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18 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

To not do something kind, does not mean that someone is being unkind.

That you think they should do something they're morally obligated to do (because of something unsolicited you did), when you think they're obligated to do it; but then they don't and just ignore you and your sensitive feelings and your cultural imposition; means unkind to you in that instance.

19 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

Thais have a time when they might give gifts to people

And I noted that on those times they don't give gifts to just any people. If you happened to give a little gift to them sometime in the past, notably Christmas, for whatever reason, they have no obligation to return a gift to you. A gift isn't a loan to be repaid.

24 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

They don't think the same way about you as you do about them. 

Round and round and round. You must be getting senile.

For the 5th time, it doesn't matter if they do, and I don't expect them to, for reasons already explained.

33 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

If you want to be in a one-sided relationship

Irrelevant, as we're not talking about "relationships" at all. The maids in the condo mean nothing to me, and I mean nothing to them. Giving them a trivial Christmas gift doesn't change that. So I don't expect, need, or want gifts from them ever in return. They know that. I'm sure most people here agree and feel the same.

In personal relationships with actual friends and partners, you'd expect some kind of reciprocity. 

I think you're about ready for help to get out of yet another of your bickering loops.

10 hours ago, Jingthing said:

Putting in a card in a great idea. Just handing over naked cash is kind of crass 

Probably not suitable your application, but gift cards can be very appropriate. Central is an old standby. Bought one at Supersports the other day for someone I know who/s into fitness.

3 minutes ago, stubuzz said:

There was a number on the failed delivery slip. My wife called and arranged a time for re-delivery. No signature was required, so i don't know why the letter was not left in our post box in the first place.

Great the slip had a number to call. Mine never have.

39 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

I never said they were unkind.  I said they weren't kind to you even though you are kind to them, which is where the surprise appears.  It just seems a little one-sided.

Saying they weren't kind when you think they should be is just saying they're unkind. Enough with trying to split a hair.

39 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

you're kind of showing that they mean more to you than you mean to them, which seems a little odd.

I'm not "showing" all this meaning that's so important for you and that you need reciprocated--though even I did, I wouldn't care (odd to you, yes). What I'm showing is merely a little kindness, and I feel good when I do so. I don't overthink it, actually.

39 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

when it's time for them to give gifts, they don't think of you.

And for the 4th? time, I don't expect them too. They don't have a Christmas giving tradition and don't give gifts to acquaintances unless there's a self-interested motive--which I don't need. Not the culture, period. On the other had, I've been the recipient of countless spontaneous, unsolicited little acts of kindness from Thais over the decades. Pay it forward.  

Are you done yet? As noted, it's too "odd" for you--and that's your problem, not mine. But whenever I ask a poster that, he has to make sure that he's not done.

4 hours ago, Andrew65 said:

What kind of man takes his family to Pattaya on holiday? Or if you have a girlfriend "Hey honey, lets go to the biggest whorehouse in the world on holiday."

But Pattaya's such a large area that you can live and stay in Pattaya w/o out ever being near the bar scene. Russians I see stay around beach areas w/ nice hotels and restos. You know only the superficial, stereotypical Pattaya that fits the monger narrative on the forum.

14 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

You're literally saying that you want to treat someone on your special occasion who you know does not treat you on their special occasion.

Yep, I literally am, and have said so a couple of times already. Will many more times be needed? You're going around in circles.

14 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

I'm just not sure why you would want to be kind to someone who is not kind to you

But they aren't unkind to me. You have a basic misunderstanding.

14 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

to think of them when you know they do not think of you. 

I don't care if they think of me, as noted. But they certainly do when I give them a gift.

A gift given in a spirit of benevolence and generosity doesn't need reciprocation. The act of giving is its own reward. You're not going to be able to understand this basic concept foreign to you, so I guess we've reached the end of the discussion.

3 minutes ago, samtam said:

They know they are appreciated, and they know who instigated it.

 

Technicians who come to fix a multitude of things, (including changing a light bulb), are employed by the Juristic, and they get a tip of about 200 to 1000 depending on what they've done. 

Wise to encourage good people to stick around. Plenty of jobs out there in their line of work.

I don't know.

Ask for information or services: 1545

find the office and call

https://postbase.thailandpost.co.th/th/service-point

head office

https://www.thailandpost.co.th/un/contact_thp/un/23

Otherwise you could roll the dice and, say, send her with a signed note in Thai requesting that she be allowed to pick it up, and attach a signed copy of your passport, and maybe your Thai DL or pink ID card.

3 hours ago, hotandsticky said:

I have also seen Farang couples holiday in Pattaya for the purpose of taking additional sexual partners.

