fredwiggy

Sent you a message about the music

I said the experts who've said people can't remember at ages 2-4 are wrong. The authors books I've read are proven and well known experts in psychology. And that kid should be taken as soon as he can arrange a deal, because he can give her a better life than that wife can. He can stay here until that happens

I posted the links to show the most important years in a person's life are 0-5. The links proved this.You said you can't remember anything at age 2-4 or so. I can, as can millions of other people. What you can't do has no bearing on what others can. Studies don't capture all people. Just some. Yes, some people have false memories, and I explained a little why this is so. Many people can remember what happened to them , as I did, at age 2. It doesn't matter what some "experts" say. They're wrong, and anyone who believes everything that is written is naive.

As I can also. I remember being in a play, on stage, and peeing in my pants in kindergarten,

My memory is just fine. Thinking of all the books I read, most of them in the years 1996-2000 isn't easy. Continuing that reading with countless articles, almost daily, on the same subjects, plus depression and narcissism, is quite a lot of reading, along with other books on nutrition, hunting, fishing and other real things, and some fiction. Remembering what was in them is more important than their names, and knowing they were (are) at the top of their trade in psychology. In case you're wondering about my memory, I have about 40,000 cd's, and can remember most of the songs, and much of the lyrics in a large majority of them. This is because, again, music is a thing I'm passionate about. I read the books, know what's in them, and have no reason to lie, because anything I've said can be backed up by research.

How am I desperate? I posted links, just as you did, and I can continue for days doing the same, but if you're not going to open your mind and think you might be a tad wrong on this, you'll never see the forest for the trees. It's called growth.

I've read most of the books by Gary Smalley, Doctor Dobson, John Gray, Dr. Laura, Dr. Les Carter,and a host of others I can't recall just now. If you name an author from the 80's through the early 2000's, I probably read them, along with articles daily from many psychologists. I don't claim to do anything I haven't. I don't care what you think because it means nothing. You can read what I linked but I'm sure you won't because as I've said, some people will believe one or two that write something they like, and think it's gospel. I read everything I can find on a subject and then make a decision based on most of them saying the same things, what sounds logical and I can prove in my own experiences.

I'm sorry you see that, as it's actually you that are fighting a lost battle. I'm sure you haven't read anything I posted, and like many others, only skim through and see what they want to see. I'm not trying to be an expert. I just know a lot about certain things, and only argue when I'm right about one, and I can prove my side, as I have. Some people are naive and closed minded, and believe what a person says because it fits their narrative and lifestyle, even though they are living a lie. An example is those many hundreds of thousands who believed Hitler was the way and the light, even though right in front of their eyes he was a sick, very disturbed drug user who hated people because he came from a hurtful childhood, and saw Jews as inferior.

I never said false memories aren't real, and yes, everyone has them. I said, people can, and do, remember from their young childhoods, like I stated, and throughout the years, when talking to people about memories, just like this discussion, have had all of my friends say the same things, that they also remembered when thy were very young, ages from 2 through 7. From your link, "ResearchTrusted Source suggests people who have a history of trauma, depression, or stress may be more likely to produce false memories. Negative events may produce more false memories than positive or neutral ones. Like I also said, I was raised with love and care, and no abuse, neglect or spoiling, so it's easier for those like me to remember things that actually did happen, and not have the need to make up false memories nor have them happen by chance. In a depressed persons mind, those who have actual depression, when you ask them about their childhood and years throughout their lives, they will likely tell you more negative than positive things, even if their lives were mostly positive. This is because a person who has depression accentuates the negative, as they are living in a world they see as a negative place.

It might be best for you to refrain from trying to outdo someone with obviously a lot more knowledge on this subject. I reiterate, just because you don't remember things when you were very young, doesn't mean others don't also. I can go on and on about things when I was very young but since you're calling me ignorant,which I'm not, and a liar, which I'm not , especially about things I know, you're acting the part of a fool who only goes by her own experience, is showing, obviously by prejudice, that you think a mother is more important than a father, which they aren't if all things are equal, and that you base your argument on one or two links you seem will sway my thinking, which they don't, as I've heard it all before, and again, base my replies on facts that are easy to find.

So you'll understand better. I never lie about things I'm knowledgeable about. Things I argue a point on, because without knowledge you're just pissing in the wind. I don't lie about hunting or fishing. I don't lie about women, as in bragging about conquests because that is childish. I have a code I follow, and I don't break that code. Another link for you............https://files.firstthingsfirst.org/why-early-childhood-matters/the-first-five-years

Please stop trying to rebut what I'm saying. I'm telling it exactly how it is. Like I said, my mom was amazed what I remembered, and didn't need to tell me anything because I'm the one who told her. I do not make opinions because they mean nothing. I don't reply unless I have knowledge and experience on a subject, as that would be futile. Just because you don't remember what you did at ages 1-5 doesn't mean everyone else doesn't also. Another link, although being stubborn doesn't allow o a person to grow. Best to take time to research, like I do.......https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/first-seven-years-of-childhood#In-the-first-years-of-life,-the-brain-rapidly-develops-its-mapping-system

I hunt, fish, nature walk, photography, read books,weight training, music and movies, and do these constantly, besides hunting , which isn't allowed here, and is one reason I'm going back home asap.

