People just tend to reflect your behaviour, from their perspective. If they think that you are being rude, they might feed that back to you. If they think that you are being evasive, they may tell you so. There's no right or wrong as such. We all found ways, personal to us, to deal with our environments. Here, in a sandbox, they are put to the test. You tell me what you think. I tell you what I think and we battle it out. For me, this is absolutely normal behaviour. What do you do in the gym? You create resistance exercises to make you stronger. That is what we do here. We create resistance exercises for each other. We both stand our ground and argue our points. You mostly cheat 😊 but that's okay. You learn cheating is not an admirable trait. It slows your learning. I also learn things from discussions and behaviour here. You might imagine that I'm taking notes, but that is not the case at all. If you are perceptive, you pick up on important details. If you tend to be self absorbed, you will perceive the world differently. So here, our worlds collide and that's okay. We can talk about it, thrash it out, without the threat of physical harm. Instead, you need to use your brain. My background is likely quite different from yours, and perhaps also quite similar. Brought up in different countries, exposed to many different cultures and influences. Knife and hammer throwing and catching as a child with the Chinese. Wrestling with the Indians. Jiu-jitsu and Aikido with the Japanese. But always shied away from violence. Mainly because I was scared what might happen to the other person and thought about the consequences for both of us. That's why I vehemently disagree with your ideas for using violence to control. I'd rather argue with you all day, rather than to physically harm you. Give you time to come to your senses, rather than to do something stupid that might change your life forever. That way we learn to do it differently, over time. Practice makes perfect. You can continue to mistrust and repeat the same behaviour or learn to let go a bit and allow things to change. You can say whatever you think. That's okay with me. If I think you are wrong, I'll say so. All of this "Troll" and "Baiting" nonsense is just weakness. Talk it out and be honest with yourself. You know when you are avoiding a question or a subject. Pretending the other person is doing so when you know that you are doing it, is cheating. We need solid reference points, not cheaters. Cheaters upset the balance and confuse the situation. Be more honest with yourself and you will automatically be more honest with the outside world. Personally, I value honesty over a username. Whereas you seem to be more concerned with how you look. I don't care about that. I'm just doing what I'm doing at that time. Once that is done, I move on to something else. It doesn't define me. It's just the interaction that occurs when certain characters collide. The great thing is that you need to use your brains to solve the problems, rather than your fists. New skills. Sometimes, in order to gain something, you need to let something go.
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