Uk Guy Just Wants His Thai Girl Home

[mark131]

Hi all, I have joined this forum in order for me to get more information regarding bringing my thai girlfriend to the uk legally. First a little bit of background info. I first visited thailand in april of 2003 for about 20 days, and really enjoyed my time there, the people the culture the weather, need i go on? I visited with a friend of mine who had travelled around thailand for about a year and wanted to go back for a 'quick visit'. Most of the holiday he complained that it ' wasn't as good as the first time' and having been there twice myslef i can agree. Anyway after coming back to the uk (not having met anybody special) I decieded to try and learn some thai, so of i went to the local thai restuarant where i was told firmly by the thai manager that it was ' to hard' and that I would 'give up'. I explained that i had been to thailand before and was very eager to learn, and after 10 minutes of talking he agreed to teach me on one condition, that the following day i would come to the restuarant and recite the full name of bangkok (32 words) in thai. He then gave me a piece of paper with a romanised version of it and he gave me 10 minutes instruction on pronuntiation. well needless to say i completed the task with no problems and I have been learning thai slowly for about a year. I have made some thai friends here, mostly students through connections with the restuarant and meet up with them as often as possible. (i am 26 y.o.) . Anyway after being told by my work that I must take three weeks holiday in feb I decieded to go back to thailand. I arrived on the 5th of feb very happy and spent a few days in bangkok. Then i moved down to pattaya and it is there that i met pim, I will not go into details but i will say we both enjoy each others company very much. We spent a week together and i had the best time of my life with her. At the end of the week she asked me if she could go to the uk with me to which i replied 'NO way i don't know you'. so we parted company and i spent about 10 more days in thailand before going back to bkk airport. At which point I decieded that i missed pim very much and wanted to see her again. I could not get hold of her at the airport so i waited till i got home to phone her and she was very happy to hear i had changed my mind.So now I will send her some money every month and that's really where i am now, i have looked at the visa situation(which is bleak) i don't think she would get a visitor's visa even if i sponsored her (though I may be wrong) I would appreciate any advice anybody could give me on what to do next I have looked at all the ukvisa, bangkok embassy websites but they don't really answer my questions. Thank you in advance of any help given. Mark

[andy50]

where did you meet her in the first place mark ?what is her occupation ?

[penelope]

If Pim has a good job, tertiary education, a house/land etc.. then she should go down to the embassy and fill in a form.Simple !! If she is "not of that calibre" you may have to masquerade/facade the situation a bit.

[dr_Pat_Pong]

If Pim has a good job, tertiary education, a house/land etc.. then she should go down to the embassy and fill in a form.Simple !! If she is "not of that calibre" you may have to masquerade/facade the situation a bit.

Jeez....he knew her for one week... getting her a visitors visa would need all of these things, and even then, it is a tough one.

[pnustedt]

Technically, if Pim wants to visit the UK as a tourist for a few weeks and she has, or can obtain, the means to support herself there is no reason why she should not do so.

The problem is that she would need to convince the UK immigration dept. that this is the reason for her visit and that she is going to return to LOS. There may be a credibility problem here. Maybe better to wait a bit, build your case (keep phone/payment records, etc., photos), and approach the subject together when you are next in LOS.

There are a number of previous threads on this subject which you may find useful.

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Technically, if Pim wants to visit the UK as a tourist for a few weeks and she has, or can obtain, the means to support herself there is no reason why she should not do so.

The problem is that she would need to convince the UK immigration dept. that this is the reason for her visit and that she is going to return to LOS. There may be a credibility problem here. Maybe better to wait a bit, build your case (keep phone/payment records, etc., photos), and approach the subject together when you are next in LOS.

There are a number of previous threads on this subject which you may find useful.

You are very correct. The Embassy would laugh her out with a relationship history of a week only. A bit more history needed, and history with records as you suggest.

[Aguanga]

sounds like you are easily falling for a black hole! Travel more, see more girls and enjoy life! Dont do things too fast buddy!

[mark131]

Thanks to everybody who replied to my question, I have been thinking over the last couple of days on this problem and I have reached the conclusion that it would be just too difficult to get pim to the uk in what i would call a resonable time. She does not have any land/houses and she is a bargirl. Although I do not have a problem with this it seems to make her coming here very difficult for me indeed. My health is suffering quite badly I am not sleeping more than 4 hours a day and not eating because of the worry of the situation. I cannot continue this situation for x amount of months. i guess i will just have to consider myself lucky that i had some good days with pim in thailand and tell her the bad news. I have not as yet sent any monies to her not really do i feel happy doing so. Thankyou all very much for your comments and help. Mark

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Thanks to everybody who replied to my question, I have been thinking over the last couple of days on this problem and I have reached the conclusion that it would be just too difficult to get pim to the uk in what i would call a resonable time. She does not have any land/houses and she is a bargirl. Although I do not have a problem with this it seems to make her coming here very difficult for me indeed. My health is suffering quite badly I am not sleeping more than 4 hours a day and not eating because of the worry of the situation. I cannot continue this situation for x amount of months. i guess i will just have to consider myself lucky that i had some good days with pim in thailand and tell her the bad news. I have not as yet sent any monies to her not really do i feel happy doing so. Thankyou all very much for your comments and help. Mark

Good luck Mark

[mark131]

Thank you kind sir.

[pnustedt]

Are you for real Mark? One moment you miss her so much you can't sleep, eat, etc. and with the next breath, because you've hit a hurdle, you are going to dump her!

Guess you'd better stick with your Sharons and Tracys next time!

[mark131]

In reply to your comments the reason I am not sleeping eating is because of the stress of organising the money, visa, family, etc I've only known the girl a couple of weeks after all!

[pnustedt]

I've only known the girl a couple of weeks after all!

