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Kangabollox have you ever been with a BarGirl?

I would rather stay single for a lifetime, my personal choice.

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It was an interesting question you asked in your OP. However, if you have no experience with bar girls then maybe you shouldn't have started it ??

You don't have to date a bar girl to have some insight, do you think they tell their boyfriends the truth, the untruths could give a misguided view.

Often men will tell themselves and others stories to make themselves and others accept their partners bar career because many are not quite comfortable with it, they will portray them to be an amazing woman who is making the ultimate sacrifice out of love for the family because of her amazing heart.

Rubbish, but if it makes people feel better,why not.

I had a close friend who married a bar girl, he did that, he is single now and broke, there is absolutely nothing positive about the industry.

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this is very true. the only positives are the customers seem to like it.............................lol.

having a foreign prostitute move in sounded good at the time..........................lol.

what bar and her number please? girls who specialize in ippuns are few and far between nowadays.

When you get right down to it....work is work...................lol. All jobs have plusses and minusES

Why don't you have the intention to tell where the money is coming from but still want to marry her?

He thinks the family may want to SHARE his money. and i think he is right. it aint all about LOVE when it cums to inter-racial marriages between thais and afabangs.

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Many thais see a farang in law as equivalent of what Americans call social security................lol.

dark skinned,

Whats wrong with being dark skinned?

My sister in law is black, but also a consultant doctor. Anyone that writes racist crap like that is ironically showing themselves up as rather poorly educated.

Ps your another one on a thread to take the piss out of people who feel the need to justify their wife and relationship, trying to justify his wife and relationship.

<deleted> dont parody yourself

ask the thais what wrong with dark skinn.

Susan Wongs-its as close to high society thai-chinese as you going to get.

You have been invited to meet with the prospective in-laws.

Make no mistake this is a very big deal for your girl friend and should not be underestimated.

Without the parents blessing there will not be a happy future with this lady.

Do not be too concerned by your lady asking her friend/s for emotional help because at the level of Thai society your girl is from there may well be concerns, there is in some respects a feeling that is definitely against mixed marriage to a Falang, especially one with no discernible means of support without a job.

If I was your girls Father, I too would want a long interview with you.

As far as the dowry is concerned, the amount could be described in the families circumstances as low and as long as your lady hasn't been married to anyone before and not had any children not unusually high.

The fact that the parents would give this back after the wedding is a very good sign that the Sinsot is just for show and nothing more.

Initially meeting the Mum and Dad for the first time can be stressful for both parties but if you keep your calm and your dignity, show that you really do love their daughter and you have the means, brains and self respect enough to support her then you will be OK.

It may be sensible to explain to them that you do not intend to become a professional loafer all your life and maybe you have plans to build an hospital or a school or maybe even get a job as a school janitor but you will resume work at some foreseeable point in the near future

My suggestion is that if the girl in this age is emotionally so close to the family....don't marry her. There are millions of girls who live very modern and marry whoever they want like in the west.

all from issan-?

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Yeah Kanga, I've been married to an ex GOGO girl for 5 years. Best wife I've ever had.

Her family were dirt poor, not from Isan, 2 generations born in a tin shed in a squalid soi behind a temple in Ratchaburi.

Family survived by collecting plastic, paper, glass.

Raped when 12 yo by local scum, left school and home at 13 because of emotional probs from rape, gave birth to first child at 14 to boy whose family took her in, he became meth addict.

At age 18 after years of struggle she was approached to go to work in Singapore ( 4 Floors ) Life finally improved ! After 3 years bought first house. Her 10 years of work before I met her improved the life of her whole family.

This is a true story, I have met all of the people in her story, she has photos to back her story, I have spent Songkrans with the relatives still living in the tin shed.

She had no other options. Who would employ an unmarried, uneducated mother of 2? no one. No social security in this country!

Having said all of that, my wife is a beautiful and intelligent woman, how else would she have managed to seperate so much cash from so many tight arsed farang over so many years.

Her only motivation was to care for her kids and give them a better life, which she has done.

I respect her and everything she has achieved and I'm happy to support her and the kids (we now have 4) we have a genuine and loving relationship based on honesty and earned trust.

To each his own, but to any who may choose to denigrate the people who choose to work in the sex industry, I say, who are you to talk, till you've walked in their shoes.

