SenorJorge

You absolutely don't want to have a kid with a wife you aren't with anymore.  Screws that kids head permanently. No way to sugar coat this.  He'll most likely never be able to form a normal relationship.  Haunted by parents past, just how it is.  Secondly you're constantly sending money to a woman and a kid who will never fully respect you as a parent no matter how much you do.  Its always going to be YOUR fault you ended up in this situation.  If you're a single guy who just can't hit it off with women you're much better off to just adopt.  I know it's difficult in many counties but still possible even in the usa.  Find a good godmother or something to fill that role and just move on.  I don't know one single person whose parents split early on without some sort of major issues today, whether they admit them or not.

13 minutes ago, Destiny1990 said:

I lost all interest after i read that going to India is automatically means signing up for lengthy diarrhea’s.

What ever marvelous Visa offer they might have i will only see that Country from whatever the television is showing.  

I had the same problem with thailand initially.  Your body will adjust it just takes time.  Loperamide works wonders.  The only time you need to get real concerned is when you get Ameobas and parasites etc.

21 hours ago, BMJ said:

That is the dumbest thing I have ever read with the thought of having a family. So your going to leave Souvenirs with all the women you meet Great just what the world needs. I sure hope your kidding.

Lots of jokers think like him over here I'm afraid.  Seen lots of biracial kids with single moms all over SE Asia.  Sad.

I thought this was just a joke among farang.  They say that when a thai girl marries a farang it's like winning the lottery.  I thought this was the case until I saw that my Thai wife's friends were commending her for winning the lottery.  So it's not just us?  We must have got it from them.  Disturbing.

3 hours ago, scorecard said:

 

On every visit I met / had to try to work with so many very very tricky, dishonest and arrogant people, 

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3 hours ago, scorecard said:

 

Seems to me anybody considering India, should visit long-term a couple of times, before making any decisions. 

I'm going to be straight forward and say that not a year has passed for me in Thailand where I wasn't dirty dealed by hotels, businesses, taxis, you name it, it's happened.  I booked a hotel once in bangkok that had good reviews on it.  I won't mention the name here because it's a waste of breath anyway.  I'd stayed there before (decades ago, granted).  When I arrived, I paid cash for the room, and the hotel was 75 percent torn down, dust everywhere.  Literally, entire portions of the hotel was torn down.  Jackhammers and everything going off.  The room was a dilapidated mess.  1200 baht per night.  I went to the counter and said I'd like my money back, this place isnt being renovated, it's being demolished.  She took 600 baht and told me that there was a cancelation fee and if I didn't leave she was going to call the police!  Unreal..  Still not as bad as when I was drunk in a bar in Phnom Pehn and two "taxi drivers" tried to outmuscle me into their car to "take me to my hotel" (atm cruise probably) because "the bar close now".  However I can't think of a single trip or year in thailand when I haven't had issues.  Things are better now that I'm married.  A lot less issues.  The bad news is I won't have a spouse who understands the culture in India the way I do here.  I think if you're a farang and you make SE Asia your home there's just inherent risks and if you're not willing to take them on this just isn't the place for you.  Never had any issues across all of Europe except for exhoribitant prices.

6 hours ago, Naam said:

void story. any citizen with Indian roots can apply for an OCI card (which looks like a passport) and is valid for life.

 

 

Why on earth did they pass the other mundane law then?  The fortuitness of government never ceases to amaze me.

I've never been to Goa.  Now I want to go.  Is there anywhere for my wife to buy what she needs to cook esan food?  Obviously young papaya would be easy to come by.  What about the rest?

6 minutes ago, JimmyTheMook said:

 

Maybe you can pitch a good turd?

 

 

 

 

7 minutes ago, JimmyTheMook said:

 

Maybe you can pitch a good turd?

 

 

 

 

Hey its SE Asia man and nothing surprises me.

https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/world-news/780582/monkey-killer-rampage-deaths-india

58 minutes ago, CanadaSam said:

Jorge, if you do not like the bars and girls in Thailand, there are SOOOO many places in the world that would suit you far, far better, including India (but I would suggest a hill station where it's cool) or even small islands like Sri Lanka which is like an advanced India, by the way, all of these places are cheaper than Thailand for things like accomodation etc.

