fredwiggy

Not a good thing. Sex isn't near the most important thing, but having it makes the bond better. People who want to go without have some issues, and depression is a huge reason. Anhedonia from depression makes people feel no desire for things they used to like. Sex, food, travel, socializing, hobbies, are all lost .

I've always liked having someone. Having the wrong someone doesn't help your life but hinder it. I'm a dreamer, and a romantic, and I dedicate music to my girlfriend now to tell her how I feel about her, but she is hurting because of this depression, and sometimes feels nothing. I've been seeing this all along, and fully understand it because of all the reading I've done, having a daughter who has it, a cousin, and a best friend who took his own life because of it, and he had everything a person could want in life, just as Robin Williams did. You can't make them happy, nor fully understand that they can feel nothing. All you can do is be there and wait until it passes, which it does, but it comes back and you have to expect it. I love her more than any words, and would love her to come back with me to texas, but hope doesn't come easy for her, even after constant reassurance. I have a lot of patience, and it's not been easy, but when you find someone who you really like, you do what you can. You have someone out for you, and she might be as close as the next street, so giving up won't tell you this.

I fell for a pretty face and body.

You would be very surprised just how many nice ladies are out there, again, looking for a decent man, even if he's in an apartment. many are living at home, and are looking to get out. You don't have to settle for anything you don't like. There are millions of women worldwide that have little to nothing and had men in their lives who did them wrong.

And some men fall for it because of desperation. Some can weed through the nonsense after awhile, as you can only fake what you are for so long.

We aren't supposed to be alone, so that means taking chances. Many fail, some last. It does take some time to see if one is right or not.

If you listen to enough of them you can separate the bs from the truth. Some can hide themselves for quite awhile, but after a year or so, you get to knop them if you're spending enough time with them.

Or companionship, sex, laughs together, someone who's hand you can hold while driving, to enjoy music and movies together, make food together, watch a sunrise or sunset. Romance only dies when you do.

Best advice is to be casual, date a lot, just to have fun, and maybe you'll find one, after time, that you don't want to lose. Have to take a chance or you'll never have anything. There are many, many good women out there who are dying to be with a man that just doesn't cheat or hit her. Just hard to know who those are.

I could have hated females because of the way I was treated by a few, but knew there are good ones out there. Lucky is the man who finds one, stupid is the man who leaves her.

Books are written by psychologists, psychiatrists and counselors who have interviewed thousands of people and couples to determine what works, and all of the ones I've read, as I searched out authors proven, all say the same things.This, along with listening to countless women.

Marriages 7 years, girlfriends 4. How about you, as I asked many times?

I've had many good relationships with women. Most ended amicably because of different future plans.

That's one of the first books I read, and all of John Grays actually. We are definitely different species, and that's why many relationships fail. Two people coming from two different backgrounds, sets of parents, cultures, religions and different genders, are bound to have trouble relating. Most people fight and it;s necessary to learn each other in different circumstances. It;s how you fight that matters. Some people are damaged, and hate the other gender, and will never get along with any of them.

I started training seriously at 17, and almost 68 now. Most good relationships start whenever one finds another that's compatible, which means anytime. I missed no boat and will always have someone because I'm good to them. Some have baggage they can't toss, and that ends things. Many people find love in their 60's and even later. Again, a failed relationship is a learning experience, and when you end up with the right one, it doesn't matter if it;s at age 20 or 80. I have 6 children because of a few of these relationships, and I learned from every one of them.

Yes, there are many leeches out there who's only agenda is using.

You can find love at any age, as many have proven, and what happens to you in earlier relationships, and how you react to them ,makes you what you are today. Seeing you missed it earlier, I'm with my girlfriend over 3 1/2 years now, and she's thinking of moving back to the states with me when I go. The things that hurt her are her on family, he ex husband, other Thai men and their attitudes towards women here, what other farangs have said to her, and her depression. If you don't understand this, I can't say more, because maybe you never will, and again, are you in a relationship and is it your first?

Again you're missing what I've been saying, thinking I have a big ego. This after being one of the few men that reads these relationship books. Why do you think I read all of them? I'm not a player, and don't use women. I treated them all well, and since reading the books, even better, especially with the listening part. This doesn't add up to a big ego but an empath. Look that up. Again, are you in a relationship? Married or divorced?How many men have you been with and why aren't you with them now? I have admitted to being wrong but like others, you skim instead of reading all of what I write, or plain just are angry looking, like he said, to fight, or troll.

Most marriages fail, period. Many stay because of that fear or financial worries. Some quit because they are cowards or narcissistic users. Having two people, a male and a female, who are attracted to each other, have good sex, and expect them to stay because of that is unreasonable. They have to relate in many other ways, and that takes time. This is what I did wrong. I fell in love quickly, like many millions do, and things went south. Happens to almost everyone at least once.

Do you, again, not understand that two people can be good people, be attracted to each other, but have future plans that don't correlate? This is why those two people should part as soon as possible, to let them find another that is more suitable.

I think it might be better for you to just stop replying. You are making yourself out to be an angry woman, who's most likely had a relationship with a man that hurt her, or were hurt very young and can't relate to a confident man, and think he's a liar. I know exactly what I'm talking about, and it seems you know very little about interpersonal relationships. And you still haven't answered if you're married, divorced, lesbian, deranged or something else entirely. People that part any any length of marriage time weren't supposed to be together. Don't you realize how many long marriages there are, and have been, that are abusive, neglective and downright wrong, but they stayed from fear of the unknown or financial worries? I actually know a lot more than you could ever imagine knowing, or capable of knowing. Everything I've said is factual, able to be researched and is the way people relate.

Maybe you might change your thinking if you knew I was telling things exactly how they are.No BS whatever, and I can prove anything I say.

A person who's a narcissist isn't a good catch. A person who cheats isn't a good catch. A person who hits isn't a good catch. A person who's been treated better by one than in all her life and hurts them is damaged goods, from her childhood or other bad relationships, or both. She, like all of the 100 women I've dated or been with, have all been very pretty, as that's what I attract, and what I'm attracted to. She is dating a German man, who she just left to see in Germany. A huge man that's younger than me but looks older. She, like a lot of other Thai women, just want cash, but he doesn't know the real her, yet.

Why do you assume what I am or how smart I am. You haven't near a clue how much I do know. If you think my ego is large you haven't been reading what I've been saying but skimming, or not comprehending it. I haven't blamed anyone but just stated facts. I don't exaggerate when I talk. No need. People get into marriages after dating once, and lst forever. People marry, then divorce after 50 years. people divorce after a month or stay years. No ones an expert because of attraction and finances, two things that get in the way of permanent. I, along with millions of other people, married someone that wasn't a good permanent match for me. If you haven't been married, you won't understand. if you have, are you still or divorced? What happened to your relationships? You judge fast without knowing most of the facts, and don't believe them when you see them written. When a marriage fails , it an be one's fault or both.

I was with many women before I moved here, and none were poor. Yes, most here are poor, and I met the one I married when I came here on vacation. All women that are pretty have options, and even those not so pretty. Problem here is that they know how locals treat them, and how they don't usually stay after a child is born. They know a farang is more likely to give them a better life, and how could you blame them? A good Thai man, of which there are very few, are already in marriages and relationships and will not stray. Locals go through women like changing underwear, and the women who are smart know this. This is why they look elsewhere, especially after being used a few times.