Golf

I visited New York before, and I agree with you, Kat! Most of Thai taxi drivers don't have any senses of safetiness and responsibilities. They need to go back to driving schools again. Thai DMV also made them so easy to get driver licenses.

FYI: there are more than 100,000 taxies in BKK alone. I am feeling soooo safe!

Talking about this tragic news, I have seen the picture of the farang girl. I was shocked and disbelieved. "Thairat", Thai newspaper, show the picture of her dead body up-close! That's something I really hate about Thai newspaper. They don't respect the dead and don't give a bit of a person's dignity. They just want to sell their newspaper.

Let's keep an eye on this story on how the event unfold. Don't blink!

Hi all,

I agree that many Thai taxi drivers, of course, not all of them, need to go to driving schools and need to realize that their passengers' life is in their hands. I usually take SkyTrain or subway to go from piont A to piont B safely. I would take a taxi when I have absolutely no other alternative.

One thing I've learned by talking with taxi drivers is that they also don't want to drive like this, but it's due to the rental rates of their cars. Most of them don't own the car; they rent it. The rate is higher for the newer car while it's a lot cheaper for the older ones. Sometimes it's as high as 1,000 baht per day for the newest model. Hence the more trips they make, the more money they will get to cover the cost and hopefully make some profits. One taxi driver told me that he has to make at least 700 baht on that day just to cover his rent. So how many trips he has to make on that day? I understand that, but putting your passengers's life in danger is another story. What is worth the money if you kill someone just because you want to make some money? It's out of question.

I usually talk to them when I feel that driver starts to act like an ######. I would ask about the traffic and suggest that I am not in a hurry. Surprisingly, most drivers are friendly enough to engage the conversation. I think they want to talk and reduce their stress. I wouldn't mind talking to them. I enjoy it and they mormally slow down and drive better.

You're absolutely right, SBK! Yes, we're talking about education here. I married my wife, who happens to be an American, last year. We're doing great and have no conflicts at all. I think it's because we have a lot of things in common. We share the same value and idea so we respect each other thoughts. My wife comes from the free society where she can express her true feelings. For Thai society, it's more traditional. That's why many (not all) Thai men are acting like this. What I am trying to say here is "how to make things better", not "taking on all Thais".

You're welcome, Nat. Hope everything on your side is better now.

Hi Nat,

Sorry to hear about all this! As you might already know that I am a Thai guy, but I am not doing anything like your ex, I am sure. As far as I can see, I guess "lossing face" is the main reason he's angry. Like someone posted here, "jai yen" is just a mask, and I totally agree. I don't think that he has a good heart either. If he is, he wouldn't do such things as had his friends watching you, scared you, or wanted to punch you! For me, these are expected behaviors from Thai men who have low education. All of my friends (Thai, of course) have never done such things.

In my opinion, you shouldn't think that you still can be friend with him, or hope that he will clam down. He'll never be your friend and will be angry every time he sees you. Believe me, Thai men are so jealous and are very emotional rather than rational, just like most Thai women, too I know that you've relocated and that's a good thing. Next is never contact him again. Just disappear from his life. Don't talk to his friends, too. This is for your own safety as he might know your whereabout and harass you.

Good luck and please don't think that all Thai men are the same. At least, not me

Hi SBK,

No, you're not confuse me at all, but I do that to myself! I just called the immigration officer again today and know what I have to do. You're right about it. I need to do what you already mentioned earlier. I need to transfer some money and other documents such as a letter from employer and tax receipt. It's the last two that I concern.

1. I just got back here in Thailand in Oct, 2003. I have no full time job; I am working as a freelance so I don't have an employer.

2. 100% of my works come from the States and I deposit my payments in my U.S. back.

My question is:

If I transfer the money to my Thai bank (I still have my Thai bank), does it has to be in the bank long enough before we got married?

I am sorry if I ask the question that already has an answer somewhere in this thread.

SBK,

I got very confused now. I think I have to revisit the immigration office again. As far as I know, I donot need to show bank account, tax or anything like that. But I'll check again.

Thanks

Hello SBK,

Thank you so much for your information. I think we will just go for an "O" visa for now. For her, becoming a Thai citizen is a long-await process .

I finally went to the Immigration office at Soi Suan Plu today with my girlfriend (she needed to extend her stay for 30 more days) and got more info from the officer herself. She said when a Thai man marry a farang woman, They donot require me or my farang girlfriend to show passbooks or any financial statements. According to her, Thai cultures and customs assume that a man is a supporter. So when we go to appy an "O-A" visa for her after we got married, I don't need to prove that I have 200k in my bank account. All we need to do is to show my Thai ID, her US passport, marriage certificate, and other documents. Wheww, that's such a relieve.

The immigration officers are very sweet and friendly. They were all have big smiles on their faces when I asked questions about marrying my girlfriend. Anyway, I did what most Thais did when they go to see an officer, smile and be friendly. So I think I am still good at it after spent years in the States.

Again, thank you very much, SBK. It will be my turn next time to help you.

Thanks, huski! So they don't really care that it's a farang man or a woman who will marry Thai, humm? Sorry, but it's disturbing me. I think I don't need my farang wife to support me. Oh well, it seems like I cannot change the rules, can I?

