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I think I explained why God allows things to happen, but you might have missed that in lieu of just not reading what I posted and formulating your own opinion. WE have free will, not God. He allows us to do whatever we want, hopefully abiding by his laws, and gives us the chance to choose his ways our own own selfish ways. Eccentricity allows the earth to fluctuate in distance from the sun by 1.7%, something we learned many years ago. The earth's movement is called an ellipse, another thing we knew in grade school. But it still remains a perfect distance away to allow life to flourish, unlike other planets in our solar system. If the earth adapted to this, how did that come to be? Oh I forgot, the explosion. Again, you assume you know what I can or cannot understand. Kinda arrogant, and maybe a little narcissistic. You have no idea how much I know about anything, and if you did, you would vanish from this forum very embarrassed. You say there are 5000 other gods, with vastly different ideas on how this universe was created, and I say there's only one. How do you know how many gods there are if they don't exist? You are still, again, believing other people and their theories, none of which has been proven either, on how things came to be. How is that different than my thinking, which makes more sense, than theirs? Gacy and Bundy did have their reasons, It's called insanity, and coming from a background of abuse and hatred towards women, or mental illnesses that may have been inherited, like schizophrenia. I know what the Big Bang is about, but what made it happen? Did it just happen, or was it God's doing? I'm guessing you can't answer that without googling another scientists viewpoint. The human body is far from perfect. It isn't supposed to last forever, and that's exactly why we believe in God. We know we're all going to die, and it usually is from the body, which no one calls perfect, wearing out. It's an amazing thing, but still has flaws, which God put there so we would have faith in believing in the afterlife, knowing full well these bodies will fail us all. Pretty simple actually, if you spend a moment and think about it. Spend more time thinking about what to do in your life instead of trying to put down someone that is far more knowledgeable than you could imagine. It isn't working and only makes you look like someone who doesn't try and help others.

That's why opinions carry no weight. Even God himself allows divorce, for some things. And it is hard to stay in marriages where you are taken advantage of, where your wife kidnaps your child because she's a covert narcissist, cheating, physical or mental abuse, drug addiction or alcoholism. I claimed initiation because I did initiate. And that has absolutely no indication of how I treat women. A man doesn't read 65 books and thousands of articles on relationships, depression, parenting and family matters if he wants to hurt others. Quite the contrary, it's usually the women who read the books to try and help their marriages and relationships with their men. If that doesn't give you a clue, then you'll never understand the psychological aspect of getting to know a woman as more than a transaction. I treat women as well or better than any man alive, and I know this because the books I've read are from psychologists and counselors who have interviewed hundreds of thousands of couples who had relationship problems and then tried to help them. And I know what women have said that irks them about a man, and what they wanted and needed from them. And I thought you didn't believe in God, so why are you quoting what can't be done? I did say I'm not a Catholic anymore, and I can still attend any of their services if I wanted to. As far as ascending into heaven, that's between me and the God I believe in. He knows my heart, no matter what I've done.

Assuming things you know nothing about again. It would be best if you stopped replying because it just shows hate and ignorance. I am neither brainwashed or need any sympathy from you. Actually, I feel sorry that your mind is closed to God, because he is the only chance you have to have anything after this life. I've mentioned that I'm not into any particular religion, being a Christian, looking at Jesus as God's son and our best chance at entering Heaven. I am a good, decent person, for the way I treat my significant other, my children and other people, and that won't get me into Heaven like knowing God will. You're saying God is evil and he created people in the first place, you being one of them. People can be evil, as many world leaders have shown us. Answer me one question. Just how do you think this world came to be? Because anyone that believes that the universe just happened by chance isn't too bright, as there has never been any proof otherwise. A creator now, that makes sense, especially as I've mentioned, the earth is the only planet we know that has life, and it just happened to occur just the exact distance from our sun to enable life to occur, and has everything life needs to sustain itself. A stroke of luck perhaps? And how did this life happen? All from one explosion many years ago, and out of this explosion came not just all the planets and stars in the universe, but all the species on earth, and the intricacies of the human brain and it's wonders of creation itself? Everything every species, including us, needs to survive is here. Another wall of text, with no substance? You haven't said one word to support another possibility. If you don't believe there's a God, why do you call him a murderer, petty, evil, nasty or enslavement endorsing, when it's people who have done this since the beginning? He has reasons why he doesn't yet intervene, or maybe he sometimes has, and we haven't seen it. People, including children, have come back from being clinically dead, and have mentioned seeing something, and children of telling things they couldn't possibly have known. A Myanmar monk was dead for three days, and about to be burned at the temple, when he came back, and mentioned he saw Buddha in hell. Hard to explain. Things happen all the time with no explanation, miracles have happened, or are they just coincidences?

