tommybhill

Sad story. Get strong. You know what you have to do. You have an absolute solid case for your divorce . Dont spend a fortune on a lawyer. Adultery is grounds for a divorce and you could supply more than enough proof. Your wife should realize this. So get a couple good friends and got to the Amphur and sign the paper. It takes less than an hour. wait outside. Dont talk to your wife. Walk in and Get It Done.

I know so many guys that this has happened to here. Many are Still with there cheating wives and raising there Not Kid.

There lives and relaitionships suck and they drink heavily.

Get rid of the cheating filth and start fresh.

Good luck.

I don't need to read past first 2 replies....the above quote

"Get rid of the filth...." Are you brain dead. The OP stated had not had physical contact for 13 months....geezuz

OP stop moaning about a motor bike and "your assets"

Move on. Why did you come on thaivisa? Grow up.

Fancy leaving someone here for 13 months.

Crazy....you think a marriage certificate has any meaning.

Next visit to click with a Thai ..come with assets already acquired and live here. Take care of her and you just might have a chance. However moaning about a bike etc ..I think not

Wind your neck in mong.. She got impregnated 3 months after i'd returned to work. then went off the grid after 6. you are a lizard pal

I would like to add to my post. If your wife was truly faithfull to you during 4 six month separations then she is a gem, and you have treated her despicably. You should find a way to make amends.

I am very puzzled by the general attitude that she has behaved badly. i doubt if there is any women in the world who would put up with this. 50 years ago maybe, but not now days.

oh do bore off lizard.

We originally spent over 2 years together, its not like we got married and I said "right im off to work for 6 months"

No one cares what you think

In my opinion, any one who can leave their wife alone for more than 3 months is not entitled to expect anything more then you got. Marriage is designed for 2 people to care and love each other, and not make unreasonable demands on the partner. To my way of thinking 13 months is outrageously over the top and you are totally responsable for the breakup.

what if you have to work away for more than 3 months at a time? is just under 4 months acceptable? but you draw the line at 6 months. you're a gimp. If you love someone it shouldn't matter how long you're away from each other.

I planned on returning earlier but as I explained she completely vanished

I have spoken to her today on Skype.

Just to clarify she has her own career and I never sent her money from overseas. We agreed on that towards the beginning of the relationship.

She seems to be in a world of pain right now and seems genuinely sorry. She's claiming it was a big mistake. I do almost feel sorry for her, almost.

Don't worry gents i'm not that stupid.

Thanks for the sound advice from the vast majority of you, I know what I have to do

Cheers

If you Skype with her, or communicate in some other way, why not simply ask her if she had a child with a different man and where she wants to go from here? I am rather puzzled that you would ask TV readers before asking your wife.

Because I wanted to know where I stood legally, what my options were regarding lawyers and police etc.

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"Get rid of the cheating filth and start fresh".This is not called for, if the husband been away 13 months !!! what does he expect,people i.e. Male and Female need physical love and affection.It is very much His fault whether he likes to admit it or not."Get a divorce ?" that is up to him,just so long as he doesn't think he is 100% innocent because he isn't .

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Good luck.

I did do 6 months in the U.K 6 months in Thailand, which worked for us for 4 years. I've stayed here longer this time due to personal reasons. And no you are right i'm not 100% innocent,

Don't be so quick to judge

I would like some advice please.

I recently discovered my wife had given birth to a boy however we have not been in physical contact for around 13 months as I have been working hard in England with the aim to get back to Thailand for a break.

I had issues with my wife, mainly because of the distance between us. Never in a million years did I imagine she would be playing buckaroo with some thai bloke. She's not that sort and is not a bar girl or anything.

She kind of went off the grid around 3 months ago which was kind of baffling, and were kind of mutually agreeing that it was just never going to work out together with such long periods away from each other.

Anyway the fact that she had sex and got pregnant while she was still saying "i love you babe" on our skype calls, hurts. We are still married right now.

My TV, Fridge, motorbike, all things I have bought are still at her place, and most importantly my dogs. the father of the kid, i've discovered as a facebook profile pic of him holding one of my dogs, which i thought was a nice touch.

