rattanaporn2513 Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Hi, I am 39 years old Female:Thai. I am not a Bar girl, Separated from my Thai Husband for a year, we are still friend cause we have business together, but for business we agreed to share 40% cash to me. He has a new Thai girl friend too. I met a Canadian guy by chat on the internet, I think I like him a lot , we exchange our photos, (we never see each other face to face) Next month he needs me to visit him in Canada, I feel exciting but feel cold and scare a bit. (he will buy me a return flight ticket). Can someone instruct me about Canada or who has experienced about this story? Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkkjames Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 I wouldn't go visit anybody base on what i saw on the internet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Don't know about Canada but my advice would be 1) have a back up plan in place, make sure you keep enough money in a separate place in case thing don't turn out well & you need to get home or take care of yourself until you can arrange to come home. 2)make sure you register your whereabouts with the thai embassy as soon as you arrive in case of any problems. 3) make sure your family have all of this guys contact info & if possible find a friend or family member of friends living in Canada & ask for an introduction, a friend there who knows about the place will be invaluable. 4) Take a lot of warm clothes. Have a good time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spoonman Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 The guy in Canada, is his name Harris Black ?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rattanaporn2513 Posted January 8, 2010 Author Share Posted January 8, 2010 Thank you very much for all intructions, I will do and consider about it. and he is not Harris Black (I hope) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matan Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) I would be extremely nervous about going to visit a guy I had never met, in his home country! What if I send you a photo of a handsome man on the internet and tell you to come visit me in Bangkok? Will you do that? How can any of you even be suggesting she goes ahead and does this? She's only seen photos of this guy, how does she even know it's really him? Yet you suggest she hop on a plane and go have a good time? Are you really that blind to sex slavery? What sort of man will see 3 photos of a thai woman, chat with her for a bit, then spend $1000 on air fare? DO NOT GO. Edited January 8, 2010 by Matan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 How can any of you even be suggesting she goes ahead and does this? She's only seen photos of this guy, how does she even know it's really him? Yet you suggest she hop on a plane and go have a good time? umm she is a 39 year old woman & isn't asking permission to go & as such no one has suggested she "hop on a plane", she has already made up her mind & is only asking advice on going. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matan Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Well, if she's made up her mind, the best of luck to her! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MRDave Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 Be careful, how do you no he is not a people trafficker you could end up in a room forced to have sex with men while the gangsters take the money and beat you . best make him visit you first, then take his photo and give it to your family in case something did happen, a girl from my city Newcastle went to Holland for a job she was forced to work in the sex industry for years and they put a gun to her head and beat her and she was English. Im not saying this will happen to you but someone wants to pay your airticket and you have never met! sounds wrong to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GrahamF Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 OP, If you are determined to go, I would suggest a few things. First, if you have not done so, have a video chat with your friend and this might give you an idea that he is who he says he is. This is easily done via msn messenger and it's free. Second, might be worth it to try contacting the Canadian embassy in BKK before going and see what they have to say. Maybe, even getting his passport number and passing it on to them as well. I agree with the others that you should register with the Thai embassy in Canada. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WeeGB Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 There is no way that you should go to Canada, based on what you've written here. I also wouldn't put too much faith in the Thai embassy there, if it's anything like the Thai embassy in the Uk - which is hopeless, they don't answer the phone, reply to messages or emails. Is there a reason he can't come to Thailand to meet you? The cost to him would be about the same, and you'd be far safer, on your home territory, plus your family would get chance to get a good look at him, and give you advice. I accept that you're 39, and not a child, but you could end up in real danger here. How much English do you speak? Enough to get yourself out of any unforeseen trouble? Sorry, but I can't see any decent man offering to pay for your trip, without there being some comeback on your part. Nothing is free, there is always a price to pay somewhere down the line. Stay safe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patsycat Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) Agree with both sides of the answers above. If it was me, I wouldn't do it. Get him to come to see you. If he can afford to send you a ticket to go see him, he can afford a ticket to come and see you. I had a friend who had a blind date here in my home town - before she went to the meeting she made sure that we all knew where she was going, we sent a male friend along to spy on the date. Turned out ok - but to do almost the same thing half way around the world gives me the heeby jeebies!! Please be careful, there are a lot of strange people out there. Me included Edited January 8, 2010 by Patsycat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mxr Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) Sounds like a dirty guy to me.... somebody hungry for **** I can assure you 100% you are not the only girl he has "invited" or is chatting to, he probbaly has a long list of girls, whoever is stupid or desperate enough to go will probably be shagged and dumped, then he will move onto the next girl. Wheenver a guy is on a dating website, he will generally have from 5 - 15 girls all lined up, he will shag the first one that puts out... good luck! Edited January 9, 2010 by sbk lets keep it clean, thanks--sbk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mxr Posted January 8, 2010 Share Posted January 8, 2010 There is no way that you should go to Canada, based on what you've written here. I also wouldn't put too much faith in the Thai embassy there, if it's anything like the Thai embassy in the Uk - which is hopeless, they don't answer the phone, reply to messages or emails. Is there a reason he can't come to Thailand to meet you? The cost to him would be about the same, and you'd be far safer, on your home territory, plus your family would get chance to get a good look at him, and give you advice. I accept that you're 39, and not a child, but you could end up in real danger here. How much English do you speak? Enough to get yourself out of any unforeseen trouble? Sorry, but I can't see any decent man offering to pay for your trip, without there being some comeback on your part. Nothing is free, there is always a price to pay somewhere down the line. Stay safe. Price to pay? he will demand SEX for the airfare, come on, grow up! What, he will accept a hug and kiss? I dont think so, for $1000, he will want bjs galore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rattanaporn2513 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 Thanks again for all advices, I have think about it, It's hard for me. Because I has no friend to talk, my parents are died last year. I do have sisters (which is selfish and greedy), I think if I have someone to take care of me (mainly support me). May be I am wrong?????? If I am not try it, how I know it?? (silly thinking.......) I will think harder and prolong our relationship. Thanks again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spoonman Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Why not suggest to him to fly out here first ?