The earth was made with species, including us and our needs, in mind. We all require food, water and air. I agree with some that some species should not be here, as in they don't help the rest of them, but that still remains to be seen.

I enjoy hunting, and being out in nature. I don't go there just to kill something, and most of the times, I just let the deer pass by and enjoy watching them. I only shoot mature animals that have passed on their genes and are up in years (for a deer). If you understood what hunters do, it's protecting their habitat with monies spent from licensing. Anti hunters rarely put any money towards habitat restoration and only complain about something they know little about. Hunting for most species is necessary to keep the animals within the carrying capacity of the land they inhabit. This is especially more so with all the destruction of habitat that happens when some people like to live out in the country and the developers cut down millions of trees to make yet another subdivision. If deer especially are allowed to over populate, which they do many times around cities, the deer-car accidents rise, people are killed, billions of dollars of damage happens to vehicles, the deer spread disease among them, and the habitat for them and other animals suffers from over browsing. I like to eat what I shoot also, and share a lot of it with family and friends.

Because something someone writes is confusing to you doesn't mean that is has no substance. Because I can't prove God exists doesn't mean he doesn't. Because a few scientists have made a few guesses that the universe might have come about by an explosion of sorts, also doesn't mean it happened. It's faith, something you have in people (some) and not in a God, for reasons only you know. You've said you have never had faith. Why is that? Were your parents atheists also? That would explain some of it, but as you went into the world, you've heard people say there is a God, and looking around, you must have wondered how all of life came to be. That is, unless you're a teenager and only heard what scientists have come up with in the last 20 years or so. I went to a Catholic school for 8 years, and religion was taught daily, and I went to church every Sunday. I'm just a Christian now and I don't think any religion is necessary and some are downright blatant about greed. Some teach that we have different lives, with also no proof. Many teach to praise a man, or a statue, which is wrong if there is but one God. If there were more than one God, we would surely see them fighting for control, and proving themselves who is the better choice. Our one God doesn't need to do anything besides watch us believe or fall. That's what faith is. He may have put diseases here, and let children die of cancer, and of course I think that suffering is wrong, but if you take into consideration we rarely live past age 90, and compare that to forever, there's none. This to me is a test of sorts. If he indeed made everything, he has the right to make his own laws, and if you look at what his laws are, they aren't just made to honor him, but to protect us from ourselves and others. Of course I believe we should live longer lives, and be disease free, and he should show himself and only a fool wouldn't follow him and be good, at least most of the time, but that's again where faith and free will come in. He gives us the chance to choose. You have made yours, and you will see when you die, if there is just blackness, or is there a coming in front of him, and explaining yourself why you chose to turn your back on him. Then he will decide where you end up. I'm not taking that chance.

I assume you think I am socially challenged because this post you're commenting on is related to me? You might want to change your thinking because I have hundreds of friends that I grew up with and still talk and do things with. In the course of a lifetime, most people can only count the number of real friends they can really count on on one hand. That is also true with me, but the others are still friends I can visit in a moments notice and have good talks and times with. That is the opposite of socially challenger as far as I know. God isn't imaginary to believers. He's imaginary to those that have been hurt in their lives and refuse to believe a God would allow this, not taking into consideration that we all have free will, and much of the time we are hurt it is brought on by ourselves or bad choices. People are evil because they have been raised in an evil environment or have nothing positive to turn to, so take their anger out on others to feel something. No, I nor anyone else can prove God exists, so we go on faith. Religion isn't my thing and it was made by people. being a believer doesn't mean you have to have a religion to go on. You just believe in God. Believing in science is believing in other people, who make mistakes. Granted, a lot of what scientists have discovered is true, but much is based on hypotheses. No one has ever proven how the universe came about. They have made a lot of discoveries about the universe they didn't know before telescopes and computers came into play, but still are making a lot of guesses about it's origin. We have been taught over the ages about God, and if you look around, like another has mentioned, you can see the miracles of life, all of which didn't just happen by chance and come from nothing. Everyone has a right to believe in anything they want, and it's no one's place to force them into thinking their way is right. We all will talk to God when we die, and for some of us, that will be too late. It doesn't matter what you believe, you can think the way you want. Think back on when you started to be a non believer. What happened earlier to make you change your mind about God? Some ignorant people have even gone as far as assuming that some here don't have the mental capacity to understand science, and so go with what they've been "brainwashed" for years. Not realizing that the person they could be commenting on could have an IQ over 150 and be a reader since childhood, on subjects that would confuse or amaze them. There are multitudes of other subjects besides astronomy that require intense thinking. My own dad had a genius level IQ and was the smartest man I've still ever known. Electronics, (built his own Ham radio) photography, (own darkroom before digital came into practice) magic, (tricks that would amaze Kreskin,close pov magic) and worked as a supervisor for a government related company in New Jersey over 30 years. Taught me to be a reader. My interests are music, health sciences, psychology, hunting, fishing, and I am also interested in astronomy, although as an observer of other's discoveries. I don't claim to know a lot about the universe besides what I've heard or read growing up, but my stance will never change. You have to have proof before something is taken as a fact. Otherwise it's faith, believing what other's have said and what you feel in your heart and mind. Throughout time, some teachers have been wrong, and many believe in them. and others are extremely knowledgeable and others think they are quacks.

