totally thaied up
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31 minutes ago, Pravda said:
I'm getting tired of it
Your just emotionally tired. That will pass with time when you give yourself time to recover. Took me about 18 months to do after my divorce. I was feeling so tired all the time but it passes.
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I had a strange afternoon. My wife and I went shopping and I met my ex-wife's best friend. Not spoken to my ex for 10 years now. The friend was shocked I was married again and was with some about 10 years younger than the ex. We just spoke pleasantly and went our ways. As we left, she had taken her phone out to take photos of us. We spent about another hour shopping and we saw in the distance sitting on a bench, my ex and her best friend together busily talking and pointing at us.
Eat ya heart out love, ... You left me but I traded up. Always remember, there is life after divorce or any failed relationship.
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2 hours ago, Pravda said:I have this feeling of complete failure lingering over me.
Happened to me after my divorce. I should have got back on the bike quicker and just banged anyone to get over the hurt. Once I did that, I was okay. They can squeeze all the confidence out of you but your not the problem. Chin up...
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20 minutes ago, LivinLOS said:
People cant seem to understand.. Doesnt matter if the insurance is useless and wont pay out.. Its the price of admission and a system of generating more revenue for Thailand..
Pay the price or plan other options.
Can I afford the price?
At this time I can but why should I like the price when you can see where this is leading you.
If they want an admission price to let us in, It has gone a step to far.
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29 minutes ago, Jingthing said:
The people using embassy letters (the vast majority of national) for the income method that are not required to import even ONE baht
And hence in many ways, a two tiered system now that means too me, a large pot of people with no money here in the banking system and the authorities in power with regards to health care will not like that.
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1 minute ago, jacko45k said:
but what would be their options if they got sick? Thailand does not want to be responsible for them.
They don't care. They think they will just die. I had a hemorrhaged gall bladder and was very sick. Cost my insurance 220K. I mean, I was very, very sick after the OP and took me a long time to get better. My closest friend could have not paid that type of money out unless he dipped into the 800K visa money but then would have to move out of Thailand as he would lose is visa extension. I know lots of people like this, living pension cheque to pension cheque and they live on the wing of a prayer hoping they never get sick. We are all doing to die one day but I don't want to go out like that.
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8 minutes ago, jacko45k said:
chose to keep 5MBaht here for such an eventuality
Most of my friends could not get hold of 5 million. That's where the house of cards falls down. They live from pension cheque to pension cheque.
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22 minutes ago, jacko45k said:
I hope some provision for this is made, like a FD account of the 400,000 baht over and above the 800,000 requirement.
I don't want to tie anymore money now up in Thailand. I have insurance that covers me for 18 million for admission so why the hell do I need OPD or to put any other money in a bank. As far as I can see, Thailand is now trying to fog itself off as a premier retirement destination. That's something I got to laugh at.
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10 minutes ago, marcusarelus said:
Where does it say purchase only from Thai companies? In fact is says the reverse of that?
It would almost double my international insurance premiums if I had to pay for a 40,000 baht OPD. My insurance then loses its relevance totally.
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3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:
That's worse than Brexit Britain,
we dropped from 52 to 42 ...... 20%
you've dropped 32 to 20 ...... 33%
Yep, I am crying in my milk. It is starting to hurt now. Even though I have a pension, money every two weeks, it is just getting less and less for just no darn reason at all.
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7 minutes ago, Cranky said:What is it with people that think they are bullet-proof as soon as they board a plane?
Many of us have insurance. Mine is up to 18 million a year but with no OPD. OPD would almost double my already high premiuM. Who in his right mind would pay for OPD when it is so cheap.
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10 minutes ago, Peterw42 said:
People on an O-A stay for up to 2 years without putting any money in a Thai account. Maybe thats part of the whole idea to do with insurance for O-A
That exactly what I am thinking but the idea has been born and for me, that is a worry. This is a literal cash cow for certain parties. Maybe they want the O-A visa to die off? I thought it requirements without the need of bringing money in, too lax.
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1 minute ago, BritManToo said:
I'd get the 1 year VISA in Cambodia and base myself there PP or SR, then you can easily visit Thailand, Laos and Vietnam just using the bus or train.
I agree with that but the issue is if your border hop to much, your going to get a red stamp sooner or later. I am just seeing a raft of red stamps on certain Facebook pages these days.
