bkkbound04

so if a father carries out the same actions because of his hormones/testosterone then it's an equally excuseable act??

or is it only women that can apply for the "get out of jail free" card?

imo fact of the matter is, if anybody kills another person then it can be argued that they are "not right in the head" so should any murderers be punnished? how about cannibals..studies have shown that a common trait among those that carry out the act of eating another human being(along with some sexual/violent offenders etc) have some frontal lobe damage to the brain

...should they be excused for their actions? modern medicine has shown they suffer from a form of brain damage...should they be accountable? where's the cut off point where we say you take responsibilities for your actions however heinous they are?

the mother should be sent to a secure mental unit...there won't be much help but at least it protects the general public from the next time she gets angry

it's sometimes easy to find an excuse for murderers(that's what the defense lawyer is for)..most have had something traumatic happen in their past but the majority of people that have had past trauma(& it's a lot, ranging across a wide scale) don't go out and kill people..and a baby is the most precious gift on the earth

i hope the wee lad didn't suffer too much, my bloods boiling just thinking about it

...off tangent a bit but i met a farang ratbag in thailand that admitted in a fit of anger/rage that he held a child over a balcony 10 floors up...the guy had a lot of grief and stress and thankfully the baby was physically fine...but does that excuse his actions or is it reason enough that he shouldn't be punnished? where's the cut off for taking responsibility for our actions? if in a fit of rage after being provoked if i were to kill somebody would that be ok? if i said that "i've had a lot of stress lately and just snapped" would that excuse my actions or make me less accountable for them?

i imagine some on here believe it does but imho that's not the case...yeah give the girl some help if she needs it or if it improves her mental health but first things first, lock her up

well with no foreign substance i'd imagine this was either a panic or anxiety attack

OR...

the testing conducted for the innumerable substances which could potentially cause this were inadequate or incorrect or both.

or it's pure scandal lol why would the driver try to drug her to have his sordid way only to stop half way through drugging her to let her go and report it to the police and then have potential evidence gathered on the drugs the driver tried to use on the passenger lol

i'd also say if the story's true then she'd have shown some trace...if the drug was strong enough to nearly knock her out then immediate testing would have shown something or at the very least a medical report to back up half of this claim i.e unco-ordinated, dilated pupils etc etc

as it is there's nowt but the story that the guy stopped as soon as she asked...hardly sinister eh?

well with no foreign substance i'd imagine this was either a panic or anxiety attack

seems like a scandal thread lol

so she expects a guy to be disciplined for touching a part of his car yet stopping when she requested lol hi-so thai or paranoid farang?

late 20's same age as my wife, it can happen to anybody, age is another excuse for these women acting as they do...if they weren't content and comfortable with the age gap before marriage then why the change when the ring's on the finger?

i prefer a nice caffreys to a guiness so i'll go with that lol i could add a couple more but as u say no excuses lol

i'm sorry for posting so frequently in this thread but it's 1 of the first times i've opened up

r.e woman needs the cure/help

i want to add that we take for granted that all people in the west have picture perfect lives..that's not the case at all but to use your life as an excuse for acting in a crap way in any culture/nationality is a poor excuse

i hung about with the wrong crowd for a while, i wasn't an angel and i didn't get the schooling i should have...however does that give me an excuse to act in a crap manner? not in my book & as i made changes and turned around for the better, i know it's easy if you want it..to just blame the past and use it as a scapegoat to explain crap behaviour isn't a valid reason in my book..it's just the easiest excuse that will pull on your heart strings again

imho bottom line is if somebody treated my kid the way i've been treated by my missus i wouldn't be happy at all and all the excuses in the world about why the person is an ahole won't change the fact that they're still an ahole..nor would it make it acceptable behaviour

...just to add i considered my wife had sufered from pnd and looked into it but in all honesty that's just trying to find symtoms to match her personality traits, it's an empathatic approach to consider all options but imho there comes a time when you have to say is this working, is this real? is this 50/50 or even close

i'm at the opposite end of te spectrum in that i'm not even thinking of another relationship i just want to rediscover myself and take care of my wee1, i've made more sacrifices for my wife than i'd ever have thought i'd make and it's like pishing in the wind..it just fuels the idea that i'm a mug and easy pickings...bottom line is kid or not if my missus was non thai we'd have finished a long time ago

i always think i'll do the right thing by her but that's me being kind and kinda muggish lol that is when considering the way she actually is with me

