SenorJorge

Just stay out of thailand.

Its the worst <deleted> country in the world.

Scam country run by criminal gangs

Whatever you do ignore the medical advice from punters here and follow the advice of your doctors.  Syphilis is relatively easy to treat caught early.  Thailand is getting incredibly dangerous with std.

Where are you going to in five years?

I started stapling these to my passport pages.

Only in Thailand would they give you a 2"x2" document and tell you to hang onto it until you leave the country.

Make sure he's up to date on his TM30s when he leaves Thailand.  That will give them one less reason to complain

Try the Crab Rangoon.

I dont know if this has been mentioned yet or not.

But she cheated on him. 

What is going to stop her from cheating on you?  Can you really expect fidelity in this relationship?  Will you be just another step up the proverbial socioeconomic ladder for her?  Food for thought

All but a very privileged few can really afford to stay in Thailand.  Many are going to be leaving.  400 and 800k in a Thai bank is not something the average us pensioner anyway can afford.  If you have a real RETIREMENT FUND and not a pension sure it's easy.  Your average retiree (or even foreign spouse) in se Asia has no such luxury.  It's cheaper and easier just to live on tourist visas in your suitcase.  

Thats why I am thinking that Jaisalmer and Kasol are good places to reset our relationship.  They're isolated and outside of the necessities of life don't have a whole lot.  We both need a cold reset.  The fact that I've got her to agree to meet me in a neutral third country is pretty good on its own.  Especially a place like India.  Its not exactly Dubai,

52 minutes ago, Mahseer said:

A short story.....Back in 83 I lived in Bangkok and my relationship was in severe trouble due to my drinking. Wife gives me an ultimatum which led to us walking into a travel agents and I simply told the bloke that we needed to get away to somewhere special where I could get off the sauce. Kashmir says he (he was Indian heritage) and he booked us up for 3 weeks without us asking a single question and we had a great time staying on a houseboat on Nagin lake smoking and trout fishing.

 

So India can be the place but you have to be selective. If your missus is strong on the Buddhist front then research Leh, Ladakh.

 

Best of luck

We actually already talked about going on some Buddhist pilgrimages.

We plan on staying out of the thick of it as much as possible and taking life slowly and less seriously.  Its time to put the past in the past and create new memories somewhere else.

I actually do love the desert and the scenery.  I do some volunteer work on the computer and a lot of reading. I've never required my surroundings to be "bustling" at all - I think Jaisalmer would work for me just fine.   I am just not so sure about her.  We can try it out for a week and see what she thinks.

I've heard that with really all of us, it's up to the discretion of the guy stamping the passports at the airport how many days to stamp your passport with.  I think with a lot UK and us travelers they just give us the 180 days.  With other nationalities they're probably a bit more careful.  Our relationship has been very rocky.  Maybe we can talk things over in "neutral territory" for a few months and go back to Hua hin.  I have no idea how my life is going to go.  Things gone so out of hand with my health and relationship that I had to leave thailand.  We shall see.

Some people just have weak stomachs.  There are antibiotics for travelers diahrea if t doesn't resolve on its own

My basic understanding is that Thais can apply for the 180 tourist visa on paper, in person, at the embassy but not using the e-visa option.

Just now, taxout said:

For evisas now, Americans, Britons, Japanese and Canadians get one-year multiple-entry evisas permittiing a stay of up to 180 days per entry. For others, the evisa is now 90 days per entry. (I stress now because there's been a recent change.)

Oh okay.  You are talking about the e-visa.  She is Thai. We decided to meet and talk things over in India.  Can she apply for a 180 day visa in person at the embassy in Bangkok or Laos?

23 minutes ago, taxout said:

No guaranty and the situation could change in any event, but my impression is that if you're one of the lucky nationalities that qualifies for a 180-day stay per entry on your visa, Immigration does not raise a fuss if you stay the full 180 days. Unless of course you were working. Or unless your landlord didn't file Form C with the police registering your address (they now see your Form C filings when you exit India). Whatever, never ever overstay in India, even by one hour. You won't go to jail, but the bureaucracy to untangle the mess could take weeks.

 

As I mentioned in another thread here, I think Kerala makes a good base. Calcutta is fascinating to visit, maybe spend a month soaking up the atmosphere. But settling down there long term might be a difficult adjustment.

 

If health care is important, Calcutta and Delhi do have lots of first-class medical options, but Cochin and Trivandrum also have some very good international hospitals. Still, if you haven't spent time in India before, then Indian hospitals, even the most highly-rated, will require an open attitude.

Which nationalities qualify for the 180 day stamp?  I am trying to find a comprehensive list.  I want to know if someone else is also eligible.

I've decided that Thailand is not for me.  I am moving to India next year. 