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I would most likely border hop between four countries - Philippines, Cambodia, Vietnam and Indonesia. Problem is over time it would get demanding on the health and your not getting younger. Personally I believe visas are going to be harder to get in Thailand. If this healthcare rubbish spills over into extensions, there will be a mass exodus and for anyone above 70, going somewhere else will be a problem. I would wait for more clarity over the coming months but have a plan B thought out if it all goes pear shaped.
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8 minutes ago, malagateddy said:Reliably informed that the 1st of July is "starting date "...also sadly expats on retirement or marriage extensions will have to have the mandatory h/c requirements.
Says where and said by whom. Will only believe when I see the police order with it clearly written on it.
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I said yesterday not to get your knickers in a twist as is was just going to be phased in for O-A Visa holders. These visa holders are not tying dollars up in a Thai bank and hence are being penalized for not having and extension. If it was going to be phased into extensions, most of the expat population would be wiped out in a year or two and personally, I do think that would not happen unless the Government was really serious in shaking us out.
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1 hour ago, Tagged said:I would say the opposite, that Thailand have become better by the years, and easier til live a normal life!
I guess we all have our different faded glasses on, but thats my feeling.
Yes, my views have changed. I spend about 100K a year on medical and currently in Australia it is free. I spend another 56K a year on insurance. My pharmacist loves me in Thailand as I spend a lot there. That 156K is more then twice what I would spend on rates and house insurance at home. The older I get, the numbers don’t add up.
Add to the fact unlike my wife, I have no avenue for PR. In two years, my wife can have PR in Australia, Medicare and be able to claim for benefits until work is gained. Big, big difference. She has rights and I have no rights but to be just a farang.
No, I will return to Thailand but I am under no illusions now it is cheaper or better. We all are very different. A friend of mine just came back from Vietnam today and was robbed in a staged motorcycle accident. Every country has its problems but being aware of these things from reading forums and trying to glean a bit of useful information is what it is all about. My experience is different from everyone elses.
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8 minutes ago, Thaidream said:First came in 1971 and loved it and always planned to retire in Thailand. I still love the Thai people but there are now so many negatives involved in settling in Thailand-
It's not just the Immigration issues although they are a nuisance nor the possibility of medical insurance which is way overpriced for the coverage.
What bothers me the most are=
-The costs of any product imported are rising constantly. Imported medicines; foods; wines; health products cost 3-5 times what they do in America/
-Pollution- bad and getting worse year by year without any type of controls. The beaches are dirty; the water is filthy and no controls are enforced.
-Lack of Justice- the police do not do their jobs ; the judicial system is limited; and money controls the whole system.
-Income Inequality- There is a rising undercurrent in the population based upon a lack of income; education and opportunity fueled by alcohol and drugs. When there is no hope- youth acts out in ways that destroy civil society
-Lack of Any Moral Compass- Double Pricing; Scams; Massive Corruption; Decaying religion
-Driving- completely out of control- chaotic and will take generations to cure but there is no start to a program
-Education- my Thai Step Daughter is in a first rate Thai university but her future is limited- due to a real lack of opportunity and upward mobility except for the connected.
It's not one thing that is a deal breaker. It is the combination of things that make Thailand a society that is going backward while other countries are moving forward.
Like the OP- I worked mostly outside Thailand- in Asia- and visited my Thai wife and family regularly and while I speak passable Thai- I never really focused on the negatives. However, since full retirement in Thailand and having alot of time on my hands I have become fully aware of the negatives and any lack of commitment from the Government to do anything to really help the country.
When you add in the Immigration changes; possible Insurance requirement and the decline of Western currencies, Thailand doesn't look as good as it once did.
If I was single I would not stay in Thailand full time- I would go to the Philippines and Japan.
However, people like myself have many assets in Thailand- House and Condo; cars; children in school and an extended Thai family so making a move is not feasible.
At this juncture- if one is not fully invested in Thailand with assets etc and you s still have a choice- I would think long and hard whether what you want in life is available in Thailand long term.
Think about what Thailand will be 5. 10, 15, 20 years from now and what you want in life.
I will second everything said above. I have found the little things building up over the years and extra time on my hands to see the real village Thailand slightly concerning. The pollution now in Chiangmai is becoming much, much longer each year and a declining dollar has eroded the value to almost near absolute zero for farang basic staples. 70% of my friends here are only for the cheap women available but they can be found in neighboring countries. In reality, staying in Thailand just for a woman now is madness but most my friends have painted themselves into a corner and have no recourse or avenue to go home and are trapped here.