I would really like the money from my assets there. If I go there in person which won't be for a while i'm likely to go through them both like a whirlwind,

another great laugh was when I phoned her mother trying to ascertain whether the child was indeed my wifes (i found this out by the way from pictures of the newborn they posted on facebook, but never showing my wifes face) and I said in Thai, "as she had a kid, as she had a kid, please tell me" - her mother said "who's this" then hung up!

I would just like some advice please guys. what are my options? Would be appreciated.

I feel this poorly explained but that's pretty much the short story.

thanks

In all fairness 50 years for 200 pills is shocking and disproportionate. It wasn't hard drugs. Apparently the drugs in question were given to him by undercover cops in the first place.

However i think you need to be a special kind of stupid to deal drugs in countries like Thailand.

Mays well be dead than spend the rest of your days in a thai prison...

Some of her finest acting work right there.

She's full on steaming as well. MAI MAI MAI

it's madness to see anyone but the emergency services in and around the scene of the crash.

3500 baht for long time for Thai customers? come on. they look like right trolls too

absolute outrage if he was death. going around handing cards out whilst feinting death

Sell the bike at a local farang bar and get you and your boy back to the U.K.

Your son is far better off away from people like that.

Aikido and TaeKwondo are for show and Aikido especially is useless in reality or self defence. Anyone that says Aikido is good doesn't know what they are talking about. Muay Thai all the way. Also Boxing or MMA but gyms are hard to come by in Thailand. Trust me trying to put someone in a funny little arm lock when there really swinging for you does not work.

Hmm, I bet they would have a field day with the Leatherman I carry with me where ever I go...

haha why just incase you get lost in the jungle one day..... come on man

Of all the daft posts on here this is definitely up there with the best. GET A GRIP OF YOUR BODY!

I think the more time you spend with his family they will grow to like you. This was evident in my situation. My wifes family did not want her with a farang man to begin with but eventually I won them over. Its fear of the unknown. Hopefully they will one day realise how weird they were for disapproving of your relationship just because your not the same race or culture.

Cant believe so many of you feel there is not much difference than killing a dog than a chicken etc.

Plus these idiots obviously enjoyed the fact that murdered the dog by posting the evidence on facebook.

Sentence is far too lenient. It says suspended sentence - so they won't actually do any jail time. nice touch.

We are in 2015 <deleted>.

Sad, but what is the difference between killing the dog for consumption and killing a chicken, pig or a cow?

Do the people that kill chicken, pigs and cows post it on facebook for the world to see? Dogs are pets, its hard to say chickens etc can be pets.

I would be gracious and grateful host. Welcome them to the home with open arms.

If you can be magnanimous and sincere and big, even for 15 minutes. You could then politely excuse yourself for less than self-indulgent reasons.

If you're unable to do that, I would get some long term spiritual counseling. Be solitary and look at yourself.

I'm suggesting this to you as a spiritual brother. Love them. They are your wife family and loved ones. ASk God to help.

Auld lang syne

I don't think we have to bring god in to this and get all weird.

Basically you just have to be a good person. I.E your first couple of sentences.

I think this all depends on the type of person you are. I think you'll find more often than not westerners are very private, I don't mind my wifes family coming round but I think 13 people in your house for 5 days is taking the p**s a bit. I would definitely try to enjoy yourself with them though. I know when I first met my wifes Dad, wai'd, smiled etc and his spoke to me twice since in 4 years. I'm half his age though which plays a big part.

Some of your posts are quality!

I'm looking to buy a some decent gloves, a heavy bag and a heavy duty stand to hang it on or even a free standing bag would suffice.

I would imagine I could get hold of a bracket and fit it to one of the walls but I could see it pulling the wall down when I start training.

As anyone got any experience purchasing equipment like this or know of any companies that sell boxing equipment online preferably with delivery? I've had a look at a few websites but naturally most are in BKK.

I'm in Chumphon.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Cheers

Whats wrong with these weirdo's? Seriously. Just do your yoga in your hotel or apartment.

It's like they are desperate for attention.

Failing that if they had to do it in public there are plenty of parks to do this s**t in.

Respect the country you are in. Its easy.

last night God told me that the Thai police should peepee test all Thai women looking like farang because maybe they might smoke ice like farang

When did you get out?

What a weirdo. I also don't think Thai women try and look like western women. Most certainly not the case with keeping their skin fair.

Tell your GF to get a grip of her son. There is no excuse for poor discipline.