flyingsaucersarereal

So any more news on this matter. Did you find out?

According to a friend she left the temple a few days ago and went up country to where her family is from. She has not called or messaged me.

Hi there guys (deep breath) I got another one for ya.

So my wife said she wanted some time to think about our relationship because we have been having some problems.

She said that she is going to spend some time at a Buddhist temple in Bangkok for a few weeks. I was ok with that whatever makes you happy.

It has now been 2 months and counting. I checked with her family and she has not been back to look after her son or take care of anything.

I find this to be extremely strange not knocking anyone's beliefs but what about your family? What about your son?

I find this to be a kind of escapism because she doesn't want to deal with her problems.

I can't imagine this can be part of any kind of healthy relationship. What husband would be okay with this?

Anyway there could be much more going on here.

She could be cheating on me but I don't get the idea that money is coming from somewhere else since her son and family are scraping by.

I would be willing to help my wife but I would like some respect in return she needs to stay with me not abandon me for months on end.

Hi guys I am considering the Thai elite visa considering my marriage is very rocky and I might have to get a divorce soon. (500,000 baht is a lot cheaper than having a bad wife.)

What would be the process in switching from a marriage extension to a Thai elite visa?

Would I have to leave the country if I am currently in Thailand?

Also how can I pay for the visa can I just transfer from my Thai bank account?

It would be nice to not have to leave the country to do all this.

Thanks for the help.

No water again

Water just came back on.

Hi there,

No tap water at my house for 2 days. Map Yai Lia 43 does anyone know why?

Thanks

I am not a school teacher and make more than 100k baht per month.

I pay for my wife's clothing shop that she rents monthly 10k baht.

I give her a extra 15k baht a month allowance.

She has 1 house her family lives in I pay for that 7k baht per month.

I have my own house that we live in together 8k baht per month.

I also pay for most of the daily expenses.

I bought her gold when we married and gave her 150k baht.

But since she isn't speaking to me the money train has come to a halt.

So I am not a poor farang

Are you a school teacher?

All Thai women think farang's have money hidden somewhere, family, etc.

She probably figured out you don't have anything, cannot buy her a house, car, etc.

She is probably lost all her "face" with her family and friends marrying a farang who has nothing.

Do you really think a Thai woman wants to marry a farang and live in a rented the room the rest of her life with no land, gold, house, car? Really? You yourself need to do a reality check.

Can you blame her?

Thai's can live deadbeat lives on their own.

They are looking for something better they cannot get for themselves.

Trying to rationalize with a Thai woman will never work. It is not love. Thai's don't love, they love money and material things.

If you give a good Thai women the best of everything, sure she will love you. But if you are a broke deadbeat school teacher and she sees no financial future with you, well I do not blame her one bit.

You need to wake up. You think because you are 30 year old Handsum man she will love your forever? Enough love to be poor forever?

You really need to wise up then as you have no understanding of Thai women.

Thai women can marry deadbeat Thai men that have nothing same as you. They speak the same language, eat the same food, have the same culture, live the same with the same expectations of nothing.

Farangs on the other hand, are there to give the ladies something they cannot get from poor thai man.

What are you doing in Thailand at 30 years old? Was your life already a failure in your own country and you thought someone would love you forever just because you are a farang?

You need to understand one fact. No one, especially at your age, wants to have NOTHING. Let alone NO DREAMS.

This is exactly what your wife has.

If you loved her, why didn't you take her back to your country and get a real job and provide a real life for her?

The fact is mate, this is all on you and your misconception that Thai women love poor foreigners. How misguided can you get?

She has no hope now and no dreams because you cannot provide for her.

No amount of talking in the world will save that.

The same thing will happen when the next Thai woman finds out you have nothing and not earning power.

Go home and get an education and have a real life of your own

The kind of love you are dreaming about left town years and years and years ago.

Show me the money!

Jeez, where did the rest of that post come from "bwpage3".......I only saw and responded to the first 8 lines which seemed to be a complete post. Then I see the rest of it which gives it a different perspective entirely!!!!!

