thainomad3

Lock him up Lock her up

Your lifes work are for your kids. Not giving to some girl just cuz she banged u a few hundred times

so u dont lose ur assets. the only reason to marry is for kids

I mean obviously age and previous relationships matter. but I measure it by breeding utility. will she give u babies? how much money does she require overall? etc did u have to buy her a house or car does she live with u

20k baht sin sod. what the heck. im getting asked 100k baht for a 28 yo single mom with 2 kids

It was over when she cheated on u

Sex and babies. If u want someone to talk to or do things with that's what guys are for.

Do you guys get legally married? Honestly sin sod is way cheaper than any legal documents and losing ur assets.

I am being serious. Maybe I'm cynical but I want a return on investment for everything I do. Why would I give a bunch up front?

Has 1 million baht car (think its paid off though but expensive to maintain compared to her salary) Family home 2.5 million baht. Still has mortgage. Father and mother blue collar works almost everyday. She had 50k (probably 20k now though) baht in the bank. Not a real teacher. But teachers assistant. Helps kids go to nap time, serves meals that sort of thing. Used to be nurse assistant. Checking in patients, helping doctor. Check blood pressure. But not any real medical treatment. I will do my best to negotiate it down from 100k and spread it over a few months. Making sure she's pregnant before any big money comes. The first 3 months of 10k/month is fine since im living in her home and sex daily.

Only this spring. in the future I'll stay like a month a year and she should let me since Id pay child support for my kid.

Not directly related to sin sod. But how do you deal with Thai girls misbehaving. Especially when it's hard to leave not because of emotional attachment but youve invested time and money (like flights). Sunk cost fallacy Ive tried cutting off a small allowance, ghosting for days, communicating my concerns, asking her to return the small money ive given her etc. Seems toxic idk how to deal with her doing stupid <deleted> that pisses me off I gave her 3000 baht because she chose an easy but less pay teaching assistant job. But I told her 1000 baht needs to go to the gym. She spent it on TikTok orders

So do you think im getting a fair deal or not? On one hand single moms dont deserve sin sod. On the other hand she's giving me a lot and a baby for cheaper than most farangs. I dont need to buy a car or condo etc

"he just wants to have a kid for some reason as some sort of lifestyle that will fit into him visiting Thailand now and then." True Not joking. I want to make sure both parties get a fair deal out of this relationship. I absolutely love her, enough to visit her every year. Not so much id buy a house or car or pay an exorbitant "sin sod."

It would be paid while pregnant but it's for when the Childs born she needs to take several months off. In the end if she gets a net profit of 60k or so baht that's fine. Because I didn't need to rent a condo or car or jewelry. I'd overall be saving compared to some Farang who buys a car for their wife.

Different parenting strategies. https://www.morebirths.com/p/high-intensity-parenting-is-a-real But I respect your opinion on international schools. The more competent the child the more investment. I should add she is okay with me banging other girls though shed get upset if she found out I want as many children as possible.

1 baby daddy. What did you pay for your wife in other ways? How much for the condo and jewelry? Agree on spreading out support. Regarding job I'll be fine since mostly working in the US and only staying a few months a year. She keeps bringing up unicorn examples of some ladies getting sin sod multiple times for more than 100k. She pays someone several K baht a month to take care of the kids (pickup school food etc) Previous she worked as a hospital assistant making 12k-15k baht/month. Now teaching assistant 10kbaht/month (minimum wage almost). Is 10k/month for 9 months while pregnant unreasonable for 3 months Id live in her home.

I'm absolutely not trolling. Unusual sure. I don't see the return on investment for international schools. If the purpose is a western education just raise the kids in the west for hundreds of thousands too. As long as the kid speaks English and you get them a western passport they'll be fine. Nature over nurture.

If she can't be reasonable I will.

Her previous marriage was legally registered + 100k cash or 2 baht gold. She does not require a legal marriage or help with US visa, only 100k baht While I completely understand divorcees shouldn't get sin sod. She will have limited earnings while pregnant and I'm a flight risk since I'd only stay in Thailand a few months a year. From their perspective isn't sin sod an insurance? She also got pregnant for me before marriage before but we lost the baby. I keep getting conflicting answers im getting exploited or im exploiting her. I considered 10k baht/month for 9 months as "sin sod" but in the meantime shed be pregnant and not working for several months. Her folks are quite friendly but poor and were likely only nice to me to get sin sod

U mentioned girls stealing sin sod even from thais. How can I guarantee I at least get a kid out of any arrangement and don't get sin sod stolen.

I will pay all child support costs but only for my child. Then maybe a small allowance for her assuming she does a good job raising my kid. Getting kids cheap as possible: The minimum investment to get her pregnant. Not minimum invested in my kid. Because that's what everything boils down to. U support her in some way, she gives u a kid. I see Farang buying a home and car for a girl without getting a baby, It's insanely stupid.

She doesn't require legal marriage. Her ex paid 100k sin sod and 2 baht of gold. Then handed over half his salary for a decade. Her mother accepted no gold and only 100k cash. She's an only child. It's more her mother thinks im an ATM than her. She let me impregnate in the summer with the promise of sin sod later. But we lost the baby in September. Yeah my main concern is she'll hold my kid hostage for money. Maybe I should aim for quality of girl over quantity of kids...

So what's the consensus guys? She's exploiting me or I'm exploiting her. Who's exploiting who

I agree other girls wouldn't want sin sod but wouldn't I have to pay in other ways like letting her live with me or US visa. Also this girl let me get her pregnant without sin sod (but we lost the baby in September) but now her mother is demanding sin sod.