Thailand now needs second thoughts for any one retiring here thinking unless they are well funded, that it is cheap.
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13 hours ago, Pravda said:
I am now thinking wife doesn't see me as a reliable provider and is reluctant to have children.
Why would you bring children into this world then? It certainly is not going to make anything easier just because your MIL wants grandchildren and a wife acting the way she is. Got to be a different side to this story.
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1 minute ago, 473geo said:
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Why lie?? I'm happy to get a good nights sleep and wake up to breakfast ready cooked, all the other good things in my relationship are an added bonus, and there are surely a lot......
Hence I am happy
The wife and I are getting dressed to go Rock an Roll dancing with my parents tonight. I am well enough to go out for once, so much like you, I am going to enjoy.
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1 minute ago, AlexRich said:
Many TV patrons with good relationships are heavily critical of the more cynical posters,
I am not overtly cynical of other posters as everyone has a story to tell and maybe something I can learn. You can always learn.
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27 minutes ago, AlexRich said:
I’m all for protecting my wealth from an unscrupulous partner, so avoid marriage and keep assets overseas. But if you are constantly threatening your partner with her “easily replaceability” it doesn’t make for a great relationship? If I felt that I had to use that weapon I’d question whether I was in the right relationship.
In my wife’s circle of friends married to a farang, 70% are there only for the security. Security comes before anything else. I have heard the women state this. The other 10% know there partners have not got long on this mortal coil and really are in it for themselves and are doing the long con, gaining what they can for tomorrow. My only advantage is I am still young and really, that is the only thing I got going for me.
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7 minutes ago, Pravda said:
Well, yes.... yes she is. Hence the thread.
I am not getting any financial benefit long term by staying with her. Like other weak and needy men I get attached. Like your wife she was always fair with money, but I think maybe she sees no benefit being with me and wants to live alone.
I have no kids, no brothers and sisters and no family that will outlive me. I have a condo in one of the most desirable cities worth about half a million dollars, but now I have to make sure she never gets that. Some of my distant family will get lucky it seems.....
Okay, I understand. I have met independent Thai women that in fact don't want help, really do not care about men and live a seemingly happy life by themselves. One of my friends lives in such a relationship that is totally sexless but he has invested too much time into it to cut himself free. He goes to Pattaya every six months and his wife turns a blind eye to It all.
I come from a wealthy family. My wife never understood this as I am poor. My later years in life (if I outlive my parents) will be very good. If my wife was not happy with me and indeed did not live with me during the start of our hard times, I would leave. I have honestly found that being single is much easier than being married but I have become attached to my wife. Life certainly is not easier but it is great to have someone on your side when you go through bad times.
I would ask myself does she make you a better person. I think this is most likely my biggest question to myself. My wife makes me a better person and maybe you need to ask yourself this question. If it is nothing but silence and inner feelings of conflict and the fact you are independently wealthy, you need to ask yourself what you are doing. Independent women can be hard to live with.
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11 minutes ago, Benroon said:
Interesting story but you left what seemed like a good relationship because your wife wanted to go out once a week with her mates for a laugh ?
Controlling much ?
My girlfriend would get blind drunk. I mean blind baby blind and get abusive. I did not care her being out with her friends but the level of blindness was just too much and it started creeping into Wednesday nights as well. I asked her to ease off but it just got more extreme. The relationship I am in now revolves around no bars, no drugs or drinking. Much, much better. My ex-girlfriend was not willing to just slow down and lost me because of that. I took into fact she was a bar girl and gave her lots of leeway and would have warned her 200 times to slow down but would not listen.
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Do you believe in God and why
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Nearly all my family apart from my Mum, Dad and myself are missionaries. They have been preaching the word for forty years and I must admit after seeing their work, they have done more good than bad. I cannot really say anything bad against them as they are selfless in the fact they give so much.
As I like to think, each to their own device. Over this time, I have seen a few things to question everything. I have seen my fair share of death in this life. Dying is not a easy process if it is slow. A friend of mine died very slowly. It was only his faith that made it easier. His wifes faith made the passing much easier. I have very little faith but after watching such people die, in such pain, yet watching them seem be at peace with themselves makes me think, having such faith may be a good thing. I could not in anyway deal with what happened and one thing I have seen with all my relatives, is the fact they are all at peace with themselves. I have lacked such peace all my life and at time wonder am I wrong.