phuturatica

Proper grumpy man post! 

1 minute ago, Deepinthailand said:

I agree to a point but I would say there is as much chance of getting ripped of by marrying in your home country exept in mine if you divorce if kids are involved you lose the lot warts and all. 

To some degree you're right. I can only speak for the UK as that's my home country but we have a lot of legal stuff in place here to prevent you getting fully screwed over compared to Thailand. 

Also we have a culture here where we don't just expect the men to provide financially and give us everything we want. In fact I absolutely hate that and wouldn't like to be fully dependent on someone like that. I quite like the idea of being even and fair and also it gives me a sense of achievement knowing that I have worked hard for something.

God Damn! I wish I was a pretty Thai girl and could just get my man to build me a house!  I'm clearly doing it wrong! 

I've heard this story thousands of times. I would like to think that the majority build the house, live in it with Thai gf/wife and live happily ever after... However I am sure that there are many who have been screwed over this way. 

Have your wits about you and be careful with your money. In other words, don't do it unless you're sure. If you were sure, you wouldn't be asking on a public forum. 

On 10/14/2016 at 5:19 PM, rgs2001uk said:

 

 

Wow, a blast from the past, I remember you.

 

I hope you have turned your life around, you were a top poster.

 

Still got your red hair?

 

The border runners are a thing of the past, and contary to popular beliefs held here, Thailand didnt implode when they left.

Ha! I'm glad I'm remembered! I'm still rocking the red/ginger hair! Glad you also thought I was a top poster! :D I should probably come on here more often but I'm super busy working and paying off a mortgage in the UK. Not sure about turning my life around?! But yeah I had to come back to the UK as my kidney failed and I needed to start immediate dialysis. Had a transplant in 2014 and now I'm trying to be a normal adult and get my life back on track etc. Still miss Thailand immensely! It will always be a place close to my heart! 

Hope you're well! 

I know people who have got into exporting goods out of Thailand and selling them on which has supported them financially. Things are much cheaper in Thailand which sell for a lot more in England. Or team up with a Thai person and open a business of some sort. However, have your wits about you and don't be another statistic of those who have lost everything after handing their money over to a Thai wife and their so called 'brother' or whatever - Happens far too often!

The laws have changed since I lived in Thailand I think - Are border runs not allowed now? 

Just curious, OP, would you have been able to get a kidney transplant inside Thailand, as opposed to returning to the UK?

Did you even explore the prospects for that?

I didn't explore the options in Thailand as it was actually a bit of a surprise when the Doctor (In the UK) told me.

I went home to the UK for a wedding and to visit family etc and I felt like my jetlag was worse than usual and that I struggled to even get out of bed. I had a blood test and suddenly was told my kidney function was <10% and I had a murmur on my heart as the potassium levels in my blood were so sky high that I was at risk of having a cardiac arrest at any time! It was all a big shock really!

When discussing it all with doctors, they said by rights, I wasn't really fit to travel from BKK to the UK and if I had stayed I might not have made it. Apparently the biggest cause of death from kidney failure is actually a cardiac arrest due to too many toxins and excess fluid in the body, and kidney failure is painless in terms that you don't get any pain in the actual kidneys etc. The cardiac arrest would have just happened spontaneously.

Dialysis is an option in Thailand but is very expensive and it's a long term affair, at least 3 times a week so I'd have been dying and broke.

Also finding a match for a donor in Thailand I imagine is also harder. I'm not sure what the procedure is regarding organ donation. But usually ethnicity comes into play when finding a match.

What's new in Thailand? Any gossip or news I need to catch up on?

With questions like that I don't think you have only been away from Thailand for 2 and a bit years but rather earth.

Congratulations on your recovery.

My question was rather tongue in cheek. I'm very much aware of what's been happening in Thailand via the news etc. I was more or less trying to rouse up the usual bashing brigade and bitter twisted old men. Back when I was active, there was a fair few moaners on here!

I see that hasn't changed all that much.

Phuratica, its great to hear you are back on your feet and able to travel again. Having myself suffered a serious longterm health problem in my 30s I know what a struggle it is to get well again and what a pleasure it is to once again live at least some of your old life.

Enjoy your holiday.

I note from your profile that you are UK based, so I take it that is another big thank you to the NHS and a reminder of the freedom having the NHS and welfare state behind us when we go off on our travels.

Again, great news your are able to enjoy life again.