And to all you flaming, nit picking, holier than thou wowser types out there, this is my life and I'm happy with it so post away, your opinions mean didly to me!

good 4 you. Can you tell us how the family survives now that she is married? Hdr financial obligations just dont disappear overnight with a string around her finger.

run boy run! that 2-3 motnh thing is a bad sign. girl working too fast!

that 2-3 month thing is trubblesome! run boy run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are choices and then are choices. Girsl have a choice whether to SCREW for a living. But since so many cum from the same area How much choice do they really have?

very very good threads, today i was thinking about this....

in all the years that i spent in Thailand i never ever(in fact less than once a year) saw a foreigner with a thai wife/gf like those on the picture, yes dont remember i saw a foreigner with a cute good thai girl (by good i mean not a "sexy" bg).... quite depressing in fact!

Sad but true. These pics appear to have been compiled by a Thai guy(s) and they look like pics of Thai girls that Thai guys find attractive. These girls definitely do not resemble Thai girls normally seen with farangs. Which is why I've never met a Thai guy who's even the least bothered when seeing farang guys with Thai women. I suppose that's a good thing.

if you want to see what farangs like. early morning see the girls who go to eat pancakes with their bfs..................just god awful!!!!!!!!!!!! i mean the girls not the pancakes......lol

red, white, yellow, blue,green?

When it comes to money, for people that are fixated on getting more, there is never enough.

IMO most BGs are much more empowered and have a lot more dignity and control over their life than if they pursued most of the other options open to them given their background.

And it's not just a few that hit the jackpot and end up happily married overseas.

How much dignity and respect does one have in being a slave to the almighty dollar.

How much empowerment and control comes with being a slave to money.

The choice I believe is mentally damaging to them in the long run, it surely can't be denied that they suffer mentally and emotionally from the profession.

Most I believe are unaware of what they are getting into, a rosy picture is painted by friends to seduce them into it, the harsh reality kicks in once they start working, a prostitute once told my father she dates a pimp because she likes to wake up next to someone lower then herself, yet she still does it, a statement like that shows the damage done to her self confidence, not exactly empowering.

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Dont forget its physically damaging too. One Laos girl who was a star but was booted from Nana because she isnt thai is in a quandry. Does she go back to sex work or continue her training as a hair stylist. She isnt happy doing sex work but it more than pays her bills.

Her goal of finding a good man will just about vanish if she return to servicing men who want to do her. And she knows it. But her prospects for making good money anywhere else are just miniscule.

And remember those of you who thinks its ez work. Its not ez getting men to pay for sex. Just go to any venue a select few have no trubble getting customers. Many do ok. A lot just cant get paying customers.

will someone post the schedule of rock bands. i love to see thai peeple ROCKING! any SEK LoSo sightings.

shouldnt they shut down isan.......................lol.

It's funny cause it does happen. Once a Thai girl gets your number most of them will keep it forever and message you when they are in need of something

Happening to me right now. I sms for 2 weeks-nothing. She needs a payday she replys in less than a minute. Im happy to oblige and yes she is an ex superstar bargirl..............lol.

Been told they prefer older guys and not younger handsome guys.

"Young man,has little bit money and wants too much sex."

Old guys, much money and little bit sex, maybe even no sex."

Older is a better choice for bar girl.

Hint: They are not really in it for the sex!

oN sex forums there are guys who believe thai girls get off on senoir citizens sexual prowress.........lol.

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Man-this might explain why ive never been once been called hansum in over 10 years. Maybe im too darn good looking..................lol. The girls who use the line tend to be really ugly and the guys they use it on also are ugly.

2000 is about 20 USD...so $140 for a week in the city, food included, transport as well. Could do worse...

2000 baht is not more like $60?

up 2 them!

what bargirls lose moto guy boyfriends gain.................alls well. the boys can provider for awhile............lol.

maybe lady is getting back at op in her own way.....lol. 5 flights of stairs is just shit...............lol. op thinks it will be fun..........................hahahaha!

i claudius, I'm a math and English teacher here. Might stay and progress to University level, might not.

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That comment can have 2 meanings.

Do you mean that you might 'progress' to teaching at university level, (which probably is not progress, since university lecturers often have lower salaries than school teachers, but maybe fewer teaching hours).

Or do you mean that you mighut progress to getting a university-level qualification, as opposed to your current lack of qualifications?

Not meaning to be rude, just asking.

Simon

all the qulifications he needs is his being HANSUM.