If she became a Thai citizen, can she still be an American citizen like dual nationality? How long would it take to do that?

I will marry her before July 10 anyway.

In the marriage extensions section, do these requirements apply to both farang men and women? What will happen when a Farang woman married to a Thai man? Does she needs to have that kind of money too? I am Thai and am planning to marry my farang girlfriend. I beleive that I am her supporter here in Thailand. Do I need to have 200k in my account or what? The new requirements did not mention about this issue.

As far as I know, I can be a legal permanent resident in the States without having to show my bank account. As long as I am a good person with no criminal records and am willing to contribute my efforts to the country I live in. I feel like Thailand is a hard place to do things that supposed to be easy.

Hi Lina,

First of all, congratulations! I wish you and you sweetheart a very good luck on your wedding! Secondly, I am a Thai man and am planning to marry my farang girlfriend too. I have the same question. What are we suppose to do to get married? I know a bit that Thai man marying farang woman is different from farang man marrying Thai woman, but I don't know how different. Anyone has an answer?

Hello all,

Wow! I started this topic as a real intention to meet farang girl and I met the one. We're doing extremely well. We're actually planing to live together as a couple real soon. So Thai guys who are serious about having farang girlfriends...be brave, get out, and make it happened. You will find the one.

Padkaprao, I am so sorry to know that this jurk is using your name. I am sure he will be cursed and driven out from this forum for good.

Hi Sassie,

Thai cultures can be hard to understand for westerners sometimes. I agree with many who previously replied to you and want you to think in term of pros and cons before you make your final decision. I am a bit lucky that I am a Thai guy who studied and worked in the West for years before returned to Thailand so I've learned some of the western cultures. I can blend the two to make life a little easy with my farang FG.

For my part, we are doing extremely well. She knows Thai cultures and are learning Thai language from me and her co-workers. Being able to understand Thai language is very important! It helps your relationship, believe me. I hope you know the language already. Your Thai BF also needs to learn English. At least, you two can have a better communication.

So give it a try in April. If things are going well, you can make your final thought. Good luck and hope to hear good news from you.

Thanks, Nat! That was a terrible typo!!! I meant "honest". Ponster, I was bold enough to introduce myself to my GF so we met and the rest is history. Make your move, and she will know that you're serious.

As for you, Deb, a long distance relationship is really tough. But I know that it somehow shows who you really are. If you're serious as I think you are, you wouldn't just stop contacting her, right? So does she. Let's go with the flow, and you will find out.

Good luck for all of you.

Hello all,

First of all, thanks a lot, Sigur ros. I am a happy man now and hope all of us to be happy too. I could do this beacuse I am sure I am hornest and brave enough to approach my GF. Ponster, you can do it too. It's just take courages to do so. That's all.

Well, good luck guys. I will be here and wait for your good news!

Hello Pongster,

Hope you don't mind if I am going to ask you some questions. I have read some of your messages in this forum and started to wonder about you. Are you looking for a long-term relationship or just for fun. Please don't answer "both" 'cause there is no such thing as both. Pick one and go for it. I don't mean to lecture you or anything, but it's just so sad if I see you try so hard to get to know somebody just for "fun". I am a Thai man just like you and I already found "the one" I want to spend my life with. Good luck on your search man. I am on your side anyway.

I think you have no choice but to take her with you here in Thailand. I am Thai and used to live in the US. I totally understand your situation. If she feels ok to live with you and her step mother in a new environment, that's good. She's still very young and can readjust herself far more easiler that the older ones. The only problem is that the education systems in Thaland are not suitable for her. You learn things by asking questions. Here, we just have to listen and do what the teachers said. It's absolutely stupid 'cause we cannot improve our abilities in thinking analytically. Anyway, hope she'll be fine in Thailand.

Hello there,

Thank you for all of your relpies!!! I am really appreciated. I think I didn't make a mistake posting my topic here after all. I am serious in making Thai guy-farang girl relationship a real thing, not just for fun or anything. So any farang ladies who have read this topic please give me a chance. Oh, I'd like to metion these before I go. They might make me have less chance, but they're important.

I am not a real tall man. I am about 5'7" (173 cm.) so I would like to meet someone who is shorter or about my height. I am thin but not skinny. I prefer to meet a native English speaker (English or American), but that can be changed if we can get along well.

That's about it for now. Hope I am not too specific, but everybody has their own preferences, right?

Thank you,

Golf/ [email protected]

Hi there,

I just know this web site by accident and very interested in it. Let me introduce myself. I am a Thai man who studied and worked in the U.S. for many years. I just came back a month ago due to my family emergency and my visa status in the U.S. has expired. Now I am working in Thailand as an independent translator. While I was in the US, I always wanted to meet a nice farang woman for a long term relationship. I made it once, though, but our relationship didn't last for long. I was sad, but I am still alive and want to start a new one again. Hopefully it will be the last one this time.

I am really interested in meeting farang woman here in Bangkok. If you also want to have a serious relationship with a honest Thai guy, not a one night stand, please contact me. I have good English (read/write/communication) so a language barrier is not a problem. You can drop me a line at [email protected]. Hope to hear from you soon.

Thank you,

Golf