My dad was the main provider, wanted to teach me hunting, photography, ham radio, and magic, and I watched him cook all the time, but I wasn't interested until I left the house, then began Hunting, photography and cooking most of the meals when I was married in the states. He wasn't too affectionate but a good provider. My mom was very affectionate, both with me and my children, so I have that from her, and providing for my kids. You become your parents and act like them unless you change your thinking, and if they did things wrong or weren't there for you, you try your best to do things differently. My kids would complain when I asked them to do things, and had to repeat myself a lot. I didn't hit my kids, and they knew it, so sometimes it wasn't easy to enforce the rules. Now I hear my 37 year old daughter on the phone saying the same things to her two that I did to my kids when they were young. makes me laugh

You don't understand that you are burying yourself deeper with every assumption. If you think I didn't know that a gaseous atmosphere is unlivable, you're a dolt. That the earth is exactly the right distance from the sun wasn't good luck, it was planned, sorry you can't understand such a simple concept. How do you know if I follow the Bible? I myself disagree with some of what's in it, because it was written by man, who can be mistaken in what they heard or seen. Prophecies are coming true, if you haven't noticed, and like I said, time will tell. Your statement beginning with "Don't forget cancer........I know and have known for 66 years what goes on here and everywhere on earth, and yes, I question why God doesn't intervene against evil. he gave us free will, and I'm guessing you know what that means? He gave us his laws, which all make sense, to protect us and others from harm. We choose to disobey because of that free will, and <deleted> happens. Children dying of cancer at two years old pisses me off of course, but those children will be in heaven when they die, especially before the age of reason. People who have been taught the difference between good and bad have a chance to choose what they do, and suffer the consequences eventually. God's thinking is so far above ours that we can only have faith, that an entity that can make such a beautiful place as earth and the universe, and all the good things it offers before some of man has destroyed it, can also ensure us a peaceful place after we die, because we stuck by him while our world fell down. That's called faith, something you lost along the way. Like I said, what made you stop believing yourself? Was it taught by a parent that hated God for his own reasons, did you lose a friend or family member you loved and questioned why they died young or from some <deleted> disease, or some other reason? God has his reasons and I can't fully understand why things happen as they do. I just go by faith that no matter how bad anyone has it, if they believe, the pain will end in time. People can be evil, as most of the worlds leaders have proven, and the rich raping the worlds resources for profit isn't God's way. Don't assume when you don't know for certain. I don't have to google things I already know about, and I do when I want to learn more. I've been reading daily since high school, and never against learning new things, as I have an open mind. Fairytales to me is thinking all of this happened by chance. That's not possible. And I haven't been brainwashed. I'm a free thinker, and only believe what I choose to believe because it makes sense to me. Read clivesheps post. He understands.

They don't actually bite, but pinch, and my friend and school owner found that out recently when one pinched his hand. It blew up twice the size, when he was on the road, and had to stop in a hospital and stay overnight for a course of antibiotics. Took three days to get the swelling down. When I lived at my ex's mom's house, before our house was built, one over 10 inches long walked over my arm while we were in bed. My ex woke to my yelling, and we both pinned it down. I give her credit, she took it out fast. I fed it to the chickens in the morning. Earlier , I was stung by my first scorpion, a huge one a half a foot long. It made my lips numb, and I was at first worried, until I remembered this was a symptom and it's almost like a wasp sting, as long as you aren't allergic. Pain went away 30 minutes after I applied Afterbite. One reason I hate living here is the bugs, which make Texas' look harmless.