My ex knows my daughter is going back home with me to Texas. She doesn't fully understand that she needs to be in school before she is 10 there to keep up with the curriculum so she isn't left behind. This is being explained over time. She is almost 8 now so it's going to happen within 2 years. My English school owner, who is US taught and well respected all over Thailand, said," If she loves that child, she will let her go with you, and soon". He studied in America, runs a school here and knows fully how much better schools are there than here. I've heard from quite a few here that judges will honor a man bringing his child to another country, s they know this country's school system pales by comparison to most western countries.

You haven't proven anything but that you base your replies on what someone has said, an opinion, when a person has just told you he remembered what happened when he was 2. For this example, I will tell you. I was 2. My brother was watching TV in the living room, cartoons. My mom was lying down in her bedroom. I climbed up on the toilet seat and got out a bottle of St. Joseph's Aspirin,something I'm not sure is till made. They had an orange taste, and I knew this from being given them before. I ate the whole bottle. My mom saw me a few minutes later and asked me what I ate. I said aspirin, but what it sounded like was oranges. They rushed me to the hospital to get my stomach pumped. I remember gagging as they inserted tubes in my mouth and nose. After the stomach was pumped, we rode home in the ambulance and I asked the driver if I could hear the siren, which he put on. I also remember my mom lying on the bed next to me in the room, with her head facing the other way and crying. This memory I told my mom when I was older and she was smiling that I remembered every detail. I also remember, at the same age, walking down the sidewalk of that house, wearing my dad's army style jacket, and standing next to a rock, which was above my height. When I later visited that house after we moved, I saw the rock. It was about 3 feet tall. I remember him going ot for what he said were donuts, and he came back with a large two propeller helicopter toy, with electric lights and moving propellers. These memories all happened from age 2-4, as we moved to another town by the time I turned 5. At 5, I remember a kid throwing darts at a target next to me on his front steps. He threw one dart and it stuck in my leg. Children who are raised with love and care remember a lot of their childhood days. Children who are abused or neglected block out things, and substitute good thoughts for those that actually happened.

If you are really into a subject, reading is always the best way to learn about it, followed by a professional teaching you, as that professional also learned from books. You stop learning when you stop reading. Of course you have to be able to comprehend what you read, as just reading a book doesn't help someone who hasn't the ability to take in what they have read and keep it in memory.

Not when it comes to arguing a point I'm very familiar with. Yes, most people lie, but not about a topic that is easily researched, as this is. Why bother posting things that are lies? I'm not here to impress anyone but to help the OP make a good choice.

I've talked to 5 lawyers here about just this. They all said if the mom is a drug dealer and it can be proven, the father will get custody. They said if the women is promiscuous it matters little to the judge. Yes, this is crapola, but this is Thailand. Gambling isn't good, but it has to be proven she is wasting a lot of money and time gambling away resources, which isn't easy to prove. A woman cheating on her husband, if proven, helps but the scales are so set against men getting custody here, it's very hard to turn their judgement around. Even in the US it's hard for a man to get custody, although it happens (I got it for 4 of mine), but you have to fight. men get it more and more if they can prove their home is a more stable one. Here it's so prejudiced against men because most men here won't bother fighting, many leave when kids are born, and aren't active in parenting, and the courts know this. Child support is supposed to be enforced here, but the only ones who pay are farangs like myself.

I never lie or post any opinions. You can look up anything I say and you'll see facts, and lots of them. Just because I'm a male doesn't mean I favor males. I know what's best for a child, and it's both parents together, but an absent father will ruin a girl's chances for a secure, productive future with issues that will follow her for a very long time, if not forever. Not having a mother around also hurts a girl of course, but I did say if both parents are stable, a father's abode is the best choice, IF he is available and not working all the time and doesn't have time to spend with that girl. Meaning if all things are equal as far as living arrangements for both parents.

I don't go by one persons pinion on a subject but what the majority o proven professionals say. Like I said, I remember things back to age 2, and friends I've talked to said the same things. I've read 65 books and thousands of articles on children, relationships, how men and women relate, depression, mental illnesses and the like. I believe something when a majority tells the same story, and also what I see from personal experience, and they usually coincide.

I'm sorry but you need to do some research and not base your replies on prejudice, as they seem to be. facts are facts, and the truth is there if you read up on it, and understand the importance a father has. I never said mom isn't important, as the child does need both.I'm saying if there has to be a choice, the choice is clear, IF both parents are stable

I didn't suggest he stay. I suggested he stick around until the mom lets the child go, which many here will do anyway. A deal can be made, and money usually talks to Thais. This man cares about his daughter, so he shpould stay in her life, as he will most likely be the provider and teach that girl more than the mother could, as far as how to thrive in this world.

No, a child watches their parents like a hawk, all the time, and sees how the most important people in her(his) life relate to each other. What they see is usually what they will do, unless an intervention, as soon as possible, comes along while they are still very young, in the case of them seeing abuse or neglect. Narcissists are created from age 1-5 by either abuse and or neglect, or being spoiled. The years after these years are important of course, but not as important as those first 5.

This is the go to bible on how to really screw up a child's future and I'm hoping the OP doesn't take (waste) time reading this. So many "fathers" around that do nothing at all and we see the results daily on TV, with boys beating the crap out of another 5 against 1, boys raping their girlfriends, killing them, killing their parents, treating animals as things to get their anger out on and many others. Absent fathers are the reasons for most of the worlds problems today. The breakdown of the family is the breakdown of society.

Research for the last 40 years about child development, how to raise kids, treat a mate, depression, narcissism and other things related to psychology