please don't take this the wrong way but i didn't need a trophy wife however my other half seems to think that's the case lol & again take it with a pinch of salt as it's the net but i was a happy, outgoing, good looking fella before i ended up in this mess...i used to get scouted from modelling agencies all the time & maybe that was my downfall assuming i was in a different relationship with being the same age group and quite desirable(lol please don't think i'm trying to big myself up though as i now look and feel a mess but i guess i've allowed it to happen with the love for my wee1 and trying to do the right thing lol)...everything was rosey until my wife got pregnant and hindsight being 20/20 i guess that's when she had her hooks in and that's when the problems started lol <deleted> my situation's a mess lol not trying to rile you up or dampen your spirits by just trying to show that it could be worse & that being nice doesn't always work lol i'm in the situation where she's a few months off of getting ilr but do i really wanna go along with the sham any longer for me or or for my wee1

whatever happens i hope you find peace and i'm sending you best wishes

i'm in a similar boat and i'm thinking it through now

my wife does a wee bit more than your partner but it only seems to about bettering her own options

there's no relationship and i get the silent treatment as well..until she wants to talk again, i don't feel like i'm in a relationship and at times it's more like living with a stranger but as yourself it's difficult when a child is involved..my other half has agreed with me that the relationship isn't going anywhere and is quite happy for me to look after our toddler...would cramp her style and get in the way of her plans i guess..she made me laugh when she suggested that she needed a day to herself once a week and thought it was a normal request lol

i bought into the promises of wanting to be a family etc etc....i've fulfilled all the promises i made to her but i just feel like i've been taken for a mug...what to do?

lol probably not much help here m8 but just wanted to post my own wee bit and let u know you're not alone

i appreciate my post isn't the most upbeat but it's honest and i hope it makes a change from trying to lay the blame at your feet like some posters on here have a hobby for

whatever happens i hope you find happiness and peace

sending best wishes

a scalpel/sharp knife should allow you to cut the slabs down to the size you need..the slabs are quite costly though so it would be an expensive way of making the cubes

use as large a reservoir as possible for mixing and feeding your plants, this will help with the water temperature( cooler) and you're also less likely to have large swings in your ph and e.c

never feed the dose recomended, always give less and add more when needed..best to measure the salts with an e.c meter, if you are using ro water it will give you a neutral base so any salts added should just be your nutrients

silicone is a good additive in hyroponics

happy gardening

there seems to be a lot of false alarms with the warning system, something that seemed to be a freak accident is now being treated as a common occurance

it's like the buoy that cried wolf and while i pray these words never come true i imagine plenty of false alarms and then the public/authorities not acting on a real threat and the same disaster playing out

how many times are people going to evacuate their homes in a state of fear for false alrms before they decide it's just gonna be another false alarm, the authorities over there seem very lazy and slack, i just hope there's never a repeat performance

lol keep shopping

they should sell them as they are pretty standard for torches, try homepro or similar if they have them in hua hin

atb

most muay thai gyms based outside of thailand will have a thai flag on display, when you think how many gyms there are globally that's a lot of flags

condolences to the pilot's family, he was a hero & saved many lives

RIP

i think memorial is quite reasonable and a good service i had to go there to get some xrays etc when i came off the bike

bkk pattaya...steer well clear..possibly my worst experience in a hospital ever & within minutes of recieiving stitches after an operation i was marched round to pay my bill lol i'm not joking it was disgusting treatment

hope u make a speedy recovery

yeah sorry about that joe, i should have added that comment..you have nothing to fear and they won't lock you up or keep u in the country etc...it's actually more common than you might think but due to the stigma attached to mental health it's still an uncomfortable subject to talk about for many people...but it's pretty common and certainly isn't rare or untreatable

get help and be well

all the best

you're a uk national m8 and whilst i know some things can change with being away i would imagine if you've paid ni/tax up until 06 u should be cool..at the very least you'll definately get to see a gp and be given a script that may help you..it will help but won't be a instant relief as the meds have to take action

the longer you are in the uk the more help u will get..i don't know if you'll have problems but as a brit u will definately be allowed back into the country and access to a gp/meds

counselling/therapy in the uk is difficult in that again unless you're going private then you'd be extremely fortunate to get the frequency of help that you're thining of..there's few too many therapists working with the nhs and private treatment is expenive..however you'll have all the charities, samaratans etc and more specific mental health groups that u can call for somebody to talk to