Yes indeed! God bless the NHS is all I can say! Being ill has made me realise how precious life is so I try to be fit and healthy these days!

Most people probably won't remember me... However I was quite active on here back in 2011-2013.

I had to leave Thailand suddenly when I was told my kidneys had failed and I had to go on dialysis etc so I went back to the UK.

Needless to say 2 and a bit years later... I am dialysis free and I was given a kidney transplant!

It's my first time that I've been given the all clear as fit to travel to a country outside of Europe and I'm hella excited! Thailand, I have missed you and our love/hate relationship!

Unfortunately it's only a 2 week holiday but a holiday nontheless.

What's new Thailand? Any gossip or news I need to catch up on?! Or is it still the same old?

I think it is what you make it really... Some people might find them women over 30+ that you call ugly, attractive... So really it's all based on opinion.

On the science side of things... Asian people's genes are different so maybe they age differently from Europeans?

Also I think working class people are more aged looking than middle/higher class people mainly because they've had a harder life, right?

yes I remember you quite well from the gout threads I researched as I have gout and it flares up once in a while. I remember being surprised seeing you in those threads as your age and gender gout is not normally a problem. sorry for your current condition but hopefully you can get it cleared up.

Yeah, the gout I was getting was caused by my kidney failure! My kidney just couldn't shift the uric acid in my body making gout attacks flare up all the time! Totally nightmare!

I'm very happy to announce that since being on dialysis I have not had any gout attacks which is good! Gout is horrendous and don't wish it on my worse enemy!

If a mannish looking girl ain't floating your boat then why bother even pursuing her/him?

I like the reply "ask her" - I think I'd be quite offended if a guy asked me if I was a tom/ladyboy. She/he might give you a good slap.

Don't travel with any ladies as you'll only end up in the same rut as you were before you decided to leave.

I'm gonna refrain from stating the obvious... But maybe there is some goodness in Thai hookers and bar girls.

But also, I think when you get to the point that you're homeless in Pattaya and sleeping on the floor of a bar... You should really just go home back to your home country.

I really miss La Monita! It's definitely the best! *licks lips*

As someone who has already left Thailand... I think I can answer this one...

Unfortunately I had to leave because my kidney failed and my health deteriorated and I don't think I would rather be anywhere else than home in the UK around my family so they can support me etc.

Thailand is quite a lonely place, even if you have lots of friends around you. You're in a foreign place and you're a foreigner on their grounds, therefore I never quite felt like I fitted in completely.

It's probably much different for other people but that's how it was for me and I missed that feeling of fitting in comfortably and being part of something rather than an outsider.

People are always going to find something to complain about one way or another. It's just human nature I guess.

We complain about things which are different from what we're used to.

I don't think we'll never be fully satisfied.

Ah Tramadol... One of my favourite opiate painkillers - however the feeling you get when you take too much is certainly not very nice.

I used to take Tramadol on a regular basis for my regular kidney infections I was prone too. I accidentally took too much once and I remember the sensation. Very similar to what you described!

Hope you're fully recovered and feeling better.

Invite who you want to your birthday party and forget what others say... Tell your friend that you have already decided on who you want at your birthday and you don't have the money to pay for Mr and Mrs Smith.

If that person who is being pushy still doesn't understand - forget about them and take them off your birthday invite list also. That way you save money and don't have to deal with the hassle.

I don't think this is anything to do with Thai custom and whatnot. I'm pretty sure Thai people sometimes have to make decisions on who they want to see at their birthday.

I'm under the impression that Monks actually have a lot of disposable income due to donations given to Temples and whatnot.

My friends boyfriend went to be a Monk and he came back with more money than he started!

Also, not really money related, but when I did a Buddhist retreat and stayed in a Thai Monastery with the Thai nuns, I was really surprised at how much food gets offered in alms. They literally have a feast of food and there is so much food offered!

They're certainly not hard done by!

I moved to Thailand aged 24 and on my own and I was absolutely fine. You will make friends at your university and most university students can speak basic English so it shouldn't be too much of a problem.

Just make sure you have your wits about you. Don't fall in love with the hot Thai island boys as they'll probably only break your heart.

Just don't do anything stupid and use your common sense. Make sure you read up on Thai customs and manners so you don't offend anyone etc.

What does your contract say about how to do so?

Write a letter and send it registered?

Not sure what the contract says... I think I'm bound to a 12 month contract. The contract is in Thailand and I don't have access to it right now.