So what's the problem? Why even bother posting in the first place?

No doubt Pim can say it's just another lousy Farang who made her all sorts of promises without the means to see them thru'. You've had your two weeks of fun and back to Sharon and Tracey then.

Good luck Mark - but I don't think that you deserve it!

[markt]

Then i moved down to pattaya and it is there that i met pim, I will not go into details but i will say we both enjoy each others company very much. We spent a week together and i had the best time of my life with her.

That's what they're there for.

[pnustedt]

That's what they're there for.

"They" - I thought there was only one Pim?

[andy50]

if at first you dont succeed----give up

[markt]

"They" - I thought there was only one Pim?

Didn't we all. Then we have a stroll through the Royal Garden Plaza and soon realize there are many Pims.

[eric1000]

Thanks to everybody who replied to my question, I have been thinking over the last couple of days on this problem and I have reached the conclusion that it would be just too difficult to get pim to the uk

the reality is that the UK embassy have seen and continue to see millions of guys and gals you like who become infatuated with thailand and thai gals , most dont last 5 minutes when back in the UK .

take my advice and fall for a gal from HongKong or Malaysia where it is a bit easier to get her to the UK. and they speak fairly good english .

the embassy have heard zillions of horror stories where guys have been ripped off and turned over by bargirls and ordinary thai gals . some have pimps pulling their strings.

so they are very wary about these holiday relationships .

go to google.com and do a newsgroup search in the soc.culture.thai newsgroup use the right keywords and see the stories . there have been many many guys like you before

[mark131]

Thanks guys for the advice, Guess my three week holiday got the better of me....

[dr_Pat_Pong]

Thanks guys for the advice, Guess my three week holiday got the better of me....

Mark got the better of us...A TROLLER

[slim]

I've posted this on another thread but if anyone missed it and for those people who think its simple getting a Thai girl to the Uk read this...........

I'm living in N.E. Thailand with my Thai fiancee and we went to the British Embassy last week for an interview for a visa for her so we could go to the Uk in April so I could have a much needed operation and possibly get married at the same time.

The interviewer told my girlfriend that she (the interviewer) was busy and didn't have lot of time so she (my fiancee) was to answer questions and not ask them.

My girl took with her a folder with every single bill and receipt I've spent since I've been living in Khon Kaen, copies of the deeds and land registry of our house in her name, copies of the finance agreement of our new car in her name, copies of the birth certificate of her 10 year old daughter who lives with us, a copy of the letter from our solicitors (Tilleke & Gibbins) about them acting for us to secure a Marriage Visa in oder for me to stay with her in Thailand and even pictures of our 6 month old shitzu dog.

The application was refused on the grounds that "you have stated you intend to settle in the Uk with your boyfriend and we are satisfied that you do not intend to leave the UK on completion of your stay". She said nothing of the kind.

There is a box on the refusal form for my girls comments about the decision which is blank because she was not asked to comment.

There is a statement on the refusal form that says "The contents have been translated to me in Thai" - they weren't.

She was then asked to sign a form written in English that she couldn't understand - so naturally she refused to sign - she was told by a Thai colleague of the interviewer that is was "mai samkhan" - not important.

I've looked for an emoticon to describe how I feel but they don't quite fit.

[hauyee]

Hi all, I have joined this forum in order for me to get more information regarding bringing my thai girlfriend to the uk legally. First a little bit of background info. I first visited thailand in april of 2003 for about 20 days, and really enjoyed my time there, the people the culture the weather, need i go on? I visited with a friend of mine who had travelled around thailand for about a year and wanted to go back for a 'quick visit'. Most of the holiday he complained that it ' wasn't as good as the first time' and having been there twice myslef i can agree. Anyway after coming back to the uk (not having met anybody special) I decieded to try and learn some thai, so of i went to the local thai restuarant where i was told firmly by the thai manager that it was ' to hard' and that I would 'give up'. I explained that i had been to thailand before and was very eager to learn, and after 10 minutes of talking he agreed to teach me on one condition, that the following day i would come to the restuarant and recite the full name of bangkok (32 words) in thai. He then gave me a piece of paper with a romanised version of it and he gave me 10 minutes instruction on pronuntiation. well needless to say i completed the task with no problems and I have been learning thai slowly for about a year. I have made some thai friends here, mostly students through connections with the restuarant and meet up with them as often as possible. (i am 26 y.o.) . Anyway after being told by my work that I must take three weeks holiday in feb I decieded to go back to thailand. I arrived on the 5th of feb very happy and spent a few days in bangkok. Then i moved down to pattaya and it is there that i met pim, I will not go into details but i will say we both enjoy each others company very much. We spent a week together and i had the best time of my life with her. At the end of the week she asked me if she could go to the uk with me to which i replied 'NO way i don't know you'. so we parted company and i spent about 10 more days in thailand before going back to bkk airport. At which point I decieded that i missed pim very much and wanted to see her again. I could not get hold of her at the airport so i waited till i got home to phone her and she was very happy to hear i had changed my mind.So now I will send her some money every month and that's really where i am now, i have looked at the visa situation(which is bleak) i don't think she would get a visitor's visa even if i sponsored her (though I may be wrong) I would appreciate any advice anybody could give me on what to do next I have looked at all the ukvisa, bangkok embassy websites but they don't really answer my questions. Thank you in advance of any help given. Mark

keep you relationship go on ,and get to know her more .but frist you need to know is.

1...relationship

2.keep everything about you and her

3.if she can 't support her safe but mayby you can support her

4.tell her to find another job

5.tell her about you

Good luck.

[the scouser]

Please don't rake up threads which are not only over 3 years old, but were started by admitted trolls. The OP hasn't been with us since April 2004, so advice now is rather redundant.

Closed.

Scouse.