I do not blame you for not wanting to put your wife through the hell of an extension at immigration. Their treatment of your wife can range from abusive/cruel (worst-case), to a PITA (best-case), possible involving multiple visits to get every "this year they want" requirement (changed picture requirements, etc).
Given the timing of the 400K and your extension expiration date + already used the 60-day extension + under-50 - the far easiest / least-expensive solution is leave Thailand for a visa. But, you do NOT have to do the Multiple-Entry route, with repeated trips.
You can get a single-entry Non-O based on marriage which gives you 90-days upon entry. You do not have to show money in the bank proof for this in Laos, and can FLY/Ride there, to avoid a long bus-trip to get it. Your wife can come with, so make it a little vacation. You will need to sign-up for an appointment at the chosen consulate online - either Savanakhet or Vientiane. I suggest those two, because we have recent trip-reports, so you can know what to expect - though there are other options.
Deposit 400K just before you leave, so it will be in the bank more than enough time for an extension after you return. It is 2 months before you apply required - though some offices in the sticks are/were asking for 3 mo in-the-bank before applying.
Upon your return, wait 60 days of the 90 days permitted-stay received on-entry, THEN, ask your agent, again - and ask the fee-cost, given you have the required money in the bank for the required time. At this point, they are just handling the paperwork for you. Maybe you have to show up for a picture at the immigration office - that's it.