Not only that, it makes a whole host of assumptions which turn out to be incorrect according to the OP and furthermore makes you look like a complete a/hole.

Give the guy a break and believe what he says and if that is the case then money doesn't appear to be the problem unless she was expecting millions of baht and a new house, but then she would have known his financial status already and whether he was good for it.........something else is in play here I suspect.

Xylophone really? Before you rail on anyone read between the lines.

You really think the OP is loaded and his wife is just going to walk away from all that money?

He has his own house that they live in for 8,000 a month (Isn't that a give away how he lives when his rent is cheaper than his wife's shop rent?

8,000 a month means it is not their house, he is renting.

He rents a house for the in-laws, did not buy a house or land for the family (Loss of face)

So no house of her own. No mention of a car of their own. No house or land for her parents.

Income maybe, but no way to verify.

At the end of the day, she OWNS nothing, it is all rented.

The 15k a month is not to her expectations, whereas a house and land to "save face" probably were

The OP knows exactly this is the reason.

When you marry a Thai, you marry the whole family and your 7,000 rent donation to the family makes you look like cheap charlie

No face for them! More important than pocket cash. Thai 101

I have cut off the money 100% we will see how long they last. If I am so bad lets see how they manage without me.

Before I paid for the parents monthly rent and her shops rent and gave her 15k baht a month if that's not enough so be it then have nothing.

Ungrateful mak mak I don't care about there "face" I give as much as I can sorry I am such a disappointment my wife.

I am not a school teacher and make more than 100k baht per month.

I pay for my wife's clothing shop that she rents monthly 10k baht.

I give her a extra 15k baht a month allowance.

She has 1 house her family lives in I pay for that 7k baht per month.

I have my own house that we live in together 8k baht per month.

I also pay for most of the daily expenses.

I bought her gold when we married and gave her 150k baht.

But since she isn't speaking to me the money train has come to a halt.

So I am not a poor farang

Are you a school teacher?

All Thai women think farang's have money hidden somewhere, family, etc.

She probably figured out you don't have anything, cannot buy her a house, car, etc.

She is probably lost all her "face" with her family and friends marrying a farang who has nothing.

Do you really think a Thai woman wants to marry a farang and live in a rented the room the rest of her life with no land, gold, house, car? Really? You yourself need to do a reality check.

Can you blame her?

Thai's can live deadbeat lives on their own.

They are looking for something better they cannot get for themselves.

Trying to rationalize with a Thai woman will never work. It is not love. Thai's don't love, they love money and material things.

If you give a good Thai women the best of everything, sure she will love you. But if you are a broke deadbeat school teacher and she sees no financial future with you, well I do not blame her one bit.

You need to wake up. You think because you are 30 year old Handsum man she will love your forever? Enough love to be poor forever?

You really need to wise up then as you have no understanding of Thai women.

Thai women can marry deadbeat Thai men that have nothing same as you. They speak the same language, eat the same food, have the same culture, live the same with the same expectations of nothing.

Farangs on the other hand, are there to give the ladies something they cannot get from poor thai man.

What are you doing in Thailand at 30 years old? Was your life already a failure in your own country and you thought someone would love you forever just because you are a farang?

You need to understand one fact. No one, especially at your age, wants to have NOTHING. Let alone NO DREAMS.

This is exactly what your wife has.

If you loved her, why didn't you take her back to your country and get a real job and provide a real life for her?

The fact is mate, this is all on you and your misconception that Thai women love poor foreigners. How misguided can you get?

She has no hope now and no dreams because you cannot provide for her.

No amount of talking in the world will save that.

The same thing will happen when the next Thai woman finds out you have nothing and not earning power.

Go home and get an education and have a real life of your own

The kind of love you are dreaming about left town years and years and years ago.

Show me the money!

Quote: “Cant you just ask her straight what the problem is, can we fix it?"

