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3 hours ago, owl sees all said:

 

An Ozzie pal - unfortunately died unexpectedly some time ago - told me that you can control the Isaan woman with money.

 

She is a strange beast, he wold say. Always a conflict in her head; with desire, money, food and status fighting for prominence.

As you know Owl Isaan people gain status by helping out family members, friends, neighbours, lending money when others are in difficulty

When the farang understands this, he also understands why the wife prefers to spend his money first, saving her money, often invested in gold, for a time she may be called upon, perhaps to return a favour or help someone out 

I wear normal closed shoes for driving, thus often wear when out and about with socks, shorts or long trousers 

Finished farm tasks for a few hours so now sitting outside in the breeze relaxing, short sleeve shirt, long pants as not active and keeps mosquito attacks to an absolute minimum

Wear wellington boots to the farm every day with socks work hard often no problem with smelly feet but I do shower 4 times a day, more if working hard and required 

Change clothes usually 3 times a day 

And yes see Thai feet taking a bit of a hammering here in rural Thailand

13 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

I saw something like that when my girlfriend asked me to visit her village many years ago.

I was shocked. I don't remember much more from that visit.

Now we both live in a high-rise condo in Bangkok. No mosquitos, no family nearby, no village life. ???? 

I guess there are more like me in my aircon room in rural Isaan watching TV, on the internet, thinking ok no problem, believe what makes you guys happy ????

10 for the Uk 

Nothing wrong with the country or set up, I just didn't exploit opportunities to the full, but did ok, my time there has enabled me to retire to Thailand 

Thailand 10 because, here I am, and any short comings should have been identified and already taken into account previously, I made the choice to live here, Thailand did not invite me 

Oh yes cycling to the farm and doing everyday farm work saves on a gym membership ????

Lightest I have weighed for years 

To me rural living provides the option to live cheaper 

For example free fish in the rice paddies and waterways just now in the wet season, mushrooms, crabs and papaya for somtam and of course home grown rice 

As mentioned previously door to door selling of local produce is popular

In reality there is little need to go to supermarkets if one follows the local seasonal menus, including insects and Ants 

Lately by way of example live pork prices dropped so pigs were killed on the farm and sold fresh same day 140 baht kg 

Later in the year ponds will dry up and at the correct level will be pumped out and fish sold maybe one or two ponds a week around us for 10 weeks or so

Mango season of course plus other fruits, melons, pumpkin selection of home grown vegetables such as string beans, egg plant, cucumber, and one that looks like a cucumber but isn't don't know the name

I understand if the above is not for you but as I say the option is there to experience the Thai rural self sufficiency diet 

Have daily tasks some are not frequently changed, others we can juggle as necessary, so while there is routine there is also required a flexibility and no set timing on those tasks we can move around 

Makes life interesting, our agenda can be influenced by so many different things the following day seldom the same

On 8/17/2023 at 1:05 PM, Scouse123 said:

This is UK I am referring to not Thailand.  Of course I can say No, but I can't sit hours in a bar on coffee or lime and soda, it ain't me.

This is the real test 

I cut down my drinking until I am not bothering now a glass of coke is reward enough 

I never say stopped drinking I occasionally have a glass d prove I can do it, but only one 

I met with my family in a restaurant pub they like a drink ???????? when I ordered coke they just made a comment about not drinking, I said for now no 

Only one sister tried to make anything of it saying I only stopped drinking because I couldn't afford it, I told her sure I had a lot more money in my pocket 

One of the main reasons actually was my circle of friends changed slowly into non drinkers or light drinkers

The only bastion of heavy drinking I now encountered were my family who over the years have accepted I don't go to the pub with them but can provide a very useful taxi service ????

I enjoy a good life here, challenges for sure, in a busy daily schedule that allows little time for attention to how others view Thailand 

Make of it what you will, doesn't need to align with my opinion, I can't fix it for you 

26 minutes ago, swerve said:

This comment is interesting to me.  My GF had her son and DIL pay back money she loaned the couple when they needed to pay a hospital during a difficult baby delivery.  I donated some cash as I thought it was the proper thing to do.  My cash was a gift and I was very surprised about my GF's stance.  