Yep, always been true, seen quite a few w/o even going out that much over the years. Talk to the girls in the bars and they'll tell you some experiences they've had or know about

OMG. The Pattaya bashers dream thread! Let a thousand flowers bloom. 😉 

Just now, BangkokReady said:

 

Why are you happy with a one-sided relationship with someone who doesn't value you the way you value them?

I'm happy with me, and my happiness doesn't depend on others and their customs. It's part of overall self-confidence and a sense of noblesse oblige. I am large, I contain multitudes, wrote Walt Whitman.

5 hours ago, Jingthing said:

This is a bit of a concern with the doorman.

He has an odd personality.

I think if I tip he will start to do silly trivial things for me like run to the elevator to hold the door, etc.

I don't really want extra fluff attention.

I just want him to maybe be in my corner more if a real issue comes up. 

Don't tip immediately after service.

I tip the condo maids randomly every once in a while, maybe once a month, as I run into them on my way out of the condo. I just say, "tip for you!" and hand over a 100 baht note, for which I receive a gracious thank you and wai. No particular reason, I just think they work hard at their miserable jobs and have been around for years and been very honest and are of course quite poor. Why not brighten up their day a little at trivial cost to me?

Now they all love me and I get smiles all the time, notified if they see a package has come in, get my water bottle refilled by the time I get back from my beach walk, etc. Kinda nice. If I needed help with something or the other (NOT that), I know any of them would try to help.  

18 minutes ago, BangkokReady said:

What do they do to show you they care about you around Thai special holidays?  That should be a fairly good guide.

 

The more effort they make to make you feel included in their celebrations, the more effort you should go to to include them in yours.

I don't want to be included in their celebrations. Mostly they are for co-workers, friends, and extended family.

I think it's well to remind Thais that farang also have celebrations, including benevolent that encourage giving not only to friends and family but to those less fortunate and to those who are merely appreciated in some way. The act of giving is sufficient reward in itself, but it does build good will. We can all use that, intangible or not.

On 12/17/2024 at 9:36 PM, JamesPhuket10 said:

I am sure the decent Russians want to stay away from the low-life Russians of Pattaya.

Nonsense. Haven't seen any low-life Russians in Pattaya, but I don't hang out in low-life areas. Plenty of the usual respectable sorts, though, families, couples . . . .

21 hours ago, Jonathan Swift said:

How about don't preach or judge

But the aggrieved mother is preaching and judging. While doing so she missed the larger picture.

. . . urged tourists travelling to Thailand to steer clear of drugs . . . . There’s a massive drug problem out there, and you need to be really careful.

Steer clear of illegal drugs anywhere, not just in Thailand. Like all parents, including those of mass shooters, she avoids placing any blame on herself. How much did she really know about her daughter? Seems just popping out for a bag o' cocaine wasn't that big of a deal by the time she got to Khaosan Rd.

21 hours ago, Jonathan Swift said:

This has nothing to do with upbringing. Once a child becomes an adult they choose their own path, and fall under a lot of influences and temptations outside of parent's reach.

Has everything to do with it. The parameters of the path they choose, and of what bad influences and temptations they're too weak to resist, are determined by strong parental guidance in childhood. Some kids, so-called "invulnerables," can escape the influence of poor parenting and do quite well, but Rebecca wasn't one of them. Where's her father, BTW?

21 hours ago, Jonathan Swift said:

Shame on you for making such an insensitive comment.

Sad for anyone affected by your ignorance about the way things work w/ raising kids. Similarly, Mum hasn't learned a thing except "careful about them illegal drugs in Thailand!"

1 hour ago, Jaymatheson said:

Seems like the vast number of people in Thailand go into a Top Charoen or wherever and sit down for 3 minutes while the staff do a few simple tests to print out a prescription.  Assuming you don't have any complex issues, is this method practical?  I went into a local eye doctor to get a more thorough exam done and was told to just go into a store to have it done.

Typically the chain stores, and some private, won't give you a prescription unless you agree to buy the glasses from them.

15 minutes ago, Scouse123 said:

They can't even get the upload correct to your phone for the Thai driving licence.

 

Full of glitches.

The Paotang app?

6 minutes ago, Chomper Higgot said:

And yet still the crimes for which the Jury found him guilty have zilch to do with any Presidential duty.

Are you that obtuse? The point is that, after a delay for careful consideration, the judge rejected Trump's attorneys' arguments that Trump's "actions" had anything to do with presidential duty. He can do so precisely because of the limitations decreed in the SCOTUS decision. So you libs can stop lying about the decision conferring "absolute power" and the horrors to follow.

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Musk seems fighting w/ the MPs who want to censor him.

49 minutes ago, Chomper Higgot said:

What is disingenuous about the observation that the crime for which Trump has been convicted was not part of any Presidential Duty?

Yawn. Claiming this specific issue has something to do with Trump as pres-elect or his next term, when you know well it has to do with his last term and slightly previous to his last term.