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1 hour ago, Mad Mustang said:

I lived in Surin and Bangkok for a total of 12 years and watched the country change in so many ways and not for the better in many ways. Went to Phnom Penh for a week, back to Bangkok for 2 weeks to pack up and relocated to Cambodia.
Best move I’ve made, for me it’s just much better and I haven’t seen any murders, assaults, stabbings or bag and phone snatches like the BS internet stories promote. It’s a fantastic country. Thailand for expats is quickly becoming paradise lost.

Thank you for your inspiring post. Can you explain a little why you find it better?

12 hours ago, connda said:

 discussing past sexual encounters injects too much tension into that marriage relationship. So I don't ask, and I don't tell.  It just doesn't matter.

That tension does suggest it does matter.

16 minutes ago, angryguy said:

My wife is younger and as attractive as swift but not as tall. Considering how much less ive achieved than Kelce, id classify him as a chump

You like the rest of humanity have a need to express yourself to someone who understands you.

We also need expansionary conversations. I'm guessing keice has that with swift.

Does your wife add anything to the conversation? Good for you if she does. 

3 hours ago, angryguy said:

Sorry disagree with you there. Travis Kelce could have anyone he wants

Exactly. You don't think he knows this?

Men who group up in healthy families want a partner for life. Do you think he'd be happier with the hottest girl from RCA? 

Reducing all human interactions to transactions is very depressing. People want to share their lives and that means thoughts with another who "gets them" 

The two people the op are talking about live such rarified lives there's only a few potential partners out there.

On 7/8/2025 at 2:18 AM, Jurg said:

Look at the exchange rates over the past 10 years against the AUD!!

That's AUD weakening against all currencies not bht strengthening.

41 minutes ago, Lorry said:

In my home-country, there are subsidized fares, too.

There would be a huge outcry if they wouldn't apply to foreigners.

Actually,  only foreign tourists have to pay (the subsidized fares). Foreign migrants don't have to pay at all.

So you're disgusted at being treated like a tourist? Do you work here?

On 6/27/2025 at 9:52 AM, Lorry said:

A trial version has been installed at our local zebra crossing.

No knives yet, so foreigners just bump their heads against the metal installation.  Then they stand there, dazed, holding their head, in obvious discomfort.

I guess the knives are budgeted for next year.

 

BTW the flat fare of 20 B has been confirmed today,  again, stating (bold in the original) FOR THAIS ONLY.

My latest ride on the BTS was 107 B.

One of the most disgusting experiences in Thailand. I really wish my country would do the same to Thais. 

20bht is a subsidized fare. 

Are you disgusted at the Thai people getting a subsidy from their government or that the Thai government isn't subsidizing foreigners?

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Nobody in Thailand has rare sex days, unless they choose to have them.

I think you're forgetting about the curse of growing old for many men.

Increasingly realise if I'm offline I have a good time doing the typical stuff, cooking, reading, meeting a friend. If I spend time online it often results in a bad day, you tubing, forum posting, fbooking.

I pick the phone up to answer a msg, check a sports score and then end up on here. It's wasting life but so hard to stop. 

Nobody looks back on a weekend/month/year and thinks...what a great time that was, if only I spent more time on that forum.

Thanks for the replies. 

It's 13k baht a month pension. As I feared she looks a risky proposition from the UKs point of view.

She has a PhD and will start a post doc end of the year but she won't get a letter confirming that till September. 

I guess it's better to wait till then.

We've been together 13 years and I'm the one who would fund her trip.

Anyone with relevant experience?

50, retired from gov job on 13k pension. 

Not much in the bank or assets.

Will UK embassy reject her?

Westerners aren't using public services like broke foreigners in the UK so I doubt they care at all. Gossipers will burn thru 100 people and the westerner wearing the ten year old flipflops will be one of them.

4 hours ago, zmisha said:

The world's toughest marriage visa requirements are a pretty clear indication of why Thai men don't consider farang friends.
To make you understand this more clearly they will likely introduce 800k in the bank requirement, insurance requirement, show 100k in cash on the border requirement, medical certificate requirement etc

UK is tougher. 400k in bank versus 4 million in the bank. Or, 65k a month versus 100k a month income.

Simon you said Turkey was too cold for your lungs. UK will be worse.

