"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius
"Our greatest freedom is the freedom to choose our attitude." - Viktor Frankl
I love the above quotes because there is a lot of truth in them.
About four decades ago, I concluded: “The way you think is the way you feel, and the way you feel is the way you act”. Put simply: If I have negative thoughts then I tend to feel negatively and act accordingly. If I have positive thoughts, then I tend to feel positive and act accordingly. Influencing my thought process and emotions through positive thinking has had a major positive impact on my life (and others).
I also was brought up with the "Golden Rule" which my mom explained to me as follows: “Treat people the way you want to be treated – friendly, politely, respectfully, generously, with empathy and compassion”. Since this makes a lot of sense to me, I’m still trying to live accordingly. Again, this has had a major positive impact on my life (and others).
Not being a religious person, I still love the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer:
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”.
The above examples have helped me living a life characterized by happiness, contentment, and gratitude. In addition, having financial freedom most certainly has been helpful.
Coming back to the topic of this thread: “Are you really in control?”. The honest answer to that would have to be “No” because I am not fully in control. There could be health issues, accidents, deaths, and other incidents I have absolutely no control over. However, I do feel much more in control over the things I can actively and positively influence – starting with myself and the quality of my thoughts.