Quote: “What's needed in situations like this is a common friend who can talk with her and find out what's on her mind and then speak with you about it then get back to her”.

Quote: “The thing with a lot of Thai women is the fact that they don't like conflict and I mean conflict by way of discussion as in a pro active approach to discussing any problems they may be hiding, whether that be pressure from extended family or other issues they may have its always a real chore to get to the heart of the issue”.

Reading this thread and some of the quotes above have certainly bought back some memories for me in regards to my relationship with a lovely Thai lady (with whom I am still in contact and support financially).

We lived together full-time for about three years, perhaps a little more, and there would be occasional silences to which I wouldn't pay much attention because I thought she couldn't be unhappy as I had bought a house for us, supported her sick mother (yes she really was sick as I travelled up to see her however unfortunately she later died), bought her her own motorbike and there was nothing she wanted for and even if she did, she only had to ask. In addition we had a romantic relationship and I was always trying to ensure that I didn't encroach upon her "space", indeed she had her young daughter come to live with us and we were to all intents and purposes a happy family, with me often finding little notes around the place saying that she loved her "new family".

Most of the time she was very happy and then the silences started, some for just a few days, and others for a week, and then finally one for two weeks. It would be an understatement if I said that these silences annoyed me immensely, probably better to say that they infuriated me, and as often as not I would try to get to the bottom of what the problem was but there would be no answer, so after a while I stopped trying to find out what the problem was.

However on the penultimate occasion when I had been subjected to a week's silence, I told her that the next time it happened, she would be gone.........I would leave her and sell the house and everything would be over. Sure enough some months down the track, I got the two weeks of silent treatment and during this time she had gone up north to her village because of a death and the need to celebrate the 100 day "thing".

I tried phoning and leaving messages to make sure she was okay, but to no avail, so when she returned home I told her that I had put the house on the market, had a buyer for it and that it was all over between us. Not only was I devastated because it was a painful experience, but she was as well, sobbing uncontrollably for days on end and making me feel like I was the bad guy, however I had decided to see this through and I did.

My point is that no matter how hard I tried to get to the bottom of the problem; no matter how many times I explained to her that it infuriated me; no matter how many times I explained to her that I couldn't live like this and that everything would be over if it continued, she still did it.

I asked a few friends for advice as to what to do and strangely enough they all said that this "silent treatment" was something that they had all experienced with their Thai girlfriends and wives and it seemed to be fairly endemic and there was nothing they could do to solve the problem.

I came to the conclusion it was just part of many Thai ladies mental make up, however I didn't want to live like this, not knowing what was going on and being subjected to long silences which I didn't understand and which she wouldn't/couldn't explain to me, so as I said, I finished it.

Is there a happy ending to this? (and I don't mean the sort obtained in a massage parlour)..............Well I gave her a lump sum of money because I still cared for her and her daughter and I helped her buy a laundry business and set it up to be very profitable. I also helped to sell it when she became disenchanted with it although it was making good money.

She now lives with her daughter a few kilometres away and I provide them with a monthly amount to live on and also pay for her daughter's school fees etc and I am in constant contact via telephone and arrange to meet up with them a few times a month to take them to lunch and go on shopping expeditions, which I enjoy.

I don't think she is entirely happy with the current situation, however I am happy with mine, inasmuch as I am a free single man, living in rented accommodation, without any ties to this country and I don't have any situations where "emotional blackmail" is used against me.

I am so happy that I went ahead with the separation because there were times when I thought about backing out, however I am happy being single man now, but I suppose what amazes me the most is that despite the fact that she knew what would happen if the silences continued, she still did it, and I am reminded of the old saying about the scorpion and the frog, whereby the scorpion hitches a ride on the back of the frog to get across the river, but the frog is reluctant and is afraid that the scorpion will sting it and kill it, but the scorpion reassures the frog that this would be a stupid idea because they would both die. Then halfway across the river the scorpion stings the frog and just as the frog is dying it turns to the scorpion and asks why he did such a stupid thing, and the scorpion replies, "I can't help it, it's in my nature"............... same same with some Thai women I think.