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WeeGB Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Thanks again for all advices,I have think about it, It's hard for me. Because I has no friend to talk, my parents are died last year. I do have sisters (which is selfish and greedy), I think if I have someone to take care of me (mainly support me). May be I am wrong?????? If I am not try it, how I know it?? (silly thinking.......) I will think harder and prolong our relationship. Thanks again After reading this, you definitely should NOT go to Canada. Especially if you've told your boyfriend there, that you're all alone. Who is going to help you if you get in trouble in Canada? You have no friends, parents and sisters that you don't get on with? Do not rely on the Thai embassy. If your boyfriend won't come to Thailand and meet you here, then don't go there. You're still young, you can meet someone else. The more I read about you, the more I think you'd be in danger, if you went to Canada. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rattanaporn2513 Posted January 9, 2010 Author Share Posted January 9, 2010 Many thanks again, I decide not to go there, he better come to see me in Thailand. I very gratefull to all advices. you all kind to me. Thanks, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bushwacker Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Many thanks again,I decide not to go there, he better come to see me in Thailand. I very gratefull to all advices. you all kind to me. Thanks, I think you have made a very good decision. It would not be smart to go to canada for many reasons. I am interested to know how old this guy is, where he lives and what he says he does for a living? Did you know that canada is 20 times larger than thailand? It is winter in Canada now and let me tell you that is a huge shock to any thai if they had to experience it. I agree that you would get next to no help from either the thai embassy or the canadian embassy. In fact there is only one embassy in canada located in Ottawa (terrible winters there) and a few satalite consolutes in the rest of the country. Their function is to generate business for thailand so forget about using them for safety. I agree with some of the suggestions about this guy having several ladies on the go at once and looking for somebody to take the bait. Believe me (i am canadian), it is not normal for a canadian man to chat or email a few times and send a plane ticket for a young lady. This is not our culture. If he were a good canadian man then he would want to be talking to you on MSN with a cam and after many months of chatting would come to thailand to visit you. Canadians are very conservative and generally do not like risk. The story you have told does not describe a typical canadian. So i would suggest that either he is not or is maybe a recently arrived canadian. If it sounds to good to be true then it probably is not true! The other issue is money. Everything is very expensive in Canada. You would not have health care. You step off the airplane and you need about 12000baht for clothes to walk to the taxi. A trip to the doctor would cost you 1000s of baht and we do not want to even talk about what it would cost for a non-canadian to go to the hospital. So what real, honest canadian is going to look after you after spending a few hours emailing you ???? Sorry to say but i see only problems and danger in your story. It really sounds to me that this guy is looking for a delivered to his home ... sex holiday or worse. Last time i looked at a round trip ticket to Canada it was over $2000 and we are almost at par with the US$ .... so he has some payback in mind. MAJOR PAYBACK! Be very careful .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mxr Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Thanks again for all advices,I have think about it, It's hard for me. Because I has no friend to talk, my parents are died last year. I do have sisters (which is selfish and greedy), I think if I have someone to take care of me (mainly support me). May be I am wrong?????? If I am not try it, how I know it?? (silly thinking.......) I will think harder and prolong our relationship. Thanks again Greedy and jealous sisters? Dead parents? No friends? Are you Cinderella??? looking for your prince.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPQR Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 OP, You seem very direct and open, also nice, and trusting of others. That means this: You are trustworthy and a safe person to be with. Caution has been called to you by many people in this thread. First you were open in your feelings to ge visit. Then you gave some thought to words of caution and changed your mind. Maybe this Canadian Man is real, and worth your interest. Maybe he is not real, and you should avoid. Can this help? : Copy this entire forum thread, starting with what you say first, all the way through to the end, paste it into eMail to him. Ask him what he thinks. Can he help you to know more about him, to see more surely who he is and what situation is there in Canada with him. He has many ways to put himself in more open view to you or other people who you trust. He can help you to verify that he is legitimate and a safe person. You can tell something about him as a person if he is positive and helpful or if he is negative and defensive about this. A canadian man knows the world very well. He knows all about dangers in internet meetings. He can be understanding and show great intelligence, or he can be secretive and show great creepiness. I wish you happiness SPQR Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tywais Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 Can this help? : Copy this entire forum thread Bit simpler if she just e-mailed a link to this topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benjie Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 I wouldn't let him pay for the ticket, if you want to go pay for the ticket yourself if you can. Letting him pay for the ticket surely sets the scene, he may have expectations not in line with your own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted January 9, 2010 Share Posted January 9, 2010 OP has already stated her intention to not go. Given that and that any further advice would be superfluous //CLOSED// Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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