I live in udon where its mostly grey haired dudes who can barely walk around like me. Not much bar hopping. I'm just looking for a plan b for me and the thai wife for when things get overwhelming in terms of living expenses and immigration.  SL looks cool, I'll look into that.

40 minutes ago, sandrabbit said:

sorry having lived in india for 3 years in different areas for work they make Thai red tape look easy.

Im more talking along the lines of not actually working like ever.  I haven't worked in years and not going to start.  Just a tourist visa and living in hotels.  Surely shouldn't be any problems with that as long as I don't work or overstay? 

2 hours ago, Traubert said:

Understatement of the millennium.

 

80% of people do not have access to clean water or a flushing toilet.

I'll give you that but those stats can be a bit misleading. Indians are very resourceful people.  Kind of like, uh, Thais?

I'm back in the house.  No more melodramtics for the evening.  Everyone's at fault.  It's a new day

Just now, Jingthing said:

I still don't understand. Two months away every year or two months away after each 6 months. Big difference.

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  I'm confused and it's hot and I just got thrown out of my house lol.  Typical thailand story.  Every 180 days you need to get someplace else.  During every year you must have a 60 day absence.  That's my understanding of Indian law, maybe someone else can clarify better.  Someone who isn't having an emotional disaster

1 minute ago, Jingthing said:

Is that two months total all year or do you have to stay away 2 months every 6 months? Either way needing to leave every 6 months not so great.

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Yeah every six months you need to make your home somewhere else.  Easy for us yanks, thanksgiving and christmas!

1 minute ago, Jingthing said:

Aha. So you have to leave every 6 months. That's what I remember from before. But can't you just come back in a few days?

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No they've got a rule that says you have to be gone for at least two months but I think there's waivers for that.

https://www.in.ckgs.us/visa/tourist-visa

Apparently Americans who aren't of Indian origin may apply for the ten year visa but if you are of Indian descent you must apply for the ten year.  Confusing.

Everything else is shockingly lenient.  From what I've heard you will have to go through a more thorough biometrics system on the ten year than what you are used to with thailand.  

7 minutes ago, Jingthing said:

When you say you need to go home, that could mean anyplace outside India, right?

I looked into it years ago but I think the visa possibilities changed since then. 

10 months a year isn't so bad. 

 

Exactly.  If your craving for thailand strikes you could easily buy a cheap tourism visa here.

40 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

I'm asking people how much are they paying and nobody's answering.

 

Will you?

She just has access to my whole payday which I won't divulge for many reasons.  She knows payday comes on the first and if she takes too much nothing will be there on the 30th.  She also knows I'll be angry if I can't afford my ice cream and doctors visits. I don't spend much outside of meds and docs. She mostly spends money on beauty products.  So far, there hasn't been any hiccups.

A little background.. I had a girl from wanchai.  Red flags out the wazoo.  Bad past.  Sweet as a button at first, but the reception from the family was chilly as you could ever possibly imagine.  I spent a week there, spent probably 2000 us on wining and dining everyone.  Easy to do in Hong Kong.  Big family.

Anyway, as soon as I got her into the US, she immediately stopped all of her personal hygiene (gross), cluttered and trashed our condo, became a hoarder, packrat, moody, crazy, out of control.  She did this for YEARS, I actually put up with this for YEARS.

She spent all my money and I became her personal chauffeur to boot.  My relationship was so one way in her direction it was unreal.  I took her on lavish holidays, always bought her everything she wanted, and she treated me worse than a dog.  I had to have hip replacements and she refused to stay in the hospital with me!  She said I want to go home, goodnight!

So I have some background with this kind of thing.  Maybe you can turn things around.  I tried to for almost a decade.  I always recommend that.  I don't believe in throwing in the towel.  But good luck.  I'm sorry this happened to you.

7 minutes ago, Pravda said:

 

How much is her allowance Senor?

We don't do that.  She takes what she needs and knows her boundaries.  Allowances are basically the same as a bar girl.  I'm with you there.  I know you're hurting right now.  Trust me, I've been there.  I don't mean to sound cold or unsympathetic.