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    A Humble Request To Close This Forum Section

    in Buddhism

    Posted

    Kwizz

    I am not so sure of your identity, are you?

    1. One of those dual identity posters who post views just to get a reaction from the other members.

    2. One who genuinely does care and understand about Buddhism BUT does not understand the nature of this forum.

    The majority of post that I have read are from people who want to understand and maybe learn a little more about Buddhism. In this way we can try clarify our understanding of the subject. We may or may not go on to develop a strong Buddhist belief but we are entitled to explore it.

    Many of the books on the subject are written in a “scholarly fashion” and difficult for the lay man to understand. I myself live in Ireland, the nearest Theravada Temple to me is in the UK, and there is not much chance of meeting a Buddhist Monk about these parts.

    I personally like the idea that we can ask any question on the subject and read the different replies, this surely is a healthy sign! It does improve our understanding of the subject.

    If you are genuinely offended by our ignorance of Buddhism then please contribute to help improve our understanding. If you do not wish to contribute something positive then I am sure you can find many “Genuine Buddhist” forums for your thoughts.

    As always,

    Have a Happy…

    DeDanan

    Spirits, Good And Bad

    in Buddhism

    Posted

    Hi Andy and Stroll & All,

    I am the original post on this question and before Andy’s post I did not see how siprits (good or bad) can FIT with Buddha’s teaching…. Lets not get hung up on the male/female or indeed monk part of Andy’s post But on the over view ….. That is… sh1t if I have to explain it YOU have missed the point

    However...

    Have a Happy

    DeDanan

    Farang Women

    in ASEAN NOW Community Pub

    Posted

    i wish her good luck for the future and praise the day that she left me for another man (a friend).

    i have no hard feelings whatsoever because i'm so thankful for what i have now. :o

    I was married in Ireland for 14 years, Ireland, a strong catholic country that just allowed divorce in the last 6 years, and it takes a minimum of 4 years to get a divorce.

    HISTORY,…… see Daves quote

    The main difference I notice between Thai and European women is Thai women want to support their husband in his career to offer better life for his family. European women want to have independent career of husband, this results in 2 people seeking to fulfil 2 opposing goals… some one has to loose!!

    Have a Happy...

    Dedanan

    Best Book Shops?

    in General Topics

    Posted

    I hate to disagree with OldAsiaHand ( I love his insights) but apart from meeting my GF, I love to go book shopping in Thailand, (Ok Ok half day in Pontip Plaza for software is high on my list) for me bookazine and asia books are first class. Way a head of any bookshop I have been to in Europe. Staff are courteous will help you look and when you find they will wrap it for you.

    European experience: staff are too busy with SMS to their friends to help you!!!

    I just cant wait to get to Singapore... i think i will have a big excess luggage bill !!!

    Have a Happy...

    DeDanan

    Does A Thai Girl Enjoy Reading?

    in ASEAN NOW Community Pub

    Posted

    I used to communicate with my Thai GF by email, I would tell her about my day / week and ask her some questions about her life / family. If I asked 3 questions she would only answer one. This used to frustrate me.

    On one occasion she sent me a beautiful poem (in English) that expressed our feelings and the distance between us. I was impressed! Learnt the poem off by heart.

    On my next visit to her in LoS, as we were driving down to Kho Samet, I recited the poem “with pride” … she looked at me blankly as only she can. I explained this was the beautiful poem she sent me …

    Oh!!! (She said with a goofy smile) I don’t know about this, English teacher, he give me poem!

    Land of Smiles and Laughs

    Have a Happy…

    DeDanan

    Vegetarianism and Buddhism

    in Buddhism

    Posted

    My g/f who is from KK also does not eat beef. Chicken, pork and fish is no problem. When I asked her about this she said it like a offering (tam boon) to “Kwan Yin”

    On the question of eating meet, I came across this answer from a monk.

    Questioner: Is it not the case that the one who eats meat bears the responsibility for the killing?

    Monk: Of course not. The one who eats meat a.) intends to eat, and b.) may or may not intend to eat meat. Meat is, as a matter of fact, what is being eaten. But nowhere in the mental states of our reverend gourmand is there an intention to kill.

