Personally I don't give the wife a salery.
I look after day to day expenses, she looks after the farm and makes her pocket money.
Two Young kids. Nine and 18 months.
So far (12 year) not so bad.
I ain't got a lot of money and wife still stands by me.
I'm 65 this year, lovey will be 32 next week. You just have to be lucky sometimes.
I first met wife when she was a dancer at 19. Never really paid a salery in all these years.
I was ready to commit, makes a hell of a difference IMHO.