Nice comment thanks!

For clarification I have no large assets for her to take like a house or car. I didn't mean I have nothing like I am homeless come on guys.

Ok guys so here is the back story I got married in April of this year 2015. I am 30 years old and my wife is 31. My wife seems to be always unhappy with me. We live in Thailand.

After our last argument she says that she needs some time alone and is probably wanting a divorce. The cause of the argument was me trying to find out the reason why she is always in a bad mood and her always sulking and feeling sorry for herself.

Obviously if we can't work things out I will get a divorce but not after we are absolutely sure that we have tried everything to fix our problems.

I think the best approach is to ignore her and go on with my life like it doesn't bother me and wait to see if she comes back. I think smothering her with attention and calls would just make everything worse. I also don't think I should be giving her money at this time if she isn't going to live with me we have no children.

I rent my house and have nothing I am worried she will take from me in a divorce if things go south.

Appreciate any suggestions thanks.

flyingsaucersarereal, what has happened since your original post ?

is the divorce still going to happen ? did you find out why ?

thanks.

Hi there for a brief time since my post over 1 month ago my wife came back and we were working on our problems. But she is back at it again and won't speak with me and is staying with her family I have now not spoken to her for a few weeks.

So I am curious how these Pattaya suit sellers are able to stay in Thailand long term and work?

I see a lot of these suit selling businesses in Pattaya and I don't see Thai people working in them. How are these foreigners able to work these businesses? What kind of visa would they have? Don't you have to employ a certain number of Thai people to get a business visa? Also as a foreigner I thought you have to work a job a Thai person can't do.

So if my wife wants to divorce me how would she go about it? Would she need a lot of money for a lawyer?

Also I have been a good husband so I don't see that she has any strong grounds to divorce me.

She threatens to divorce me I just want to know if this is a hollow threat or if it is rather easy.

I am the only one that has access to the bank accounts so she would not have a lot of money to spend.

We live in Thailand

Thanks

Ok so I recently got married to a Thai woman and am wondering the best way of filing my American taxes from Thailand.

I read that because she doesn't have a itin number or a SSN I am not able to efile.

So what is the best option for this? Do I just mail everything in? If so what mail service would I use and how safe is that?

Also is there anyway to get around this and file online?

Thanks

Just happened again coming out of 7 eleven 3 bikes boxed me in. I told one lady excuse me can you move your bike (in Thai) just so I could get out. Gave me a put off look like I was asking for the world.

Ok so the other day I'm at the gym and I park my motorcycle.

When I come back there are like 5 motorcycles parked right behind me.

There is no way that I can drive around them so I am totally trapped. I had to move everyones bike out of the way before I could get out.

I wish people would think of others and not park right behind them. This drives me nuts.

Thanks.

I wish people would simply answer the question and not be so negative

If you are married, you should know a little bit about Thailand and women and shouldn't need to come on this forum to ask this sort of question. Hence the negativity.

Love your Youtube channel Scott.

I read this post online and was just wondering if there was any truth to it. The person posting is saying as a man it is much easier to get a divorce then it is for the woman to get the divorce from the man.

http://www.bangkokpost.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=27&t=303

I wish people would simply answer the question and not be so negative

Off-course she can.

We are not in the middle ages anymore.

The reason I say that is that I read a strange law that said a man can divorce a woman in 2 days but a women would have to wait 2 years.

Can my Thai wife divorce me if I have been good to her and done nothing wrong?

If I support her, never cheat, and she has no good reason can she legally divorce me?

We live in Thailand

Thanks

Both are legally married

Between two Thai parents who has a bigger change for custody of the children.

The father or the mother?

The father works and the mother doesn't currently have a job.

The children go to school near the mother and the father lives in another city.

Also if the father works for the police will that make it next to impossible for the mother to win?

Thanks

Not throwing water during Songkran would save a lot of water.