Places I will visit when looking for a more permanent place to reside:

Noida

Jaisalmer

Goa

Kerala

Kasol/Melana/Tosh

Kolkata

I'll report back here what I think.  If India won't allow us to stay pay 6 months then we will hit up other SE Asian countries to reset the clock and head back.  From what I have heard, though, immigration police will help you stay, if you ask.  Especially if you do not work.  How true is this, really? 

Positive vibes

28 minutes ago, Destiny1990 said:

Try Cebu or Bohol.

For me Subic is a dead boring place.

What did you hate about Vietnam? 

I will just say this about VN.

My first spouse comes from a well connected Chinese-Vietnamese family in SG/HCMC.  Well connected to the government etc.  I think I should avoid it.

On 4/4/2019 at 2:36 AM, Thaiwrath said:

 

I would suggest that the 'many' are correct.

Your target audience will be the ones who cannot prove the necessary income here, and those who don't trust Thai banks (????) with 400/800,000 baht. Most others seem happy, and settled here.  

 

For many reasons I won't get into I can never go back to Thailand.  I simply cannot set foot in the country ever again.

My pension is right around 2000 US per month.  In terms of affordable places to stay in SE asia with reasonable English ability, it would seem that the Philippines is my next best option.  I have no zero interest in Cambodia, Burma, Laos, China, Vietnam, Malaysia or Indonesia.  Just absolutely zero.  I hate those countries.

In terms of visas, in the Phils now you can get a tourist visa, get the long term extension, leave before that expires, an repeat the process.  I think the longest you can stay total is 16 months but I doubt I'd stay in the Phils for longer than 6 months at a time anyway.  I have no desire to ever marry.  I refuse to.

If anyone has any ideas outside of the Phils, please let me know.

For the Phils experts, where should I go?  I like girls and the beach.  Should I just head to subic and take day trips to nicer beach areas?  Whats the best advice?  Much appreciated.  I won't be going anywhere for about a year or so.

22 minutes ago, from the home of CC said:

no the westerners wait till you're fully invested and then take half backed up by law..

Thai scamsters hide behind cultural differences and feign love (and distress) very very well.  They're the best actresses.

In my experiences western women won't even date me.  No money, no honey right at the door.  Slammed shut, go away.

Thais seem to just take whatever they can get.  They know we always have "hidden money" or worse comes to worse we can hit up our parents brothers etc for dough they can extort.

Anyway I'll never go back to thailand or get married again.  Sick of the bs.  Too old and sick to deal with it anymore.

2 hours ago, Thongkorn said:

Its called business,

I knew of one Bar girl a friend, who had a  House, Car, Bar,  She had a computer and on it was all the conversations she had with her Sponsors.  she could pick up on the conversations she had with them. 12 in total, all sponsoring her every Month. good luck to her she was good at her Job.

That's not a business it's a romance scam.

Another reason I don't trust a single woman from se Asia.  I have never heard of any western European or American girls doing anything this elaborate.  She should be convicted.

7 minutes ago, Somtamnication said:

They were colonized well over 100 years ago when the Chinese were invited and free land to mine and farm.

 

Now, the Thai Chinese are the wealthy ones and control things that cannot be mentioned.

 

Yes, Thailand was colonized, albeit, not the way we understand colonization to be.

Is your name David?

9 minutes ago, DaRoadrunner said:

We are in Thailand.... what are the odds of it being anything else? I even encountered one guy who paid a PI to follow a bar girl to see if she was being faithful to him...

This is the most frequent scenario that they encounter at the PI firms in Pattaya and Phuket.  I know many a farang who are waiting for their bargirl spouses to get visas to go to Sweden, UK, etc.  Anyway, as I a say this, I mean at least 10.  Out of those 10, I only know ONE who even SEEMED remotely faithful to her overseas husband.  He paid for this girl to open her own nail salon out on an island while she waited for him.  No idea how much money this senseless fool was sending this girl.  Granted this girl was a complete stunner, but come on...

If you need to hire a PI its not worth it.  Your intuition is ten times better than any private eye.  If you think she's cheating, the chances are pretty good that she is.  Especially if she's Thai.  Get rid of her.  I've seen this happen hundreds of times, to myself included.  If you spend money on a PI you're just going to find out what your gut knew already.  OR she's just going to outsmart him because she's probably already onto the fact that you suspect her.  If she has any suspicion already that you know she is cheating, trust me, she is going through all the stops to cover her tracks.  Not worth your time or emotions.  Get a new one.

I think most of the docs get trained in India and then come over.  They may do a fellowship or whatever it's called in america but most of their schooling is in India. 

The more I read the more I think if they just get medical Mary Jane id be set to relocate like now.