get help though and what ever you do don't act on the suicidal thoughts, you will get better m8

i'm sending you best wishes and happy thoughts

& this may seem trivial but try and watch more comedy's or something that will make u laugh, may seem impossible with how u feel at present but if you can lighten your mood even a wee bit then it'll offer relief, read osm funny jokes, watch some funny videos, listen to your favourite music and if you don't already then try some exercise..diet & sleep is also important too so if you try and address each wee issue it can all add up to making you feel a bit better lol what i mean is if you're feeling low already and not eating, sleeping well then this will just amlipfy your low mood..can feel like being stuck between a rock and a hard place with having less energy etc but by forcing yourself to eat well & sleep etc it can be the wee changes that allow you to deal with what's on your mind

here's a wee site that may help to talk about how you're feeling, you will get some trolls there but c'est la vie

a site like that(doesn't need to be that1 ) may offer you some advice and relief until you make your way back to the uk

http://www.uncommonforum.com/index.php

i hope this finds you feeling a bit better, as hard as it sounds keep smiling & don't ever give up

sending best wishes

these 2 should be sentanced, as educated girls especially with regard to the law they were fully aware of the consequences of their actions and should now face them, it's typical british media where if a lawyer stabs somebody they should be hailed a hero and champion of the people and be discharged however in the same circumstances if a bricklayer or roadsweeper acted the same they could expect to be branded a yob etc etc and given a very long sentance..

corruption seems more evident in pattaya than other parts of thaialnd i've stayed in

sex industry is too widespread, in other areas in thailand it's easier to avoid these places by not visiting the area..pattaya you'd end up on sukhumvit if you tried to avoid the sex shops/bars

sex tourists and their belief that it's acceptable just because people have always sold their body for sex and thai people need the money

wild dogs roaming the streets and attacking people

amount of paedophilies that travel to pattaya and surrounding areas, always in the pattaya news & i caught the same 1 twice, took him to the police and he was let off...so there's many many more that are on the streets and active

that's my experience with the place it's a haven for dregs and after watching as a paedo was let off by the police that was enough for me lol unsurprisingly when i mentioned it to other farang they weren't that bothered...anybody that can remain in such a city is of questionable morals lol no doubt that will offend some but it's the truth

hi dmax

check out coolthaihouse as was posted above, it's quite informative and there are plenty of posts from people like yourself who have documented their build from start to finish with many of your questions answered and it will also give some tips & pointers

if i can offer some advice i would recommend just holding the land, construction costs will always be substantially cheaper in thailand(than the west) yet the longer you wait the more your land is worth, the area will have time to improve with facilities and population and the area could be completely different in 10 years time...it may suit you more or it may be the opposite of what you were expecting..by holding the land and building a few years down the line you'd have time to view the areas progress

thai construction isn't the best and many homes that were built 10 years ago look quite ragged now,possibly due to materials used and the climate

i think by delaying the build until closer to a time when the house would be occupied more regulalry then you'd have more value for money and possibly a better quality build in a few years time(building trade improvements) lol & if you have anymore children you may find that you actually needed an extra bedroom or 2 lol

good luck with whatvever you decide

lol missed your post there jingting

shame about the burrito i only ever tried his ribs and they were lovely but i'm from the uk..they were tasty though and the meat would just fall of the bone

..but he wasn't cheap so i can understand not rushing back if you've had a bad experience

i just had a look on bob's website, i don't know if it's still current but it's advertising daily specials at 199 baht

if the big man's still making good food then that's gotta be worth a visit

jingting

have you tried bob's bbq?

i haven't been over in ages but he used to do some lovely ribs and seemed to offer a lot of american food

he wasn't the cheapest but was good for a wee treat...don't know if he's still there or not? lol i think he was in the guiness book of records for the biggest burger or something like that

You can't found a state based on cowardice. Shooting an unarmed monk is about as cowardly as it gets.

I'm not necessarily in favour of an independant state, but how can you blame a people on the acts of an individual?

that's the arguement the terrorists use

i'n not suggesting you're a terrorist but it's an arguement used by them to continue their terror attacks

it must be ccepted that the famillies of the terrorists are in the know & choose to turn a blind eye as it's their relatives..i also believe this extends to their friends, they play innocent afterwards but they have to be aware of what's going on & what type of people they are friends with

i say ban it as a religeon & any terrorists should be subjected to the old thai law where they & 7 generations of their familly are executed...that would be a deterrent & reduce the numbers getting involved