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Thanks bro

Then maybe leaving is the best option

I don't want to argue I just want people to show me a little respect I work and make everything happen. If you can't lift a finger to help or say thank you then maybe I just have to separate myself from the situation. Its sad to think people are so ungratul and expect someone else to bend over backwards and give nothing in return. I can always leave and maybe thats what I should do. They need me more than I need them. Your forgetting what if the dad is a total jerk? What then? I don't want to be his friend.

Saying its just Thai culture is used way too much.So I just do whatever they want based on its Thai culture. What about my culture? How about working? As a man you should work as long as your physically able to (unless you have money) if not your just a loser. How can you respect a person that doesn't work and just sits around all day? I wish people would stop defending lazy behavior and saying thats just the way it is.

Thanks for the response!

The grilled cheese ones are ok they heat them up.

Why whenever I go into 711 and get a few sodas they give me too many straws sometimes more staws then I have drinks? I have to always say no straw and no bag in Thai. And when I am getting a sandwich they are always hawking sodas and milk they ask me 3 or 4 times? Do they get a bonus if they sell these items?

I have a 125 FI Honda Wave how do I make it quicker to carry my heavy butt around town? Sprocket maybe?

Has anyone else ordered items on Ebay and had them sent to Thailand? If so were there any problems or extra fees? Thanks!

Well that's overall good advice

I have had this explained to me in the past that if you get married in Thailand you are the lowest ranking in the family hierarchy. If there is a dispute within the family you will always be voted against by your spouse to whatever blood relative deems correct. Is this true? If so why would anyone get married especially if they are the ones feeding, clothing and supporting everyone else? Comments welcome Thanks

So I am in a shuttle van going from Pattaya to Bangkok and I paid for my ticket. During the course of my trip the taxi driver is constantly honking his horn slamming on his brakes and picking up new hitch-hikers we must have crammed 20 people in that van. If that wasn't bad enough the driver was weaving in and out of lanes totally recklessly. I can deal with a lot of things but the driving was bad even for Thailand norms. From now on I take private Taxis (who cares if it costs more) lesson learned.Has anyone else had a experience like this?

Enough people on this forum I think we got it handled.

Its hard when others don't carry there weight

That's a good idea I have told the wife her money pays for that rental house if I am not living there I am not paying for it.

Yes

Hi there,

Recently I had a problem with my AC unit needing to get some service. My wife had called a repairman to come and fix the unit. They said they would be there at 1 pm at 5pm approx they showed up after numerous unanswered calls by myself. Two men showed up one about 18 years old and the other probably in his 50's. I showed them where the AC unit was and the 18 year old started to take the unit apart like he should. The older Thai gentleman asked me if I had some water because he was thirsty (not my job to supply water for you but ok no problem here you go.) He then lights up a cigarette up in my apartment like it is no big deal. I told him to please smoke outside because I don't smoke and would appreciate it. So he takes his time and walks outside. Soon after the 18 year old working on the AC unit needed some help so the older gentleman walks over to him to assist with the cigarette lit in his hand still. I had to ask him again to please stand outside and don't smoke in my house. The AC job which should have taken a hour at tops was pushing on 2 hours because after the unit was taken apart they couldn't figure out how to hook it back up. The whole time they are making a complete mess with water spilling all over my floor. So my question is if you don't yell at someone what is the best option to handle this situation in Thailand? Thanks.

Thats a good idea I have basically done that with myself moving out my apartment is better then the house so I would rather stay there. But I just struggle with the concept that someone can do nothing and expect everything.

The house is a rental that we were both paying for (My wife works too) I didn't purchase the house in her name so its not like its the families. So its ok to be a total loser and do nothing for the rest of your life because your old. Screw that.

Hi there,

I would like to talk a little bit about my experiences dealing with my Thai father in law. First off I am a American I have lived in Thailand for over 4 years. I orginally lived with my wife and her son until her father came to live with us. My life before living with the father inlaw was good I was the man of the house and things were great. The father inlaw came to live with us about a year ago because other members of the family had passed away and there wasn't any other place for him to stay. My wife insisted that we take him in. (Fine I'll deal with it) So a few days go by a week goes by a month goes by this guy never does anything all he does is sit around and take up space. He eats my food drinks my beer never says thank you and makes a mess. I have talked to my wife about this but she is unwilling to confront him about his behavior and just says this is the way he is. My biggest issue is that I understand this is Thailand and it is hard to make a lot of money like us Farangs but not working or trying at all is unacceptable this man is in his early 60's and doesn't do anything. I have suggested the idea that he could work a few times and it is always shrugged of as "my dad is too old no job for him" So what does that mean you can just consume all you want and give back nothing and be a jerk. It reached a point where his laziness anoyed me to the point that I called him out on his behavior telling him why can't you help out with some daily chores or do anything. (I can speak Thai fairly well) He just looked at me with his usual dumb blank stare. I have since had enough because the wife will not side with me and I can't stand this guy I now have my own apartment about 15 minute drive from her house. I still am with my wife but feel like I have been kicked out of my own house. Any constructive advice for this situation would be appreciated. Thanks!