Actually, a zealot is the opposite of what I am. I'm neither uncompromising or fanatical. I believe in the truth, not opinions. I'm not trying to make anyone do anything. I could care less what they think, especially if they're wrong. It's my duty as a Christian to spread the word. People have their opinions, and they've shown them here. Some have been right in what they've said, and he was wrong, simple as that. Him assuming he knows anything about me or how much I know is ignorance. I haven't been making opinions but statements which make sense to others who believe in God. Choosing not to will get you into a place you won't like. Back to why. I stated that it doesn't make sense, not just to me but to all other believers, that the universe just happened by itself. That it had to have a creator, which makes sense. If I'm wrong, I'd like to see proof otherwise. If they're right, I'd like to see proof also. In this case, no one can prove the other wrong, so it'll just take time to see the outcome.

As Britman mentioned, you both have custody and can leave anytime you want with your son, as long as you don't leave Thailand. My ex did it 4 times, and I had to file for a divorce to get my child back here. It's wrong, and is basically parental kidnapping, and if it was done in the US, you would go to jail and lose custody. Here they don't have the same justice system, and its prejudiced more towards women. In America, I fought for custody and won.

Best thing you could do is talk to her about letting you live elsewhere, not far away from her, with your son. Asking for the divorce and custody of your son and maybe offering her a counter offer if she's hesitant like a one time cash offer. She has to sign custody to you for that. Or just go to court and get a mutually agreed on divorce with joint custody is she doesn't want to sign over the child. You will have your own life, get to see your son, and keep documenting anything in case she still goes off. The police will not help you unless they are there and see something happening. Making a report that will be buried won't help until you go to court. If there isn't a fight for the divorce or custody you don't have a problem. The judge will decide everything if there is any fight. The woman will get main custody unless it is proven she is hurting the child or doing drugs with him there. Cheating is very hard to prove and to a judge it doesn't make her a bad mom. You will get visitation of every weekend at least or whatever you can negotiate if you want more. As a foreigner you will be asked for child support. Since you like it here, this isn't a major problem. I wanted custody of my daughter but my ex wasn't doing anything illegal as far as I knew so the judge gave her primary custody. I talked with 5 attorneys, including a farang, and they all said the same things. If you can settle this without an attorney, all the better. If you are not retired age, you will have to get a visa for a dependent, which you will because you have proof of being his parent. If you were retired, you could get a retirement visa to stay.

Still here, until I can resettle back home. No hunting, Bass or Pike fishing. Mostly pay and fish besides big reservoirs I haven't tried yet here, and not the species I'm into, although I did catch some huge carp and catfish here in Phuket. Isaan most boring place I've ever seen regarding what I like, so as soon as I can, going back.

Hunting, fishing, music, gym,movies.

Like I mentioned. Common sense

Sad but true

Men haven't become more alpha like. They, some, have always been like this. Narcissism has been there since time began, and all those in power are narcissistic. Some politicians start out with the idea to help people, but soon see the power they have and change for the worse. Being masculine isn't being an alpha. Being a man means you protect others weaker around you, your family and children. That is what some call beta males. Beta males encompass the higher percentage of males and they are the ones who take care of the families, while the alphas use women and power to their advantage. Coach Corey Wayne, a full blown narcissist himself, has a book out, 3% man. He often talks about how weak beta males are, and some women are stupid enough to believe in him, mainly because he wrote a book, and is rich, which of course sells to a lot of women. This man doesn't realize there are millions of men capable of beating him down that are betas, and emotionally strong means you can cry as a male also. He sees it as a weakness. It shows you have empathy, that you have a conscience and care. His book has a section stolen from other books, many I have read, that tell how to treat a woman after you've won her over. That was included because if it wasn't, the book would only show how to win a girl for sex. He's been married once, unsuccessfully, and hasn't had any other successful relationships that lasted. His feeling is conquer, then leave, as his actions show. Most of us fail at relationships, but some of us are trying to have one that lasts, even though we either make mistakes that hurt it, or we pick the wrong person for us.