    Have a Happy…

    DeDanan

    Divorce

    in General Topics

    Posted

    I am however rather confused as to whether to get a quick divorce or to wait as long as possible until she decides to come after me in the UK

    Go for the divorce in Thailand without delay if she is agreeable to this.

    If she does try to come after you at a later stage you will have proof that at the time of Thai divorce you were both happy to go your separate ways without major financial consideration.

    It will be seen that she has turned bitter or greedy if she tries to follow you at a later stage.

    If you decide to wait for her to come after you, then you will not sleep comfortable wondering when she will decide to divorce you.

    Chok dii,

    Have a Happy,

    DeDanan

    Hotel Manager Required

    in Pattaya

    Posted

    Hotel Manager Required

    Pattaya

    We require a Manager for a 25 room hotel in Pattaya.

    Thai National.

    Mature Female.

    Good English.

    Previous Experience.

    You can contact (pm) me here with basic details first.

    Regards,

    DeDanan

    Re-birth

    in Buddhism

    Posted

    Don't you mean 'causal' rather than 'casual' though?

    Hi Organic,

    Thanks for pointing out the mistake. I write most of my posts in MS Word because spelling is not my strong point, it must have auto corrected my attempt to casual.

    Have a Happy

    DeDanan.

    Re-birth

    in Buddhism

    Posted

    Confusion, Rebirth.

    Part of my initial problem with this subject was not understanding that there is a difference between Rebirth and Reincarnation.

    Reincarnation: The view that we have a soul imprinted with an enduring personal stamp that commutes from body to body down through the eons.

    Rebirth: The view that there is a **causal link between one life and the next, so our *Karmic accumulation conditions our next life.

    *All the “good or bad” we do in this life effects our karmic accumulation. Consider it like a bank account you can make deposits (good karma) or withdrawals (bad karma). The state of our closing balance when we check out of this life determines our opening balance in the next life. It’s not a good idea to be overdrawn or bankrupt!

    **This causal link is hard to describe, Buddhist texts give this analogy:

    The flame of a dying candle lights a new candle and then peters out. The new candle is alight but is it the same flame?

    It is actually neither the same nor a different flame, there is simply been a transference of energy from one object to another.

    PS. Stroll, sorry for my absence, I had hoped that this forum would generate discussions on many areas of Buddhist practice and belief both the simple and complex. The majority of contributors to date seem to have a in-depth understanding and I don’t want to be the one asking ALL the stupid questions!

    Have a Happy...

    DeDanan

    Men & Women's Needs

    in Jokes - Puzzles and Riddles - Make My Day!

    Posted

    Men & Women's Needs

    I never have quite figured out why the sexual urges of men & women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Mars & Venus thing. And, I never have figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart. And, I never yet have figured out how the sexual desire gene changes to a state of turmoil, when it hears the words, "I do". One evening last week, my wife and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, "I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me." I said, "WHAT?" So, she says the words that every husband on the planet dreads. She explains that I must not be in tune with her emotional needs as a Woman. I am thinking, "What was her first clue?" I finally realise that nothing is going to happen that night, so I went to sleep.

    The very next day then we went shopping at a big unnamed department store..I walked around while she tried on three very expensive outfits. She could not decide which one to take, so I told her to take all three of them. She then tells me that she wants matching shoes worth $200 each to which I say OK. Then we go to the Jewellery section where she gets a set of diamond earrings. Let me tell you ...she was so excited. She must have thought that I was one wave short of a shipwreck, but I do not think she cared. I think she was testing me when she asked for a tennis bracelet because she does not even play tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I told her that it was OK.

    She was almost sexually excited from all of this and you should have seen her face when she said, "I'm ready to go, let's go to the cash register." I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No, honey. I don't feel like buying all this stuff now." You should have seen her face ... it went completely blank. I then said, Really honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while." And just when she had this look as she was going to kill me, I added, "You must not be in tune with my financial needs as a Man." I figure that I should be having sex again sometime during the spring thaw of 2005.

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