AntRobeenson Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 My wife and I have been having a bit of a 'discussion'. Our neighbour directly opposite us died last year leaving behind a Thai wife (no kids). Being that their house is just that little bit bigger than ours and has a large lawn (huge, actually) the thought has occured to me that it would be better suited for a family (i.e. ours, especially as the boys grow). So I've got it in my head to ask the widow if she would be interested in selling. Her husband passed away about 10mths ago (she's actually still in the US now) but my wife is convinced that this would be an utterly tactless and insensitive thing to do. Therefore in the grand tradition of Internet Forums everywhere I've decided the best way to settle this is ask a bunch of anonymous strangers what they think. So then, thoughts? Would this indeed be a bit tactless/rude/insensitive? i should also mention that I'm totally whipped and scared of a confrontation with my wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingwilly Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 My wife and I have been having a bit of a 'discussion'. Our neighbour directly opposite us died last year leaving behind a Thai wife (no kids). Being that their house is just that little bit bigger than ours and has a large lawn (huge, actually) the thought has occured to me that it would be better suited for a family (i.e. ours, especially as the boys grow). So I've got it in my head to ask the widow if she would be interested in selling. Her husband passed away about 10mths ago (she's actually still in the US now) but my wife is convinced that this would be an utterly tactless and insensitive thing to do. Therefore in the grand tradition of Internet Forums everywhere I've decided the best way to settle this is ask a bunch of anonymous strangers what they think. So then, thoughts? Would this indeed be a bit tactless/rude/insensitive? i should also mention that I'm totally whipped and scared of a confrontation with my wife. mate, you'd better get onto it quick smart, an opportunity waiting, if u dont someone else will get there first ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 No, it wouldn't be tactless to just nicely ask if she's interested in selling. It would tactless to mention that since her husband is dead and she's old, you'd like to 'relieve' her of this burden. By the way, a lot of Thai people might believe the house is haunted, so it might not be a place where a lot of them want to live. Your wife might be of a similar idea, by the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest #1man Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 It is more than 6 months since her husband died so I see nothing tactless about asking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lamphun Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 You should ask for a large discount on account of the resident ghost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AntRobeenson Posted February 18, 2008 Author Share Posted February 18, 2008 You should ask for a large discount on account of the resident ghost. thank you Lamphun. I wonder if such a suggestion might not be considered a tinsy bit tactless however. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BEENTHEREDONETHAT Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 It might be a big relief to her to be able to sell, possible without returning to LOS. But then I'm not Thai so I don't know what they consider tactless. But i do believe you might be helping her through a tough time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Croc Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Has the house got a big teak door on the front? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scott Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 When it comes to money, nothing is tactless here, as near as I can tell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Croc Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Has the house got a big teak door on the front? not surprising that Old Croc would pop in and troll this thread. Have you forgotten how to spell your own name mate? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lamphun Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 What do you intend to do with your old house ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingwilly Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 What do you intend to do with your old house ? burn it down, collect the insurance! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheDon Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Dress up as a ghost at night and star roaming her backyard until she see's you. You should get the house cheap then. Nah thats cruel, just talk to her and ask her what her plans are. Dont hints like that house is big for you and drop into the chat somewhere that your looking to buy a bigger place etc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thaddeus Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Dress up as a ghost at night and star roaming her backyard until she see's you. What, when she comes back from America at weekends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Has the house got a big teak door on the front? not surprising that Old Croc would pop in and troll this thread. Have you forgotten how to spell your own name mate? Maybe he's just a poor speller or a really bad liar Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chavy Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Has the house got a big teak door on the front? not surprising that Old Croc would pop in and troll this thread. Have you forgotten how to spell your own name mate? I was wondering where I'd seen this "similar" name before Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lamphun Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 I don't know what kind of trouble you're trying to cause. The fellow was only asking for advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chavy Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Not tactless, after a few months left to grieve her loss perhaps she'd like a fresh strat in a different location. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 I don't know what kind of trouble you're trying to cause. The fellow was only asking for advice. Fair enough Honestly, if it were me, I would sit down, have a heart to heart with the wife, grovel a tad, and, after presenting her with a nice new mobile phone (or other expensive present) suggest buying the house off the widow. You might try coming up with some really good arguing points about why the widow would most likely want to sell, stresing how much better it would be for her if someone kind like yourself took the house off her hands. But then, the widow may not be interested in selling. You'll never know until you ask her. Or at least, until your wife lets you ask her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
November Rain Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 I don't see how it could possibly be tactless to ask her plans (ie if she will be staying in the US). If the answer is affirmative, then you can always ask her to keep you in mind, should she ever want to sell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingwilly Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 I don't know what kind of trouble you're trying to cause. The fellow was only asking for advice. Fair enough Honestly, if it were me, I would sit down, have a heart to heart with the wife, grovel a tad, and, after presenting her with a nice new mobile phone (or other expensive present) suggest buying the house off the widow. You might try coming up with some really good arguing points about why the widow would most likely want to sell, stresing how much better it would be for her if someone kind like yourself took the house off her hands. But then, the widow may not be interested in selling. You'll never know until you ask her. Or at least, until your wife lets you ask her good idea, after all, all thai women love trinkets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
watdog Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 (edited) hi ant -- i really like your avatar. are you religious? i hope so because i really like your av. Edited February 18, 2008 by watdog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mossfinn Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 I don't know what kind of trouble you're trying to cause. The fellow was only asking for advice. I agree, he has every right to come over here and get some descent advice Moss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mistresserika Posted February 19, 2008 Share Posted February 19, 2008 I fail to see where it says that the neighbour died in the house, or even in Thailand. I got the impression that he died in the US, so it's doubtful if the ghost would want to return to Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blizzard Posted February 19, 2008 Share Posted February 19, 2008 y not trade. yr house plus cash for her house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChiangmaiLoon Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 If the neighbour died in the house you might suggest to the widow that you'll knock the place down and build anew. This may put her mind at rest. I myself am building a very nice house around the core of an old house where I believe a number of people may have died. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abdulrahman Posted February 22, 2008 Share Posted February 22, 2008 If the neighbour died in the house you might suggest to the widow that you'll knock the place down and build anew. This may put her mind at rest. I myself am building a very nice house around the core of an old house where I believe a number of people may have died. Too long in Thailand? Don't need to rebuild the house,a new Spirit house should do the job! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zpete Posted February 23, 2008 Share Posted February 23, 2008 I don't know what kind of trouble you're trying to cause. The fellow was only asking for advice. I agree, he has every right to come over here and get some descent advice Moss Moss, ya mean ask the guys kids? That mite be tactless. BTW, I would not consider it tactless to ask me, soon after I die. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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