That's why we as believers know there is something better after this life. If not, yes, it would be meaningless, besides the good times we have while alive. Some never have good times, and we believe that they will have peace and no pain when they enter heaven. We believe God knows all, that he listens to all prayers, and sometimes doesn't answer them right away, or not if he believes they will hurt us. Believe me, I get mad at God for many reasons. Things I think he should fix or change, but he knows the big picture. We don't see it as we only look out for what we can get while we're here. As far as a big bang, if it happened, my thinking is God made it happen. I do think there are other life forms in the universe. Why did we need Jesus and they not? Who knows. Are they way more advanced than we are, so aren't making the stupid mistakes we do? That means they aren't humans, because humans are given free will, and with that comes bad choices and destruction from greed, jealousy and racism.

We all have to live with ourselves and our decisions. When children are involved, it's our duty as parents to do what's best for them. We make mistakes based on what we saw and heard growing up, and should correct them when we see it isn't working. Some people don't care and only live for themselves and their pleasure. When you get old, that pleasure isn't as important and we look back and wonder if we did the right things as far as others are concerned. Some live and die with no conscience, and others worry all the time about how we affect others. Even if you don't believe in God and an afterlife, what makes you a man is how you treat others around you. It's not a game of points. Taking your child to school is a good thing. It shows you care for their safety. I do it daily here now that I'm taking care of my daughter while her mom works elsewhere. I never miss a visitation when she's with her mom more of the time, because my daughter needs to see her dad loves her. That's the most important lesson she can see, besides her seeing me treat other women well, including my girlfriend.

Well, at least you take care of them while they're there. They do need you after they've left sometimes. A father and son or daughter relationship should last forever. A lot of "men" don't do anything with the kids while they are living with them.

If she was married, she wasn't the right one. You saw something in them you liked, but they were off limits. And all women are the same, as far as basic traits, no matter where they were born. There are only a few different personality types, and that's worldwide.

With that thinking, it's better for the kids if you didn't have any, because children always need both sides. Why have kids if you really don't want them? There are many women out there that don't want nor have children. That would be a much better choice for you and them.

And arrogant, narcissistic alpha males are the reason our planet has been going south for generations. A woman can have a high IQ, be worldly intelligent, and still not understand men. They continue to pick these idiots, thinking that their genetics will make them superior children. I have seen too many times to count, may children born with disabilities coming from two "beautiful" people. I've read 65 books and countless articles, trying to understand the other side, children and how to raise them, mental illnesses and the damage they do to some, and still fall victim to attraction. This reading has made me understand more how a woman thinks, and what mental illnesses do to relationships, but when you're living it, your love and attraction to someone overcomes common sense, at least for awhile. Women sometimes want what they think is good, all the time knowing a "beta" male is a better pick for a partner and father for the children, yet after generations, they still fall into the same trap. Especially here, where men aren't held accountable for the children they make, you would think after being told by moms, dads and friends that bad men aren't a good choice, they would pick better partners. They don't. You see fatherless children by the thousands. Kids growing up without a dad's protection and guidance, and teaching them how to relate to men when they are older. The best example a child can see is how her dad treats her mom. This has been lost to many here and everywhere else.

There you go again, assuming you know what I know. It makes you look very arrogant, ignorant, and incapable of seeing the truth. You don't know what I know, nor what I research and spend my time on. My mind is always open to finding out the truth about things I am interested in, and until it's proven beyond a reasonable doubt, I'm skeptical. How do you know what I do or don't understand? Are you that ignorant to think you actually know anyone on this forum or what knowledge they have on a particular subject from just a few words, opinions or saying I was good at science in high school? Do you not realize I can google things like you have to learn more about present science? Do you actually think everything some scientists say is factual? Please explain what you are trying to prove. Was the universe not created and just happened, and what proof is there? Theories of expansion are theories. Who is capable of understanding the reality of existence? Where is their proof? What don't I accept that has been proven as fact? You believe what others have said, without any proof. That's being gullible. I believe when something has been proven as factual. Basically, what you are saying is that there is no creator, that the universe was made from an explosion , and that all matter what made out of nothing? Do you know that some scientists believe in God? That one poll of scientists said there was a 67% possibility God existed. Wouldn't that disprove a lot of their theories, at least to some? Most mathematicians believe there is a heaven. Where would this heaven come from if there wasn't a God. Lastly, why do YOU not believe in God. There are reasons like I explained earlier. You can follow others opinions like many do. I go by faith and common sense. You will see when you die who was right. God won't be happy with what you believe in, and he'll tell you so right then and there. Until that time comes, don't assume anymore. makes you look ignorant.