Not unusual to have loaned money returned 

I am surprised by the volume of responses categorising loans as a gift

Start a relationship with a sexy Isaan girl 

You never know what will happen next challenges will just keep on coming

It's great fun ????

29 minutes ago, transam said:

It reads like some of you lot made a mistake moving to LOS...........................????

More they appear to take on board the anonymous opinions and actions of other foreign residents almost as if the persona reflects on them, which I guess it can if they allow it to influence 

Only one, not Thai specific but applicable in LOS covers many areas

Pretense

Sure have spent on Thai ladies over the years, typical holiday millionaire

How else do you get it out of your system and settle down

Took a while but it was real good fun ????

Go for the women and Jack 

Then have think about what to do next 

1 hour ago, Dazkkk said:

Everything he had before marriage is his alone, everything acquired during marriage including any money is split 50/50. If property is involved built or bought during marriage is 50/50, the problem comes when he tries to sell the house (not land it’s standing on) as she can make things extremely difficult. 
Get your <deleted> together and walk out the door and put many miles between you and her and then reassess the situation from a place of safety. 
I understand you don’t have much money, but chalk the house down to lost money, then anything you do manage to get out of it will be a bonus. 
A lawyer is going to be needed sooner or later to legalise divorce and property split, if that ever happens. 

Of course if the house has loan against it, maybe there is nothing to get!!

21 minutes ago, BE88 said:

She lies and he no longer has confidence, the ideal prerequisite for starting a breakup, but if you're not willing to leave her and lose your home then continue not to worry and live your life without getting too much trouble.

Then one day maybe you'd know the truth or maybe not, deep down what changes knowing it or not knowing it if you don't want to change your life.

I like this ????

Food for thought ????

I guess the answer is quite easy 

Any marriage has difficult times, times when its better to concede than fight 

Those that cannot accept they are not always right can hire a happy servant for an hour or two a day, interchange that they never get the false impression of having any input other than to please the guy 

So are the rewards from the interaction within a marriage more substantial than buying happy hours

I'd say much depends on the individual 

Somebody offered 23k for a Thai cow and a 4 month old calf 

We accepted because we are over stocked also have a heifer coming through as a replacement

In the grand scheme of things a reasonable price considering we are stretched on grass resource 

We have gained success by injecting the cows to bring them on to want the bull 

Having had explanations ranging from cattle too fat, to lacking condition as reasons for not showing s desire for the bull, we gave a reluctant charolais one last chance with injection to bring it into season and it worked 

Recently we did another charolais it seems to have held, shortly two more will go the injection route ????

We also have a similar heifer to yours, used AI thought it was in calf, it came mad a bulling a few weeks ago and again recently, we used AI again, thing is it doesn't appear to be about condition on this particular cow as it has always looked fit and we didn't need to inject 

However we will continue injecting rather than feeding concentrate to get the cows serviced 

Once in calf we can push them on a bit as required

Only other thing to mention is I understand cooler weather helps even when injecting to bring a cow on 

24 minutes ago, Walker88 said:

Well, you'd better get word to the FBI, MI5, MI6, Mossad, the CIA, FSB, GRU, law enforcement across the globe, even CHAOS and SPECTRE, because all use that combination of dress, movement, facial expression, mannerisms, etc. to 'profile'.

 

AI is going to make assessment even more accurate.

 

Here's a weird example:

 

There are actually algorithms now that can can guess a woman is pregnant even before she knows it, based on what she looks at in grocery stores and how much time she spends looking, since pregnant women develop tastes for certain foods.

 

Relating this to the OP, his overall appearance may rub people the wrong way, based on human's primal ability to read body language.

 

When my wife and I travel to the farm I ride a bike my wife on a motorcycle

If I am leading Thai women will look past me and acknowledge my wife 

Of my wife is in front they will acknowledge her then smile as they pass me ????

So what does your profiling make of that?