On the other hand a self contained life of an older man doesn't differ that much wherever one is.

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

UK 15 miles to my nearest town, no bus service, 40 quid in a taxi.

Thailand, 12Km to Chiang Mai moat, 20bht on a Songtaw.

 

I'm not sure why you're all bigging up the UK, it was never that great.

Just work and quiet desperation.

Couldn't even go cycling, cos it rained nearly every day and I was only 3Km from the Camel trail.

What time is the last songtaw back? How much does it cost if taking other means?

On 6/22/2025 at 12:33 PM, Celsius said:

She sucks deeper

Yes I can confirm that.

4 hours ago, Jack1988 said:

it's up to these people, i don't care at all. I am the owner of my money and i don't give it to nobody

Have you ever been married?

9 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

Unfortunately, I have seen the world from both sides, I have been with a 19 year old long term,, 23 years,  a 25 year old and a 27 year old also fairly long term, 12 years and 6  years., and it seems to me that the effect men have on women is far greater than we realise. I say this, because the 19 year old stayed loyal for 23 years, she had no issues, she did not have to deal with cheating and the like, and her life was blessed and her behaviour was usually on point therefore. However, I also saw the 25  year old Filipina (not the one that's coming, another one), who had 6 previous relationships, and even though it was her propensity for cheating, dishonesty and crazy behaviour that torpedoed all those 6 relationships, she developed greater insecurity and ever crazier behaviour, precisely because of her insecurity that once the men find out who she really is, that they will leave her.

 

So loss, the fear of loss, cheating and the like, even when done by the woman, will take a major toll on her sense of security and thus her ability to conduct herself right in any relationship in the future. And it always gets worse.

 

Even with the Thai girls I noticed that in their very first relationship they were all giving, generous and carefree, but then when they saw their love was wasted, not reciprocated and effectively for nothing, that is when they became harder of heart, less generous, less giving and less feminine.

 

It is absolutely the case that previous relationships have a profound effect on women, and men, but more on women.

 

Of course I am extremely apprehensive about bringing this Filipina virgin to Thailand, particularly as I am still entangled with the Thai Miss Grand, and I am mindful that one or both of the two women, and potentially myself, will come out of this year heartbroken and will have to go through a valley of tears. But you have to be strong enough to survive that, because if you do not, what is the alternative, you act like a monk and have no experiences? Life is to be lived, even if it hurts. You dust yourself off and get on. As Bonaparte said, in war and love, all's fair.

 

However, I am bringing in the Filipina in in good faith, ie I am giving her the chance to show that she can be a life partner. Also because the Thai Miss Grand has some serious behavioural issues.

You clearly know the game and the evolutionary mechanisms at work. By your post you seem to be over 50 with a lot of experience. The young girls you target don't have those benefits do they.

Has any girls SMV (sexual market value) been increased by sleeping with you? Or decreased?  At your age you should have developed more compassion. 

We both know this time next year it will be different girls but the same story.

5 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

10 priors is a lot. It's too much. You have to draw the line at 6 really. Over 7 and you're in for a 50% chance of tear down.

 

 

That's true. You can't tell there's a flu virus in the air either. Until it's too late. Just like a virus, a woman who's had to many sex partners will make you pay. One way or the other. You will regret it.

 

 

Well, take it up with these guys:

 

https://thethaiger.com/news/national/boom-boom-thai-people-ranked-no-1-in-asias-list-of-top-shaggers#google_vignette

 

According to them Thai women are the most promiscuous in Asia. Bear in mind the 10.6 figure, if they did it right, will have taken into account that in rural Thailand the girls have 2 to 3 partners. So the true tally for girls in the city is much higher, than 10.6, as the rural girls will have brought down the average.

 

 

 

Maybe, maybe not. But either way you'd have fond memories of doing a silky 20 year old.

I agree with most of your points. Women tend to be diminished by every man that seduces/lies to them. 7 broken hearts/ disappoints take their toll and they and their future husband pay the price.

So therefore how comfortable are you to be contributing to another humans suffering? Unless your irresistible i imagine your waving a potential committed life time relationship at this Filipina knowing that it won't happen.

Make a real connection with another human being. 

Have a child.

Get a dog.

Volunteer where you can do good.

In short, stop living just for yourself.