantastic and I dreamed up a wonderful life I could have here if I built my own den with aircons, a PS3 room, hot showers, a pool room, a swimming pool, a gym and so on. Well I now have most of that and more but I can tell you already to forget the pool table, it's just a beautiful pipedream: a table is about 200k and that doesn't include shipping it to Isaan. You also need a 30m2 room for a full size table so that is 300k from the house budget to build so you are looking at a minimum of 0.5m baht for a pool room that you in all practicality won't use cuz nobody in the village will know the game apart from you and your missus, and you'd be much better off using that space as a kid's playroom.
I was also expecting to pay a maximum of 1m for a decent house here, it ended up costing me 2m for the house then you have to buy a Thai kitchen (outside), a Western kitchen (inside), a carport, a gate and the surrounding walls and fence, all the furniture, generator, water tanks and pumps, aircons and so on. I think I've probably dumped about 3m into this place so far and I still have to build the carport and the surrounding fence. It would've been MUCH cheaper to rent a decent condo in BKK and just visit the family once a month or have them stay in BKK with us. A car will set you back at least 1m too. You think your family is going to let the farang buy a old bucket and show them up in the village when other locals have a new car? Think again.
So how did it work out? Well for one I have no friends here. Zero. People are really nice to me and I've had no real dramas that I can think of apart from some petty gossip from people who I don't even know. I regularly drink with my gf's family and have parties all the time but there are no other expats in this village and no locals my age who share any of my interests in the slightest so I am totally isolated here. Also, I speak Thai/Isaan to everyone but whenever and wherever I go in this village there are always people still pointing and shouting "farang" at me after 3 years, and I'm talking about my neighbours and their kids who have seen me daily for the last 18 months, they have been to my son's birthday party, drank my booze and eaten my food in my house and they know my name, but I am still just looked at as the stranger here who needs to be shouted at every time I walk down my road so being treated as a 2nd class citizen after everything I've done here does irk me a little.
As for the local culture, well I dislike Isaan food to say the least; I love Thai food but hate eating raw meat in cold blood soup or offcuts and bones or anything with Pla Raa after seeing how it's made here, so apart from the occasional Som Tam I don't share any food likes with anyone and at any get-togethers I eat Thai food while everyone else eats their Isaan food. I soon got bored of that one Isaan song which differs slightly that is played all the time here too.
The highlight of my week used to be playing PS3 games online with my mates in the UK but now we have 2 kids I rarely get the time any more so now my favourite day is Sunday when I get up early and spend all morning cooking a huge Sunday Roast lunch for me and my gf's family, drinking beers by myself while I listen to my local home radio station over the internet, basically simulating my Sundays I had when I was back in the UK. I stream UK TV over a UK VPN because local TV is the worst of the worst. I'm sure as a young guy you will feel the same, with nothing to do and nobody to do it with you will soon get bored like I was/am. It's not like this is my first time away from home, I've constantly lived outside of the UK since 1999 in various places all over Asia, some much more remote and isolated than here, and I have not been as homesick or bored as I am now.
You also have to think about what is best for your kid. You want them to be healthy, safe and well educated. For me, none of those things are here in Isaan. Even the best private hospital here is 1 hour a way from where we live. We are surrounded by tropical diseases and even though we are fastidiously clean and careful, our son got hand foot and mouth disease twice by the time he was 18 months old including the Enterovirus71 which can be deadly and was very scary. Lastly any expat who makes his kids go to an Isaan school should be done for child neglect.
My gf's parent's adore my children and spend every day with them but I am starting to have issues with their discipline and lack of with my son, and the sorts of things and habits they are teaching him.
I knew when I started this experience that it was only going to be short term until my son was old enough to go to school and then we would move away and come back to this house during holidays to visit the family. Well since then I have now decided to move back to the UK when he is ready for school and raise him in the UK instead. I made up a list of pros and cons and the UK won vs Thailand 20:4. Maybe you should also have a good think about what you are going to do.
If I was you I would weigh up the following scenarios from a realistic perspective, considering cost, practicality, pros and cons;
- building a house in the Thai countryside and being isolated.
- extending your gf's parent's house to give you both a living space, which you either live in full or part time.
- renting long term in Pattaya/Jomtien and visting Isaan when you feel the urge then returning back to civilisation when you've had enough.
- Moving back the UK.
Believe it or not, I am quite happy here with our lives at the moment, but probably because I know that it is only temporary and in about 18 months we will be moving to the UK. My point is, everything that I expected from my first visit here worked out very differently and not for the best I think. If I could re-write history and my gf's family came from Chiang Mai or Koh Phi Phi or just about anywhere else in Thailand that wasn't Isaan, then I would.
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No, if somebody had already been through the same experience I was planning and was talking to me like my dad then I think I would have deeply considered everything he was saying. I think I was pretty sensible about it from the start and understood the risks, me moving here for a few years was not a mistake and I got what I wanted from it which was a nice, safe comfortable home for my missus and kid (now kids) and for them to be close to my missus's family for a few years. I knew from the beginning that the money I spent here I would never re-coup and worst case scenario we would have a holiday home to come back to which is exactly how it worked out. I also was prepared to sacrifice a few years of my social life for them too by isolating myself here, something I also knew from the beginning.
£65k is not pocket change for me but I was prepared to spend that for threes years of building a house here for what I just explained and in a couple of years I will be walking away from it. Everyone keeps saying how they live here to save money but, like I explained in one of my first posts here, it would've been much much cheaper to rent a luxury condo in BKK for a few years and have much more advantages of living in the city compared to here.
Like I said, that will wear off soon enough once you find yourself isolated in a remote village where the only person that speaks your language is your partner. You've only stayed in the village once so you cannot possibly think you know what it is really like. Have you ever tried to live in a place you loved going to on holiday? It is very different living in a place to just visiting it for a couple of weeks. You are a young guy and you need some activities to do with yourself and the chances of finding some like minded people in your village that share your interests will be slim at best. Seeing as you were the sort of person who was attracted to live in Pattaya where you have everything you need on your doorstep, living in Isaan full time is going to be a huge difference.
I do feel like this is falling on deaf ears because, like you said, you have already made up your mind to build in an Isaan village and it doesn't seem like anyone else's experience is being considered by yourself. I am interested to hear the outcome of all this in 3 years to find out your experience.