Soon as the monks gets close to a woman or tries to touch a woman that's a sign right there. ( No go). I've had two boyfriends that are both gone to become monks for a short period of time I've gone back to the room but out of decency and respect of myself I never tried to touch them or even give them a kiss goodbye as long as they had the robe on. Equally at fault are the two visitors for putting themselves in that situation. And at that age the poor guy could have had dementia.
I just spent 15 minutes speaking to our village monk but is regarding his two new cars that they donated to him and he was saying how much better it is to have a car with air conditioning than driving around on a motorbike for more money.